If your husband tells your not his soul mate, should you pack your bags and leave?

berry	Not before you get half his property/assets.

Eva Daniel Rn	shouldnt you try to talk it out first???

roy_master12	being a "soulmate" doesn't count as long as you love him/her.

cisco_cantu	Why just becasue you aren't soulmates doesn't mean you can't love each other

rich2481	no, there are no soul mates,, do you have fun together,, I loved both my wives, but they were not my soul mates,

RepoMan18	Why do people obsess over the latest craze? So he's not your soul mate. Big deal. Does he love you? Does he treat you well? Does he have a job and take care of the bills? At least the ones he's responsible for? Is he a good father? (If you have kids.) Put things into perspective. Does he come home drunk every night? Do strange women call for him all the time? Does he beat you? Those are reasons to leave a man. Just because he doesn't answer a question the way the Redbook survey says he should isn't a reason to kick a perfectly good man to the curb. I'm sure he has some redeeming qualities. After all, you did marry him.

?	hit him in the head with your bag...thats just mean...even if he felt this way he should not voice it.

oscarschic	Then why did he marry you in the first place? Kind of late for him to have second thoughts, don't you think? Has he been acting strangely lately? Has he made other similar statements, become more critical of you, or has had diminished interest in intimacy? My suspicions would be that he has thoughts of someone else, whom he 'believes' may be his soul-mate. Or, is he pining over an old flame that he couldn't be with - and is trying to make you feel like second-best? Counseling may help root out the cause of his feelings, if he is willing. If he has no interest, then that should tell you that your marriage is likely headed for splitsville.

NimbleNimrod	Wow...That is blatant unappreciation if I ever saw, that man does not deserve you and you do not deserve to be treated this way. If he in full 'calm conscience' (In the absence of anger or under the influence of drugs/alcohol) said something so terrible (even then it is not justified and you need to do some serious talking), then yes you should just pack your bags and leave. Does he love you? If he does love you and does not believe in Soul Mates then that is something different altogether. On the other hand if he does believe in soul mates and you're just not the one, i.e.: he is looking for one, then you should leave if he is not commited to you. Make sure you've got the full scope. Do you have kids?

lisababyg â™¥	MAYBE YOU SHOULD HAVE A HEART TO HEART OR TRY COUNSELING OR IF YOU FEEL THAT ISN'T GOING TO SOLVE ANYTHING JUST PACK YOUR BAGS AND SAY GUESS WHAT BUDDY YOUR NOT MINE EITHER CATCH YA ON THE FLIP SIDE _____________! YOU CAN FILL IN THE BLANK!

Red	Ask him why ..things change in a relationship...

ElOsoBravo	That sounds like an impulsive reaction. I think that you have a lot to talk about first. Review your entire relationship. Unless there's a lot more going on than you have mentioned, this seems drastic. See if you can work it out or, if he is agreeable, seek counseling. How many people in this world do you think can honestly say that they have found their utter soul mate?

Tigra	Don't believe in soul mates, per say. But, was he angry when he said this? That comment came from somewhere. I would push the issue a little further before making a final decision to leave.

nv	Yes you should. Maybe he'll discover that once you're one - you were he best for him. remember some people don't know what they have until they lose it. Before you hurt each other too much. Take a step back, put distance between you- think - and then decide.

goliathntime	Yep!

kingfo_2000	better be

karen i	NO, this sounds like words in anger. Let him cool down and then ask what is a soul mate?

bic	there is no such thing as a soul mate. get over it. does he give you a reason to doubt him? if not you'll be fine. or are you just looking for an out?

JC	Id sure ask him why he married me in the first place. Thats an awful thing to say....

Natalieeee!	* He's either trying to hurt you, which is just plain mean, or he's trying to break up with you for another woman. *

luisa r	should soulmate always has to be a husband or wife? I think it can be a bestfriend or onther form of relationship not just couple sharing the same bed.Ask him how he define soulmate..stay cool...smile.

jolie minouche	it's not always that easy to pack your bag in leave specially if you in love but I'll be definitely hurt if my husband had told me that.but maybe you can try on making your relationship better but sorry I'm not trying to be mean if you not you not simple is that

amerisegennivie	no mine just tells me theres no such thing. don't worry about it

misteri	I would not leave based on this alone; I would go on how the rest of the relationship is going. If it is not satisfying to you, by all means go. If you have kids, rethink everything because they should come first, not the happiness of your marriage. Everything has to go together some way, but please think of the kids.

Amy	OUCH!!! thats cold of him to say. I would definently want to know what ever posessed him to ask me to marry him in the first place and further more marry me. Me personally after i asked him those questions would I leave..oh yes..and as i was walking out the door i would let him know i would not stand in the way of him finding his soul mate.

S K	Is he looking for a soulmate? If so, then leave.

vanhammer	It depends on if there is anything in the relationship to salvage. Ask him to explain what he meant by that. Men don't always have a way with words, you know.If you love your husband try to get counseling together before you throw in the towel.

C live	yes

EMMA	Only if i feel the same 4 him

dark angel	u have to sk him first why he think that?and thatn yes u can pack youre bags cause if he doesn't feel u like youre hes soul mate than i think he doesn't love u enough,or he found somebody else