Is it WRONG not ot be attracted to your OWN???

happywjc	Do what you want, and the family will get used to it!, or they can just forget you!

Jennifer B	Family can be very ignorant sometimes, but don't let them stop you from being happy. You are surrounded by alot of ignorant people, and that is unfortunate. Be strong, and don't let their ignorance mess up your relationship. If you stay with him for a long time, hopefully they will realize how happy you two are together. I would also suggest making new friends, since they are supposed to support you and your happiness. Me and my husband (who is black) couldn't be happier. We just learned over the years to ignore certain people and just go on living our life happily.

fishlips	It's no one else's business who you date but your own. If people criticize you then politely remind them that you made a choice, and if they love you, they will respect that. They don't have to like your man but they should not disrespect him. That said, they don't have to come to your house, but you can go to theirs. I wouldn't cut them off completely. After all, you have only one family.

jacalynfreeborn	My mother had to make this same choice. The choice between family and fate. She chose fate and to date it has been the longest running relationship she has ever been in and the most rewarding. Married for 7 years and together a total of 15 years. It has so been worth it and I adore him. So now you need to ask yourself the same question. Will your family forgive you for choosing a white man and living happily? If so, I think it is a no brainer. Do you love this man and does he love you? It sounds like it. I think you should choose this boyfriend.

ron s	and they say whites are the racists?? but being a father of daughters who are high school and college age I can tell you I too would have concerns if my daughter was to bring home a black man, not because I am racist but because society is still not very accepting of this, even though it is getting better now. As a dad, and I can't speak for yours, but I know that even though I might not like it initially, if she truly loved him I would ultimately come around, of course I probably wil give any guy white black brown whatever an extreme amount of grief to prove his worth for one of my daughters anyway, but your folks love you and I can not believe they would not come around eventually

Barbi T	This is a terrible way for your family/friends to treat you. Look, we can't HELP who we happen to fall in love with. If I were you, and you truly love this man, I'd do what your heart tells you to do. Your family must come to realize that you are planning a life with this man. You love them, but if they truly loved you, they'd try to understand how YOU feel, and accept what choice you make in a life mate. Would they rather you marry a man of your race, even if he was mean to you, or a no good trashy type? Would they accept that kind of a man, just because he was of your race, in place of the man you have chosen and who will be good to you, etc? That's not right, and if they're making you choose, I'd choose your man. Otherwise, you'll never have control over your life, they'll run it for you. I'd suggest you go out and get a copy of "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner" and insist they watch it. (an old Sidney Portier movie). They might learn something. Good Luck!!

T	People are ignorant. It is your life. Take control and do what makes you happy. If being with him makes you happy, then that's where you need to be. It is their loss if they do not get to know what a great person he is. If these people are only looking at the skin color, then who's interests do they really have at heart?

Laura M	It's sad that in this day and age, there is still this kind of racism out there. You should be allowed to love whoever you love, and as long as he is good to you and repectful to your family, they should be able to accept that. Maybe have a sit down with your family and friends and him to show them just how happy you are. They need to see the situation from your point of view. I wish you the best of luck!

texasm	This is 2008 not 1708. This world has come far enough that it should be color blind by now. YOU don't have the problem. YOUR MAN doesn't have the problem. The obvious choice should be clear, and I would say the same thing if you were white and the boyfriend were black. My mother raised me GREY.

yumbooty93	Thats pathetic that they will not accept it. It doesnt matter a persons race,religion,beliefs or anything. They are what you would call predgudist. Dont listen to them. If you truly love this man then stay with him. After a while they will understand. But for now,just let them be.

90304	Go visit them. I personally dont like having much company over because that is where my lil circle and I bond the most. You are being forced to choose?? that is so sad. Dont give up your happiness because in turn will they do it for you? I dont think so!!!

Telescope Eyes	That is so ignorant and racist. If I were you, I'd be with my man