In Marriage, do you believe in Love, Honor and Obey your husband?

The Last Scion	Hmmmmm................I'm not sure about the obey part.......

rosei16	lol. I like love honor and cherish better than obey. I dont think obey should ever have been in the vows... we are not servants. lol Marriage is an equal partnership, or at least it should be.

oh_jo123	when I got married to my now EX husband I made the judge that married us to Omit the part of the vows of love honor and OBEY I told my ex I'll love you for as long as it lasts.( wich was almost 8 years)

joyceeleann	Obey..NO..I'm not anyones slave

sheloves_dablues	Most modern people don't vow to "obey" anymore. I have heard this word changed to respect, support, and trust. All are good subtitutions, and are more indicative of a partnership, as opposed to a man dictating marital terms to his wife for her to OBEY...

racer 51	obey? you're funny.

Sandy Sandals	I prefer "love, honor, and cherish" vows. "Obey" implies there is an inequity in the relationship.

TruFriend	Of course, but I think Loyalty is more suitable than obedience.

Spring	I promised to love, honor and respect my husband... The word "obey" was not in my marriage vows.

Katie	Love and Honor ... YES. Obey???? This is America. Women and men are equal.

Jessie	Nope I don't obey. I am submissive though and in my mind there is a huge difference. If he says go to the store and buy me some beer, I would say go yourself. If he says I need a new shirt or will you please look for one the next time your out shopping, I tend to go shopping that day and buy him the perfect one. Why? Because he didn't demand anything. As long as he is polite and respectful I look forward to treating him very well. He treats me just as well though and I try to never be at all demanding.

mmurray001	Marriage is surppose to be buitl on love trust honor and obey your husband. my answer is that you need to respect your husban and do what a wife is suppose to do by her husband. As far as obey your husband it depends on what the obey part details. best of luck

Smile2	Yes I believe that...It is what marriage is all about For Women: Love, Honor and Obey your Husband For Men: Love, Honor and Respect your Wife

~life sucks~	I'm not real big on the obey part, but my husband isnt a demanding tyrant, either. so yah, i guess if he asked soemthng of me, i would do it. but, ya know, the man says the same thing at the alter, as well.

Shelley	It's not necessarily about obeying your husband but by obeying God's word that wives are to submit to their husbands. I do believe that wives should always love, honor and respect their husbands no matter what.

Bonduesa	the love and honor but the obey one is out is now cherish. he's not your dad or boss

yetunde maamaa	yes i strongly belief in it

xo379	yes to the love and honor part...no to the obey part. there should be no 'obeying'--that's like something out of the middle ages! a woman should be her own person and should be able to reach a compromise with her husband.

DizziDazi	I believe in love, honor, and COMPROMISE.

spagirl23188	yes I do believe this, this is what god instucts us to do

mich	yes... definitely

akaasa	Love, and honor yes, but obey, hmm.. it depends.. we discuss things.. i can't bring myself to obey him if he is not making any sense.

BabeHart	Love and Honor, absolutely (as he should his wife) but we're talking about adults here, and there should be no need to "obey" each other. Decisions should be mutual. Obey is what kids and dogs do, not what spouses or romantic partners should be expected to do. That's a VERY outdated concept with regard to marriage/adult relationships (thankfully!)

Shy Girl S	Yes I do....and I get lots of love and respect in return. Now how can that be a bad thing?

luckford2004	I kind of eliminate the obey!!

daljack -a girl	Nope.....he doesn't issue any edicts that I'm supposed to obey. We're equals in our marriage....and for 32 years it's worked pretty well.

Victoria J	i think the obey part is a bit midevil or extremely old fashion. back when women didn't get to choose their husbands was that an appropriate vow but today it is an equal partnership and obey shouldn't be included in vows at all. i believe in love, honor and cherish which can be said for both husband and wife.

Private P	I do not have the word "obey" in my vows, I am Presbyterian. The word "obey" has not been used in Presbyterian weddings services in over forty years, they do not "give away" the bride either, that stems from arranged marriages, and in unacceptable, immoral in the eyes of the church. Booyah!!!

b n real	Sweet Pea yes I do believe in this. I think when you treat your hubbie as the King he is he will treat you like the Queen you are. Good luck!

jade l	yes i do however obey im not sure about as this cud mean u hve to do everythin he says and ur a free person