Is it a bad idea to track down my old girlfriend?

Charenton C	It's not stalking, but your wife and her husband might not take kindly to it.

the ex-files	It's not a bad idea to talk to her but is that all you want is talk?

lindsey6310@sbcglobal.net	YOU DO NOT MISS HER BUT YOUR P ,-DO SO LET IT GO WHY TAKE TIME TO GOOGL HER .G YOUR WIFE . YOU DID SAY I LOVE MY WIFE BUT I MISS OLD G.F

â™¥ Hppy Mommy	Umm.. are you asking for a divorce or a restraining order?? Because your heading for both if you continue on this path. Wow.. I actually feel sorry for your wife.

shortlittleeli	if you where my husband i would definitely consider leaving you if you pulled that S**t dont do it

julieisbest	Maybe instead you should talk to your wife. Sounds like your relationship is missing something you need.

swtlilblonde31	I dont understand the need to reach out to an old flame you havent spoken with in 12 years unless you had underlying romantic interest. You are married, she is married, let it alone

Lisa	Yeah I think it's safe to say that if you cannot mention it to the wifey it's probably not the right thing to be doing.

Ã¾rÎµÎµâ™¥	my parents have been married 16 years and i am one of the two kids they have. my mom caught my dad looking up his ex girlfriend on google. she was infurated. its definately not worth risking your relationship.

â™¥â™€eáƒ¦sáƒ¦jâ™‚â™¥	Well, how did things end for you guys? On a good note? or a bad note? Ex's are ex's for a reason and I think they need to stay in the past. Just my opinion.

1	yes it is a bad idea to track down your old girlfirend behind your wifes back. are you nuts? not to sound rude or disrespectful but what the **** are you thinking?

Michael T	I don't think it is bad at all. But, based on your other posts I question your motives. Are you really not interested in something romantic? If not, then go for it.

md.sophian	Hmm i don't think there is any really need for you to meet her now since you are married, avoid complication to your marriage forget about your ex. Dude what you're doing? Talk to your wife instead.

gravesforboys	thats really creapy. to honor your wife you should just forget about her andkknow shes obviously a thing of the past. im sure you wouldnt like it if your wife was looking around for her ex boyfriends. . . put yourself in her shoes

Steph	thats always a horrrrible idea! im pretty sure she's moved on already dude. If you do just talk to her to be friends..thats just opening that door for temptation and conflicts. if you trust yourself to stay faithful while being friends with her. go for it.

brokenwingsfairy	howcme suddenly after 12 years , u start missing old gf since u dun miss her in 12 year timeframe..sorry i din accuse u ...bt if u jst wan 2 talk 2 her means it ok since u said that she is married and jst wanna knw her well being..bt make sure ur wife dun suspect u...may god bless u

markymarko7	It kinda is stalking. If you care about your marriage, you should ask your wife about it. If you cant talk about it, you probably shouldnt be doing it.

Kari	This is so not ok. 12 years later, you still miss her?! Leave her alone dude. Why are you going to try and cause problems in her marriage. She is married and happy unlike you. Get a divorce or some counseling. This is a sad life to live and such a waste.

It's just me	This is a question you should ask your wife. If she is uncomfortable with the idea, then, no...it's not a good idea. The relationship you have with your wife takes priority and if it's something that could potentially hurt that, then leave it alone.

Chorus	bad idea. youve been with your wife twelve years so obviously you think you picked a winner. let the past be the past and if it starts to bother your thoughts find something else to think about, like "if all babies are pretty, why are there so many ugly people in the world"?

Krissy	I agree with the first answer.. I would definitely talk to your wife first.. after all she is a bit more important that your Ex.. so.. I would talk it over with her first and explain it's pretty harmless and if all is well.. go for it, there is really nothing wrong with meeting up for coffee or such, and definitely not stalker status! Good luck!

Michael	that's one good reason to ruin a good married, I don't think it'[s a good idea, and you shouldn't mention it to your wife. I hope things are good at home. The past is the past let it stay, don't open any cans of worms, it's been at least 12 yrs........I wouldn't even start to look or google, and no its not stalking yet.......until.......well you know..

Miss Honesty	thats a very bad idea. you guys had a relationship and were intimate. it didnt work out and now you move on. its interesting that 12 years went by and you are curious to talk to her. listen, you have a wife and she wouldnt appreciate it in the least...as im sure you wouldnt appreciate it if she contacted an old ex. if you have any curiosity about your ex its a bad sign i think. and like the other girl said-if you cant tell your wife...than its not a good idea. just be smart

cracker	this is hard on your wife if you did meet even as innocent as it might be your wife may take it as betrayel, try talking to your wife and perhaps search up your friend on myspace or facebook and talk through their if shes on their but dont hide it from your wife or hide the fact your married to your ex either!!! it's a tricky situation and be-careful of your actions what you learn from your ex could start playing up on your mind and old feelings comeback possibly ruining your already successful marriage

E&L	If this woman has no effort to look you up and talk with you in the last 12 plus years than yes it would be a bad idea. You know she is married and has had at least one kid. If an ex called me just because he felt he needed to talk as friends. . . I'm sorry, but I would just hang up. That ship has sailed and you must move on.

Indecisive Panda	Your playing a dangerous game considering it. I personally don't see any harm in innocently finding out how she is doing, but this could hurt a lot of people in a number of ways. Your wife and her husband might not appreciate old ex's back on the scene. She might not be interested in contacting you, or you could end up doing something you would regret "for old times sake, lets have one more beer" something like that. I wouldn't reccomend it, even if it is with the most innocent of intentions.

Beatngu	If you wouldn't mention it to your wife... then it is a bad idea... That tells me that it is something romantic... It tells me that you maybe want to see if she is happy or not, and maybe make a move if she isn't. IF you genuinely wanted see how she was doing and find out what she has been up to, you would have no problem telling your wife before you even began.

Signilda	Yes, I think it is disrespectful to your wife and makes your marriage look like it is on shakey ground (is it?) I think the old girlfriend would feel a little 'stalked' if you went hunting for her on the web too. Everyone wonders about old flames, but best to let them linger in your memories and appreciate the loved ones who are in your life now.

Bubbleygirl1	It's been twelve years, and you still think about her? At the end of the day, you do not what to start secrets behind your wifes back. You have your own life, and your ex girlfriend has hers, and is probably happily married and happy with her kids, what do you think her husband would say about this? Leave the past in the past, Sorry.

chimpdaddyflex	well if you wouldn't mention it to your wife you are already sneaking behind her back, when you come across a thought like that remember S.T.O.P.P Stop, think,observe the situation, Plan ( if necessary ) , and proceed. Let me explain, Stop before you jump in and do something you are unsure of, observe the situation and ask yourself "what do I have to gain from doing this and what is there to lose?" ( if your wife finds out ), then if you do decide to be sneaking around, then Plan it out, make sure you cover all track so you don't find yourself having to explain yourself when your wife happens to stumble across your computer history and sees you have been looking up this woman's name ) , then proceed, this could be either the time you stop what you are doing and let go of this woman (move on with your life) or proceed to find her knowing she is married and with someone else and knowing your wife wouldn't understand why you would want to do that. (your ex-girlfriend may not understand as well). Life is all about choices, and making the right ones, its your parade buddy, where do you want it to march?