Im married now and i dont have any intimate relationship with my husband.?

jay k	Sounds like you both need to communicate more. Seek marriage counseling. Never marry someone you need or think will "change" If you don't love him/her for who they are then you have no business getting married in the first place. If you want to make it work communicate to him. Try by telling you how you feel about him, he'll likely reciprocate, if he doesn't lose him, if he does, tell him how much you appreciate what he said. If you make a big deal about it, he'll be more likely to bring about more in the future. It's a two-way streak, women need/do communicate more and need more, on the other hand guys will not talk if everything is good, after all why fix something that isn't broken, if they like status quo they'll try to keep it there.

Dani	If you didn't love him before you were married why did you marry? Decide what it is you want. If you love him and want to make things work, talk to him. Ask him how he feels about you. tell him you love him and you want to be closer. Maybe you should kiss him . If you don't love him and you feel you have made a mistake get it annulled . But if you want to make it work go to Victoria's Secret, buy a cute set and surprise him .

hailfeal	marrige councelling seems appropriate. open and honest comunication is key. take the first step. next time he comes home wrap your arms around him and kiss him. if he pushes you away tell him how you feel. if he hugs you back, go with it. your married, you shouldn't be afraid to love your husband. i feel like you and your husband are being shy towards eachother and as strange as it is, it can happen. make an effort, give it some time, if nothing changes its over.

kestrelk8	marriage is about working at staying together. at no point in a marriage is it ever just going to be easy to stay together. both of you have to recognise this and talk it out, work on it. if you can't come to an understanding on this or one of you is unwilling to even try, than your marriage was a mistake and i suggest you get out now before anything gets more complicated. you really need to sit him down and explain all this and see how he reacts. if you are having trouble doing that yourself, suggest counciling. its always best to have an outsiders opinion on the situation and since you would be seeing a professional, they'd be able to suggest much more plausible solutions for you than a forum like this.

play	thought you developed love b/4 marriage,, and if hes not getting it from u,, then who is he getting from? I'd end it.....move on b/c your heading towards a affair to full fill ya needs sister..

InMyOpinion	well first you need to decide if and WHY you want this marriage to work. If the answer is yes, then you need to communicate with him and seek counseling. If the answer is no, then get a financial plan together and seek support from friends and family, or even community resources, and leave.

open mind	tell him your pure real feelings to him be honest than gave hime one month to change, if he dont change after in and after that month , ,, than devorce and find a real mate it is too simple try it

nk2000	is he a gay or in love with some body else just check out

.	develop love?? why would you marry someone if you don't love them???

Shibi	What is it that you want? To be married? To have a closer relationship with your husband? This type of relationship takes work -- it's not an instant bed-mate or best-friend. You have to work at it. Often, that work is best begun with communicating. Maybe even before this is the issue of what you want -- address that and honor it.

Gone by by	If you have written the truth...your 'relationship' doesn't exist. Sounds like an arranged marriage to me, and it is doomed to fail (actually it already has). If you can do so, try for counseling at least, then head for divorce court. Love must include physical attraction as well as emotional attraction, you don't have that.

zajucomom	Why did you guys get married if you didn't love each other?

Traqqer	Try to see if your husband is willing to go seek counseling. If that doesn't work, it's best to let him go. It'll be best in the long run for both of you.

smley1967	Just get a divorce and move on with half of his money.

wrldzgr8stdad	it was a bad idea to marry him in the first place if you didn't have strong feelings for him in the beginning. it sounds to me like he only decided to marry to make his life easier, and perhaps to have a trophy wife. these kinds of marriages can only lead to disaster. emotionally, physically, mentally, or all of the above. your best option would be to leave him before you get too terribly tied down by him.

tearsofthemoon00	Couples counseling.

foxy	gotta talk to him and tell him how your feeling and if he does not get off his backside and start working at it then leave and find a guy who will make you happy

rorya	Are you attracted to him? Would it help if he did something different (bathe, trim nose hair, etc.) Is he attracted to you physically? emotionally? Do you both try to develop an emotional intimacy? Do you feel trapped due to yoiur religious views in a meaningless relationship? Is he worth the effort to grow the relationship? Does he want to feel closer to you too?

sayed_tina	Did you ever ask him the reason for his abnormal behaviour? Look before doing anything else you need to talk to him and find out what he wants.

hillabee_is_me	If you don't love him or have an intimate relationship with him then unfortunately you shouldn't have married him. You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. Tell him you think that you need to be more intimate and you need to know how he feels because you don't feel like the marriage is working out.

silverearth1	that would be a good idea to talk this over with your husband and ask him what he expects out of this marriage and where he sees you two going ! Otherwise get out

gilgamesh	No, of course not! If there was no love before, there definitely won't be marrying the dude. You do not marry somebody thinking they will love you. You need to divorce him and find somebody worth your time. All this is going to do is make you feel miserable. You sound like you already are. There are millions of dudes in the world, and thousands of dudes who would totally be willing to get you going. Why put up with that one?

crazymental	Y Y Y Y o Y did you marry?! was this a marriage of convienience or something?! i dont understand how your situation has come about!

vinster82	Why did you get married in the first place?

Genâ€¢Xâ€¢er (I love zombies!)	Turn to your family and/or friends for support, develop a financial plan, and get the heck out of this marriage!

Mielu istetz	hmm you need to have communication with him, how else would work...