Involved with a married man......need advice?

Like My New Hat?	It's only so nice because you isn't your man. You get to do all the fun stuff with him. End it now before his wife finds out and makes you pay. Besides, if he's cheating on his wife with you, why won't he cheat on you? I mean, he says he loves his wife but he still cheats!

dollbaby2407	They have a few names for women like you. Like HOME WREAKER. the others I won't say . But I will say this. How dare you date a married man.. Thats just wrong. Wrong of him in the most part but wrong of you as well. You need to a a real women and call it off.. And I hate to break it to you but you don't love him you don't even love your self if you have to date a married man. You just want something somebody has... Find your own man thats unmarried and has no girl friend.. And he does not love you he is a married man who is getting his thrills on having 2 women. Both of which he lies to . he is having his cake and eating it too. What a loser..

jaded	you aren't confused. you know exactly what you are.

Mama Mia	If you always want to be the mistress and be waiting for a man who is unattainable then I feel very sorry for you. He is using you and will continue to do so as long as things stay smooth at home or the next younger model comes along. Start living your life instead of just letting it happen to you. If he really loved you, he would be proud to show you off, be with you around town and make you his wife. You are on a dead end road and when he leaves, you will be older and hopefully wiser.

praise t	my husband cheated on me with another woman and it hurt . remember this , u are doing this to another woman. what you do to her will be done to you by some one else.then you will know how much it really hurts. dont be a part of breaking someone's heart , life , marriage and home. you dont want that on your plate

Diamond Dogs	You may love him, but I'm betting he loves banging you more than anything else. Why are you involved in this, even if he left his wife, you would have what? a cheater, and eventualy he would do it to you. Wakey wakey

melouofs	So, he's a liar and a cheater (according to your own post) and flat out tells you he loves his wife...you do not love yourself, it seems. If you did, you would want a man who could be devoted to you, not accept the leftover scraps from another family. While you're home alone pining for this man, he's at home, enjoying his wife and family. Even if his feelings fro you are genuine, don't you think you deserve someone to come home to, who is all yours? Don't you want the kind of relationship where you can go to the park, to local restaurants, etc and just spend time together without having to be lying at every turn? He's thrilled he has someone to be naughty with, and as others have said, once the wife finds out, it's all over--

D....	lemme see...hmmm....so he admited that he lies to his wife about being with you...so dont that make him a liar? then why do you trust him with his word? he's a liar. a cheat. and because he's getting away with it, he'll continue to be...if he cheated on her, then he'll cheat on you..and lie about it. you may love him or so you think, but is he telling the truth when he says he loves you? after all he is a liar and his word has little if no value.

mnwomen	Stop now as he is lying to you and his wife. He has the best of both worlds- a girlfriend and his wife to take care of his home. What do you get but a part time boyfriend that can not be trusted.

Sunshine Girl	its not healthy for you! it wont go anywhere! you cant call him your man 'cos he isnt! its bad for your self esteem which is already damaged to get you in this situation in the first place! You cant trust him, he's not mature emotionally and he doesnt have strong integrity. Integrity is being honest and faithful and decent to your life partner, he isnt doing this. I saw a married man briefly and ended it by telling him, ok go back to your marriage and try to make it work and if not call me in a year. He called me in less than a year and I told him 'if nothings changed why are you calling me?' - he still called 6 months later but you know...hes still with her and I'm having nothing to do with that bees nest! The guy was hotter than georgia asphalt! French, could be a model and his wife was 10 years older than he....that was his bed he made, his mess not mine... It hurt it was hard as I was lonely and lustfull but it was the right decision. Why would I screw over another woman? Women have enough problems with men than each other being the enemy too! End it! Join a dating agency, go online, get out there and over this character!

â€ Evonneâ€	Face it. He is not going to leave his wife for you. You need to find yourself a man who isn't already taken. Don't be a home-wrecker. You wouldn't want some woman to come along right when you think you are happy in your marriage to come in and reck your home. -Remember, what comes around goes around.

Teresa	You said that he loves his wife.He lives with her.He is NOT going to leave her for you.Get out now.Stop playing this game.This man is using you and you are just too blind to see it.Wake up lady.

newtex	Honey you may be in love,but he's just in lust. Dump him, run away from him. If he cheats on his wife he will cheat on you to.

Mallory	i know this hurts but you need to break it off. This isn't a healthy relationship always sneaking around and hunny he's married how would you feel if you were the wife in this situation. They always say they will leave her well dont be fooled. do the right thing in time your heart will heal. find someone else who is single and go for it then you wont have to be so precausious. find a love that is yours and only yours have a commitment with someone who loves you and wont cheat on you and you can't cheat on them. the bible says not to. pray about it and someone else will come along. i am sure of that. dont worry -hope i helped

Justasking	Honey he doesn't love you...he loves the thrill of being a cheating dirt bag and not having been caught YET...he is promised to another woman and you are happy being his go to girl? His weekend special? 2nd best? You want to spend the rest of your life loving a man that will NEVER truly be yours? Where is your self respect? I don't have any respect for women who cheat with married men...dump him and go get a man all your own!!

Happy-2	If this is what you're calling "love" then you don't know the meaning of the word. Love has to do with self-sacrifice; genuinely caring about the other person, including his honor; commitment; honesty; and much more. What you feel is lust, yearning, longing, and/or infatuation. It's not love. Your confusion comes from telling yourself that these girlish feelings are love. Once you realize that this is not even close to the powerful and bright thing that love really is, your options will become much clearer.

Valerie X	If his wife were to find out about you, I promise you this- HE will dump you immediately. What does that tell you? Don't you think you deserve to be first place in a Man's life? I bet you are worth that much. Why are you allowing yourself to be second place??? I do not understand this!

~NIKKI~	He will NEVER leave his wife for you There is nothing that you can do and you put yourself in this situation by starting to date him knowing he is married..when you date a married man you are giving him all of the control. HE decides when to see you, HE decides if he wants to stay with you, HE decides when to call you and HE decides if he will stay with his wife. You have no control over anything, so get used to being on a string, when you mess with married men you should know that the ball will always be in his court. You will always be his little slave girl to come when he calls , leave when he says, call when he says, and do as he pleases and never get anything out of it. Except heartache. So what do you do? You realize your place in his life and stay there until HE decides your worthiness Good luck with that by the way what a waste

renamed	leave him alone even if he doesn't want to be with his wife anymore.let him divorce her first.

jim	You have three choices.. (1) keep sleeping with him behind his wife's back (2) He leaves his wife and you two move on together (3) You invite his wife into your relationship and all three of you get in on the action ... ha

jtease	Break it off with him. Obviously, he loves his wife and will never leave her. Your confusing lust with love.

elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom	he does not love you, he does not love her, he loves the way he feels...that is what he loves... he stays w/ her so he don't have to pay alimony and child support! and that's the truth... he sees you so he can have his cake and eat it too, that's the truth as well... dump him... come on, you can do better! he got sick of her, he will get sick of you as well... move on...!!!

oh_jo123	well he will always be with his wife and you will always be the other woman I would let him go for now but keep the possibilities open for the future

Alexa F	you have to have him make a choice, he can't keep using you like this

Lulu	One word...punctuation. You should try that sometime instead of someone else's husband.