Is it important for your spouse family to like you?

kat	It depends on how close your spouse is to his/her family. If he's close to them, then it will really help if they like you. But if he's not, then it doesn't matter.

bluelf	Yes, they have to like you at least enough to be polite to you being the chosen partner of their family member. Otherwise it will cause a lot of arguments between you and your spouse and it will put a strain on your relationship. It isn't going to be easy. Unless you live in another country. you won't be affected at all even if they hate you to death..

Jeannie	While I wish I could say it doesn't matter as long as we love each other, it really does interfere with your relationship. My future mother-in-law used to be so rude to me and it threatened our engagement for sure. Shes much better now but we're still on the fence about marriage.

me87	i guess it would be much better and easier 4 u to like u

Mistystars	It's all ways nice to be liked. but I know not everyone is going to like me. I think it would be important for the in-laws to like me though. I see what my sister goes though with hers.

Poppa	it's important but if they don;t i wont care i married the one i love and as long as he feels the same way .

mc26	Was that a rhetorical question? My rhetorical answer is nope.

Rico S	if your spouse has a good relationship with his family then yes it will be a problem.

Nikkie	yes,,,,my mother in law is so sweet she does anything for me and I wouldn't take avadage of that ........Its good to have good communication with them even if you can't stand them cause you may need there help in some case......like jobs, baby sitting, or help finical

Hyaca	In all honesty having your spouse's family like you is ONLY a bonus. Sure, it's nice to get a long, it'll save a whole whack of stress in your marriage. However, the only thing that matters is the two of you, so don't get too caught up in it if they don't like you.

1 in 6 billion	Of coarse it is! Especially the mom! Your childrens granny, grandad, aunties, uncles, cousins. Its vital, If you marry somebody you marry their family.

Johnny U	Yes it matters to all involved. if you mean my grown siblings, no that is not as important to me as my wife and kids' love.

88droid	not so much but it would be very preferrable.

gman	Shouldn't have to worry about that, your spouse's family should like you if your spouse loves you. If they don't then they have something against your spouse.. and you shouldn't have to worry about them anyway

Alana	Not necessarily but if you live close to them and have to be around them it would make life a lot easier. My husband's family doesn't care for me, but that's ok because I don't care for them either!!! We don't live close and we never see them, it would be different if I had to deal with them on a regular basis.

Amanda W	nah as long as u and ur spouse love each other thats all that counts coz ur not marring their mom r u so she don't av 2 like u (example)

tcoJCoLDS member	its easier on your spouse if their family likes you or is at least tolerant of you. becoming family entails things like family gatherings, easier to do if you are welcome

Razor Sharp	No. It's important for your SPOUSE to like you. Their family can go to hell if they don't like you. I've been married over nine years, we have a fantastic relationship, and neither of us talks to her family at all. We haven't spoken with any of them in over a decade.

Spark S	No. Mine hates me, and i get on with my life. At first it was hard, but later realization and main thing REALITY is that we are not same blood. So,,,,, mr and mrs, if you don't like me, then your loss, bugger off! And they have, they miss lots of things in life, they want to moan and grown for everything i do? then I DO NOT DO NO MORE! HREY HREY! let's party! i love that they are miserable now, before i didn't. I cried for them too often. now? NO TEARS BUT LAUGHTER!

Q	It makes life easier if you all get along. But also important is how your spouse deals with it. If he takes his family's side, and doesn't care that they're rude to you, then you might want to rethink that relationship.

alf	I think it would help a great deal. to avoid awkwardness and such. And i guess it is a matter of opinion, to some it may be very important, to others the love is so great that it doesn't matter.

Johnny S.	It is to me. I want them to think of me as part of the family and I want to think the same of them.

Luv2no is in the house	Yes, because for the rest of your life with him they will be around.

I'mNotMe	No, because my husband doesn't even like his family.

shivam	NO NOT REALLY BECAUSE I LIKE THE GIRL ONLY MWA HA

oldmarine08	No, I'm me take it or leeave it!

Wifey McBeaty	It would be nice, but as long as two people are committed to one another, then it doesn't matter.

Bubblegum	my spouse, at this point I don't care because he doesn't care either....my family? yes but if they don't I wouldn't do anything to go the extra mile to please them.

love.me.or.hate.me	not critically but it does help quite a bit i would imagine...

Shane Uehara	ahahah