In a marriage-would you say it's not healthy to have a myspace, why or why not?

cheri h	my space is not healthy married or not

merrybodner	Depends upon your age. I have a MySpace url; my husband doesn't. Of course, we both over 60, so it really doesn't matter, since I am doing it only for networking.

feysunny	If you think that way. that shows to tell me that you two have a contract marriage and there is no love. Do you know what marriage actually is? Why do you want a myspace seperate from your husband. What are you hiding from him?

andyouare	why not? If you trusted you partner to marry them, why not trust your spouse to have a my-space account? Sounds like you have a trust issue not a my- space issue. Get counseling to work on this trust issue.

PLB	I DONT THINK THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH IT. INCLUDE YOUR SPOUSE AND CHILDREN, FAMILY, PETS, FRIENDS. DONT PUT ANYTHING YOU WOULDNT WONT YOUR FAMILY TO VIEW AND YOU SHOULD BE SAFE.

thenewgardner420	in a 4 year relationship, when things are going good, why open yourself up to past experiences and friends? It is like opening a can of worms. That at least was my experience. I felt like I was walking down paths I didn't want to go back down. Maybe I am weird...

Michele	It all depends on what you're doing with it. As long as you aren't doing anything on-line that you wouldn't do in front of your spouse it shouldn't be an issue. I have one and use it to keep up with family and friends. My husband has no interest in having one but he likes to see some of the comments, messages and bulletins when I'm logged in.

poodle mom	joint one only...i cant imagine why you would have to have one. if both people are okay with it, thats fine. if its a big deal, dont do it...just could cause too many issues later on

?	depends on your man what is he doing on myspace hell get a myspace yourself and see what he says

lyttledarlin	For the same reason I dont go to chat rooms to many men that could care less if you were married and I respect my hubby way to much to bring that kind of crap in to our home. If you could just talk to certian people or what ever it wouldnt be so bad.

xyz	Why not, you do not have to meet people on there. I have an account but it is private for only friends and family to chat and share pictures. It is all in how you use it.

Bella	depends on the trust level. and the the type of friends either spouse is trying to make. i canceled mine. it just makes me uncomfortable knowing my husband might be suspicious of anything he may mistake me for doing. and the fact that people kept flooding my page with crappy pictures only they thought was funny was annoying me. i decorated my page for how i wanted it to look. why are you posting a bunch of stupid pictures of fat women in thongs on the comment spot?? what about me makes you think i want to see that??? and when i erase their comments...omg....they get all mad.

Queen	No, it leads to other temptations in the marriage. Myspace is for children....don't exspose your marrige to that mess... Why would you even want to? Leave that to the kids!

Sleek	You go into myspace as you go into any other part of the world: with the same morals and values no matter what. It works for my husband and I. I'm thankful he has a myspace. It helps him forget about his crazy, high stakes job and unwind. We are faithful to one another.

WhyNotMe	If both are secure & have trust with in themselves then it's fine, but to much drama if both aren't on board with that.

Kylie<3	Umm. My brother & sister in law had one once. They wound up deleting them because my brother had all these women adding him. But they've got new profiles now & they seem to be doing fine. I'd have one if I was married. I mean. I wouldn't cheat on my husband. But that... I guess... depends on the person.

marie's mama	I see no problem with it. My husband and I both have myspace pages. I use it as a convenient was to keep in touch with his brother and sister who both live out of town. He uses it to talk to friends that he doesn't get to see very often because of his work schedule.

Dolyn	I have a myspace page, and my husband doesn't. I don't use it to "meet" people though. I use it to keep in touch with all my old friends. The only people I have on it are people I actually know from real life. I think it's a problem if you are using it to mett people. Other wise, everything is all about trust. If you trust your husband, it shouldn't be a problem. If you have reason NOT to trust him, well, then make sure you are allowed to monitor his page.

Fall	My wife and I both have accounts. It is a good way for people from the past to connect to you. There is nothing wrong with it.

indydst8	I wouldn't have one because too many folks that know you are in a relationship opt to be messy and try to break it up. I've seen it happen on campus entirely too much. Beyond that I don't really like myspace or facebook.

Roller Coaster Enthusiast	On myspace? Probably unhealthy. There are too many people on there that seem to like to flirt with others, even married couples. I'm single and don't even like the site. Mainly since most of the women seem to be fake. One friend I had for about a year would hardly ever talk to me. About the only time she would talk is if I would send her a message first and even sometimes she wouldn't send one back. I think it will likely be unhealthy. But if it is used right, it can be a good way to stay in touch with friends, as long as it doesn't go beyond that.

You ask, I answer	we both have a myspace. if you trust each other, then its all good. we just don't accept people who we don't know, as "friends". my husband had a virus placed on our computer because he opened a profile. since then, no more viruses. a lot of "girls" try to befriend guys, and all it turns out to be are adult sites. we have both been able to find friends from our high school, etc. and i am able to keep in touch with friends from home.

dale454292001	That would depend on your and your other half, I am married and I have a myspace, I use it to keep in contact with my family. However if someone is using it for extramarital reasons than I don't think having a Myspace account is the best idea.

qwertatious	I prefer facebook, but I think it's fine. It only causes drama if your spouse is an idiot.

Luvitall	My hubby and I both have one. We trust each other to not abuse it in any way, and we have our profiles open to one another, so there's nothing hidden on there that couldn't just as easily be hidden through email or texting, etc.

Cure for your blonde addiction	My husband refuses to have one, he says it's childish and only bad will come of it. But I have one and I l say as long as you don't do things that you wouldn't want your spouse doing to you then go for it. I've reconnected with alot of old friends that I haven't seen since childhood. It's fun.

JoAnn	If it's to stay in touch with friends than it's ok. But, people say things on the internet that they don't say face to face. Temptation is a terrible thing...and people seemed to be more tempted when there is nothing stopping them. I wouldn't have one if I got married to my boyfriend.

grneydmexi	i think that it don't matter if it's like a joint one.. but myspace does cause alot of drama..