If your husband cheated on you emotionally with your best friend of 15 years would forgive either of them?

Snowwhite	No, your relationship, your marriage is over, unfortunately, because you will never be at peace as you will never trust him again... You need to realize that unfortunately, when there is no trust, there is no marriage.... Therefore, I would tell him that you want a divorce and start making arrangements to depart...

?	Well, with not knowing the details, I really am not sure. Eventually you need to forgive them to get on with your life. Its not healthy to hold onto that kind of hurt or anger. As far as your relationship with the two that hurt you, that is tough. First, your best friend isn't really that is she? A best friend would never do that to you. Mine wouldn't. Your husband, boy, your newlyweds and he's done something emotional like this? I would maybe seek counselling if you think you can work it out with him. Only you know how you feel and if you want your marriage to work. I would lose the "friend" though. She's definately not "best friend" material. All I can say is its your decision. We can't tell you what is right for you. No one needs to judge your decision either. I hope I've helped you alittle. Good luck. You are in my prayers.

~KLARRISSA MOM~	lol u are so dumb if u think that all that going on dumb his *** he not worth it trust me

mrs.c	i'd keep the spouse and dump the "friend" they probably had your "beau's" before "emotionally cheating" on you , your spouse is probably the 1st to tell you, becuz of true remorse,,,GET RID OF THE FRIEND!!!you both will make new friends together

Uncle Groovy	Why does denied mean they are lying? The fact is, once this imbeds itself in your mind there is no changing it. The rest now is up to you. I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.

trouble	move on thats just not right at all

ernie_fergler	You have to explain this emotional cheating angle.

Doc	Cheating on you emotionally? They both deny it, so how do you know? And what does cheating on you emotionally mean to you? Is it cheating on you emotionally if he just likes to talk to your friend? It might be inappropriate if he tells her that he loves her, but if he has been doing this for four years and nothing physical has come of it, it doesn't sound serious. Certainly not to the point of not forgiving them. Are you so insecure that you must have 100% of the attention of your husband? He can't look at another woman or talk to another person? He can have no friends but you? I'd say, give him a little space. They both deny everything, which sounds like you could be making something out of nothing. Nevertheless, your husband should cleave unto you and forsake all others. If that is the problem he needs to cut the ties with your best friend. And of course you should forgive them both.

swhm	Cheating is cheating. I wouldn't believe them if they said it didn't carry over into physical as well !! If I were you , I would end it right now by leaving both the relationships and letting them have one another. You deserve better than that. To think that they would do this while you were deployed adds insult to injury !! Good Luck and God Bless

star07422	I would file for divorce and get on with my life. If he cheated on you for this long a period of time, he will just continue with someone else. I know from experience how emotionally upsetting this to you. But you need to find yourself, and take care of "YOU". Cheating is emotional abuse. I am not sure how the rest of relationship has been. But I will never let this happend to me again! You need to think "I am better than him" and be strong.

goldwing	Don't be so quick to throw everything away. This stuff happens when the cat is away, and no one intends for it to happen. IF nothing physical has gone down, then nothing has gone down, period. Lonely people do stupid things, simple as that. It is very easy for us here to say, DIVORCE...but it is not an easy thing to do...I would NOT jump to do anything until I had all the info, all the facts, and all the input from your husband...like I said, lonely people do stupid things. It is sooooo common for a woman's husband and her best friend to become involved when the woman isn't around...to your husband, she is the substitute for you! Slow down, get it all straight, and see if it won't work out somehow....there is a lot of leeway here. Good luck

Heather	Oh heck naw!! Id lose both of them. thats trifling

browneyes27	first of all you can't call her your best friend a best friend would never do that. never. no respect from your husband or so called friend. this is a hard one if have to decide if they are truely were sorry. but if they denied it then they aren't sorry are they. dump him. you will be fine.you don't deserve that.

life_is_2_short_2_waste	Looking if someone is cheating on someone, the person who is getting cheated on doesn't need to be cheat on. If I was you I would tell them to get F**K. You don't need that kind of crap from anyone. Get out and move on.

vanshusband	what do you mean he did it emotionally ? if its not physical whats the problem... deployed means you weren,t there correct....companionship can be very important to some people...

fazzy0323	no way i wont forgive them..

stefanie	I would leave.

missy isa	i dont think i could forget. or forgive.

Belen	In this case, the right thing to do is to file for divorce. He obviously has no more respect for you, so why try to stay married to him? Close this chapter of your life and start a new one. You deserve somebody who will not only love you but also trust and respect you.

rachel	Nope, they no longer exist.

Jonathan I	dump them both

BRAINMASTER_ROHIT	It would be very hard to since it's been happening for so long. This is obviously not a casual affair and it probably won't end soon. Since you were only married in 2002 I would have to opine that your husband and your best friend (sic) are not very nice people at all, and probably shouldn't be forgiven. Actually, the words I would use to describe them are a lot stronger.

volcmstar	How did he cheat emotionally (if you dont mind me asking)?

floresgabbie@sbcglobal.net	Emotions are not always what they think are, but the main thing is what you feel inside your heart, it the trust still there, I have been married for 16 years, but my emotion and my thoughts something cheat but I don't cheat on him. Do you still have contact with your friend, because friends come and go but your husband is only a time thing, if there is love, so see and feel your heart and the main thing is forgive.

bonbon b	i don't know what emotional means in cheating. but forgiveness is not just a word. to forgive someone for hurting you takes time and lots of effort from that person. because he betrayed your trust it won't be easy for you to trust him again even if you think you can he has to regret what he has done to you and feel how much he hurt you.And this best friend of yours get her out of your life keep her away. if i were you i wouldn't forgive either of them.

Issam G	i agree doc. Cheating on you emotionally? They both deny it, so how do you know? And what does cheating on you emotionally mean to you? Is it cheating on you emotionally if he just likes to talk to your friend? It might be inappropriate if he tells her that he loves her, but if he has been doing this for four years and nothing physical has come of it, it doesn't sound serious. Certainly not to the point of not forgiving them. Are you so insecure that you must have 100% of the attention of your husband? He can't look at another woman or talk to another person? He can have no friends but you? I'd say, give him a little space. They both deny everything, which sounds like you could be making something out of nothing. Nevertheless, your husband should cleave unto you and forsake all others. If that is the problem he needs to cut the ties with your best friend. And of course you should forgive them both

Christina	I would take a long look at both relationships and try to decide if there is anything left to save. If your marriage was strong, what was he looking to get from his relationship with her? If she were truly your friend, then how could she allow this to happen. If you can get past this and fix the issues in your relationships then do so, but if you can't get past it and truly be able to put it behind you, you should leave both relationships in the past and move on.

rakeshscdc	treat this as their utmost need & help them --- for "a friend in need is a friend indeed" ..