Is it inappropriate to do platonic activities with a married guy if you're a single woman?

CindyLu	Honey call a spade a spade, you are dating this man plain and simple and you need to stop it immediately. You know you are wrong or you would not be asking questions like this. Why are you not doing these activities like going to the movies or dinner or lunch with some nice single available man? You are on the road to becoming a home wrecker and don't protest. Tell me, what do you think a married man is thinking about when his wife is out of state and he is asking a young single woman out to dinners?Is that what you want to be, some stuff on the side? Have some decency and self respect and get away from that poor woman's husband.

Fizzle	Yes. Affairs don't start in the bedroom, they start over dinner.

~life sucks~	Yes, it is wrong, because it always gets complicated. And to tell ya the truth, I think its already there if you have to ask this question. Someone has a guilty conscience.

CherryPie	It's fine if it's truly just platonic, but if the dinner is intimate or the movies are romantic, or if he's paying for everything, he may be searching for something more even if you just want to stay friends. As long as you are sure you are just friends, it's not inappropriate.

Dance	Yes, it is inappropriate.

WilmaF	What if you were married and went on a trip and found out your husband was keeping company with a single woman? If it's inappropriate while the wife is home, it's no different when she's away.

evol k	If you were in the wife's position, would you be upset that your husband was going out with another woman? Most likely. His wife is in another state, so she's obviously not around to give him the female companionship that he desires. The platonic relationship has open opportunity to "accidentally" develop into more, especially since he is going behind his wife's back. It is always a good idea to avoid this type of situation and entangling yourself in a domestic conflict.

evie0015	I would think that's really unappropriate because he's married and it doesn't matter that his wife's in a different state. You obviously are feeling guilty about what you are doing because if not you wouldn't be on here asking this. Even if it's the movies, dinner and etc. you know that sooner or later it just might lead to something else!

sandyblondegirl	If you're a family friend it would seem ok. But if he's sneaking around to be with you, you could be the one who ends up getting hurt. It may all be above board, and stay that way if you both agree to what this relationship involves. Just be careful, for your sake and his.

exoticflava	Hell yeah, would you want some one going to the "movies" and "lunch" if you put yourself in those situations stuff will happen. You need to figure out is that what you want when you get married. You want a single women all up in you husbands face.... i dint think so......take a look at yourself and put yourself in his wife's shoes. If she doesn't know about it then he should not be doing it. If he keeps it a secret its deceitful and he will eventually lie and be deceitful to you. There is no excuses stay away.

ARTmom	I wouldn't but then I'm married and wouldn't want my husband to. I trust him but I guess it would be a call on what would be appropriate. Lunch during work, if the gal worked with him. Movies with a group-but as his wife-at least in our relationship-I'm his best friend and he's mine-so he choses me to do things with, thats why we are married. I wouldn't want to ever be blamed for a problem in someones relationship.....if I was single and in your situation

eric o	There is nothing wrong if it is truly platonic. If he tells his wife about it and has nothing to hide, there is nothing wrong with having friends. Once he starts liing about it to his wife, then it becomes wrong. Just because there is no physical relationship doesn't mean he isn't cheating emotionally. Sometimes that can be worse for a woman.

Sean T	I would say that the boundary should be where his wife finds activities inappropriate. If she doesn't think movies, lunch, dinner etc... is inappropriate then it isn't. Also, if she were the type of woman that didn't think him hugging or kissing you was inappropriate then it isn't. However, if the reverse were true and she would be hurt by any relationship between you and her husband THAT would be inappropriate. Nutshell answer - if someone is going to be hurt or angry it's probably inappropriate.

Girly G	It is, if you have to ask on yahoo answers. Because if it was only for friendship you wouldn't doubt your intentions. When theirs nothing wrong, theirs no doubt, which means theirs no questions. If you got married, would you mind your husband going out with a woman for movies, dinner or lunch when your not around? I think it's ok, if the wife knows about you. Then you could consider that a friendship, and that's not wrong.

pinkyismygirlfriendniluvhur	nope, no , no , no playdough comes with that fun factory I think

Yissel s	put you're self in his wife's place

white dahlia	Absolutely yes. Would you want your husband having lunch and going to movies with another woman? Only bad can come from it, especially if his wife is in another state.

Desirae	go ahead, if you really like him he might like you too and leave his wife

thetechnitiondude	DARN RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! Unless his wife specifically asks you to.

van	Yes that is a form of cheating... and eventually it will lead to something..go out with single men.... a married man means you nothing but trouble... you will be the one to get hurt.... they always (99%) choose their wives...

itchybubbles	I don't think you should go out with a married man regardless if the wife is home or not. One thing could lead to another. Lets just not go there OK?

cynthiajean222	Of course it's inappropriate, but I think you already know that, or at least you should. You go to the movies and out to eat with your girlfriends, not some married guy.

Incurious Curiosity	I don't think it's innapropriate but the wife may. So, if possible, try to be friends with the wife as well so that she doesn't think you are after her man. Let him know that it is strictly platonic too.

Lane	If you're just friends and his wife is aware, yes. I'd make sure she knows, otherwise she might get the wrong impression.

Shon	Sure but ask if if his wife knows about you. If he hesitates or says no then I would break ties. If he says yes( even though he could be lying) I would continue. Just don't let anything romantic happen between you two. Though don't turn him into your bestfriend.

meme	yes it is, if his wife doesnt know about it. would you want your husband doing what he is doing with you now?

Seeking Intelligence	You know this is a tricky question. I have bee in your sam esituation and his wife completely hated me, but she was insecure. But you do need to make sure that he doesn't have alternative motives with your relationship. You may see it as a friendly relationship but on the outside it does look bad to people who see a married man hanging out an awful lot with another woman. I'd just cut back.

Richard C	No...as long as it is as friends, nothing more.