Is it ok for a married man to text another woman ?

Michelle C	I should be fine, as long as you know what they are texting about and as long as you know they're not have an affair or something like that.

Betty	It would be different if she was already a friend of his and they were texting but to just meet her (and at a bar even) then start texting, I wouldn't trust that. BTW... I'm married 16 years.

lucidity4	What do you think? That's what matters. You know him, and your situation. If you are worried about this then you probably should be! If you are not then whats the problem?

Miss Ann Thrope	I wouldn't jump to any conclusions but it sounds suspicious to me. If he's doing nothing wrong, then he will have no problem with you meeting her too. Maybe everyone get together. You'll know better what's going on then.

Miya	HELL NO!!!! if i were in your position, i would definitely approach him about the situation and tell him its COMPLEATLY inappropriate!

sheloves_dablues	It may be ok for a married man to text another woman, but not if she's some chick he met in the bar while he was out without his wife. Married people don't get phone numbers from single chicks in the bar...

Raquel	no not to me. only if they had been friends for a while or if you are ok with the girl. your married now. this isnt high school games. make boundaries. a girl at the bar is unexceptable

rebeka	No, is not okay. Ask him if he's okay if you start texting with some other guy you just met. Tell him how you feel, don't continue to let him text her, unless you can read what he texts...

Hottie here	All depends on what is being said in the message..... I would say its a bad sign he is doing this in the first place, but what is he saying to her in the message?

ipnez	If he's having an affair he's destroying your relationship. If you are overly possessive and worried about such trivialities as his having female friends you will destroy your relationship.

beanimai@yahoo.co.uk	er no! so if the boot was on the other foot, it would be ok for you too huh? i know some people will say its harmless, but lets face it, he met her in a bar- its not like shes a good friend.

lesa_pryor	Personally I dont think its ok. My husband will "occationally" text his "girl" friends that he has known FOREVER! Never random girls he met in bars. And why is he meeting girls in bars and getting their phone #'s anyways? Not cool.

Kevin	no thats not really okay you should be concerned and definitly question him about it it is not okay for a married man to do that if anyone says it is okay, they are probably only 12 years old and don't understand marriage

Peas_and_carrots	It depends on how laid back, cool, super nice, down to earth, trouble free, worry free and headache free the wife is. We trust each other to the fullest and basically can do what ever we want, what ever we please to do, in our relationship.

Mary	uhm i would say its fine if they are JUST friends but if he i guess enjoys it too much and texts her too much i would think he should stop before he gets feelings for her because u never know so i would stay on the safe side and if you feel like its too much tell him to stop. i hope i helped

Rachel	not a chance in hell. Unless its work related and you know this woman, its in no way shape or form should he be text a WOMAN he met at a BAR, for all you know its some form of realtionship. Can you see the txt or is he hiding what is said from you. Be careful been there done that

enna	No! If it's a coworker or a good female friend that you also know, then maybe it would be alright; but if he's texting some girl that he met at a bar then that is unacceptable! Tell him you feel uncomfortable, and ask him how he'd feel if you were doing the same thing.

Lo	i don't think it's wrong for a married man to be friends with a girl... but in turn he should understand your concern and be open about it... if you want to read the text he should let you read them, i also think you should meet her and become her friend as well... if you don't trust him, that's a totally different problem and maybe you should be with him... good luck and follow your heart...

Sweet Pea	if it's actually nothing then he would have NO problem letting you in on the conversation and showing you the texts. I would have a problem since it's a "new woman" he just met, but an old friend i wouldnt worry about. Tell him how you feel and let him know that you want to be apart of what is being said..

Anne	If its not okay with you, then its not okay. It is NOT unreasonable to ask him to discontinue his texts with other women, its not being jealous or possessive, its something you feel uncomforatble with and your husband should respect that. The only women any husband should be texting is his wife, mother or sister.

Nero	No, it's not okay. What could they possibly have to say to each other? They met at a bar a month ago and they became best friends? I think not. Sounds VERY fishy to me. If he thinks it's okay, definitely ask him if it'd also be okay for you to start texting random men you pick up at bars. You should try to look at his cell phone when he's asleep and check out the messages. Maybe even text the woman back and let her know who you are and that it's not okay for her to be texting a married man so much.

lovestjimmy	What do we think? What do YOU think? I say no. It's not okay for my husband to get some chicks number at a bar and start texting her all the time. Are you kidding? Would it be okay with him if you went out to the bar with your girlfriends, chatted up some dude, got his number, and then started texting him all the time? Ask him that....if he says that he thinks he'd be cool with you doing that....well then your troubles probably go deeper then texting....

dg2003	It really depends on you. If you think it is disrespectful, then you should tell him that it hurts you, or makes you feel uncomfortable and that he should stop. If this other woman meets you and you guys become friends, then I would say it is okay. If he is open about it and is willing to show you what he is texting then I wouldn't worry. If he is hiding it or denying it, then it's definitely not okay. So it really depends on how things progress as far as your relationship with him, and his new found friendship with this other woman.