Is it normal to feel hurt when your ex-husband re-marries?

.................	Everyone is different so what is normal for you might not be for the next person. I would agree that it's human though. You can't help your feelings and this is a completely understandable feeling. You loved him and married him first and now you are reminded that it didn't work out. There is nothing wrong with feeling hurt. Just don't let it last too long. Get out there- concentrate on yourself. Go walking or join a gym. Paint a few rooms or rearrange some furniture. It will help you keep you body and mind occupied. Good luck!

Rob	why did you dump him in the first place? cause you thought he was cheating or something?

chorva	girl you still love him don't you?! you need to move on and accept the reality. you've been separated for how long?! and you shouldn't be hurt at all, since you both agree to have separate lives. be strong and move on!

ShyeWolf	Yes, it's normal. After all, you shared a life with this person. Now that he's remarried, he will be sharing that life with someone else, and in some odd way, you feel as if you've lost a special link that you shared with him, forever. Also, it's possible that you feel that he shared something with you he'd never shared with anyone else but now that he's remarrying, this will no longer be the case. Well, depending on the relationship you do have with him, this doesn't have to be true. That you were married to one another will always remain a fact, no matter what happens. Each relationship we have is different and you can take comfort in the fact that he will never have another one like the one he did with you. Apart from that, don't feel guilty, wish him the best and most importantly, seek what is best for you. In other words, you have the right to move on. So do so. There's a whole world waiting to discover what you're all about. Go get it. =)

Iris R	It is normal especially if you yourself have not found a special someone. You might even feel resentful. It will pass and you will move on. Perhaps till that day you still where hoping and now you have no other choice but to come to terms that your marriage failed and it is over.

Owen E	It hurts because you still have feelings for him when they were dating there was still a chance of him running back to you. Now that they are married he is never coming back. This is now hurting you because now you see that you may have lost the person you love. If you asked for the divorce you got no one to blame but yourself. Maybe recall all the crap and then it won't hurt as bad. God Bless and Happy Holidays.

Sheree	It is normal. You two use to be in love. You have memories together.

Jessica C	Yes it's very normal. Because even though you do not love your ex-spouse in way you used to, you will always see him as yours and part of your family. Now he is not anymore. He belongs to someone else and have a family with her. He feels the same way about you. However, you must put your emotions aside and try to move on with your life.

dreamer	I think that it's normal. I don't know how long the 2 of you were together, but you shared a lot of your life with him at one time. You both shared dreams, fears, happiness and bad times together. I am sure that you will move on but you probably will always care.

jocelyn	It is normal becuz you use to love him...but you have to move on.

pitchingcoach	There was a little part of you that wanted him back. Now you know you can't have him. Let it go. Start a new life without him.

Cameo	Yes, it's normal. You might be feeling like you tried something with him and failed, yet he's seems to be succeeding in the same endeavor with someone else. Kind of makes you wonder if, perhaps, the failure was your fault or that you might should have done something differently in order to make the marriage work. In short, what is it that she has that I don't have? It's a temporary blow to the ego, but far from serious or devastating.

Dave G	Why would you feel hurt? Is it because you regret getting divorced from him? Or is it because he has found someone that he is happy with before you did? Heck, my ex is living with her new BF. I don't feel hurt. I feel sorry for the guy because I know how badly he will be treated.

ndnqt1966	I think it is normal to have a moment of pain and hurt when an ex remarries....but you have to get over it.....your life with them ended...

Pretty	Then you will continue to be hurt. Why did you leave in the first instance? Live him alone and let him enjoy his life with his new wife and move on with their lives. What else do u want? Move on with your life as well at least he was your ex for something for God sake.

shoes_717	Sure it is normal. No matter what ended the relationship, a remarriage really signifies the end. Take some time to be good to yourself right now. A day at the spa. Dinner with girlfriends and hopefully someone new will enter your life and take that hurting feeling away.

callawak2	Of course. Most people go into a marriage looking to be with that one person forever. When it doesn't work out the wish doesn't go away. It hits home when some other dame is getting a shot at a successful marriage with the guy you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with. However, remember there is a reason you are not together anymore. Keep that thought in mind because you could have still miserable in a marriage with him! You turn will come again.

shorty01	I think you still have feelings for him.

essentiallyme	You like the idea of having someone who loved you at some moment of your life "available". When he was dating that girl, you still had him "available" for you, but now that he is getting married that's not the case anymore; you know that nowhe is commiting to respect and love another woman, which means he won't be "available" for you anymore. Stop being so selfish. He deserves to have some love in his life as well as every human being. And that other girl also deserves some respect. You already choosed not to be with him.

Mama	yes if you still have feeling's for him, and no if you had moved on

Suthern Yankee	I don't know if it's normal or not, sweetie, but I think what you're feeling is a little complicated. Dating another woman is not a big deal, but, for whatever reason, you and he decided that you wouldn't stay married anymore and ended it. Now, comes along someone who is marrying him and maybe you're not feeling good about yourself, a little envy or disappointment because they could end up being married forever. Maybe you think there's something wrong with yourself? Why couldn't he make it work with me? There's still residual feelings, but there's nothing wrong with you, one day, you will find that one for you.

horses	You must still have love in your heart for him.Or you are jealous,lonesome.Any children with you and him?You have to get over it.

Yvette D	Of course it is....My ex husband and his girlfriend both live together and they have a son who is 23 months old...My ex husband and I have two boys together so it does not bother me that they visit with him on the weekends and that they have a half brother which they adore...But, if he was to marry her, I think that would hit home for me because I believe some things like getting marrying is something you do once...Maybe I am a bibical person where when you get marry I feel god blesses you and annoits your marriage...It's not something I even wanted to get a divorce so it would be hard for me to accept if he made the same promises to another woman which he broke with me and our children...So you can be hurt because it's something that has happen in your life and that you are dealing with....But, the truth is you will still be okay...The hurt will fade away just like he did...Be well....

mrskerlin	You aren't alone in your feelings. One of my very good friends was very hurt by her ex-husband remarrying, dating didn't bother her but the marrying and moving in together really did and had been apart 9 years but she never remarried herself so I think that added to her hurt.

zoee_d	Perfectly normal. He was a major part of your life, someone you loved and will probably always have feelings for. After the door was officially closed, he opened it and slammed it shut. Forgive yourself for feeling hurt.

slick o	Yes I felt the same way when my ex wife remarried

*MoOnLiGhT**	yes it is. it's normal, you used to be together and now he has someone new. that's because you know they are serious, when they were dating it didn't matter that much because a lot of people date and it does not always lead to marriage. You were with him for a certain amount of time. It'll go away though so don't worry.

dakotastation1	It's very hard to think that there's someone out there that's better than you. If you truly loved him you wouldn't be hurt...you'd be happy for him. But still...it hurts. So yes, it's normal...but examining your emotions in this matter and growing from it is what makes for a mature person.

stefstudy	u still luv him that's y u feel that way

eeyore6838	Hunny, yes its is.