Is it ok to go out to diner with an X if you are married?

Danu	you're doing this to make your husband feel jealous? don't do that..it'll just make things worse...take a break form your husband, spend more time apart and try to forgive him

kim b	I can't believe you even asked that question. YES it is soooooo wrong.

Poppet	It is completely okay to have dinner with an Ex as long as you invite your husband to come with you. I don't care what lies he told you that shouldn't influence your behavior in a negative way. Frankly, given his lie I would think that he had a good reason for it. Maybe these people aren't the kind of people you would want to associate with.

Nida A	U must to out to dinner with urs X as he contacted to u , so there might be some reason teh he contacted to u. It's not bad to go out to dinner with ur X if u ask him the reason to invite u, so u must ask ur hubby why he lied to u for abt 7 years abt his parents bcoz he seems to be a psycho and he can be harmfull for u.......so U must meet ur X to ask the reason for contact.....okay?

happywjc	Well, lil lady, this behavior is not appropriate on the planet where I reside.. I don't understand your hubby'lie!! This sounds rather seriors, I had a wife once, that if she said the sun was shining, I'd go look & see!! " If they will lie,they'll steal", if they'll steal they'll cheat," then is it to much to think of the next bad thing on their evil minds!!!!

turkeybrooknj	Don't make matters worse by seeing your ex behind your husband's back. You already lost trust in your husband due to a lie (and a major one at that!) When you lose trust, it is difficult to gain it back. (You might want to consider counselling to see if you can work on the marriage if it is something you believe is worth saving.) If it isn't, then you need to think in the direction of ending it and moving on with your life. I understand your temptation to see your ex but, it would be better to be honest about it. If you want to see him to catch up on things, then talk with your husband about it and do it that way. If you don't want him to know, then it is a touchy subject and you should probably forget about it until you can figure out what you are going to do with your lives. I am sure you are confused. Who wouldn't be? But, don't compound the problem by being sneaky. Think about what you want to do with your marriage and your life. Don't make a mistake that you will regret.

Jeep1996	i think that might make for bigger issues i don't think you should meet up with your X and i think you should let ur husband know that he has contacted you Please don't lie to ur husband your making things worse ... I understand that he lied and im sorry people lie all the time lady you need to talk to ur husband and talk about that you don't trust him and you want to Divorce cause you want to meet other people because i know you might end up cheating on him and then what your both liers!

LittleBarb	There must have been some underlying reason why your NEW husband felt he had to lie about his family... maybe he was ashamed or maybe they disowned him or maybe he had an extremely painful experience that he'd rather not get into... who knows.. Lying wasn't the answer, but that is all water under the bridge now as the lie has been brought to the surface... you EX however is a PROBLEM....do NOT go out to dinner with HIM unless you BRING YOUR CURRENT HUSBAND WITH YOU.... if there were no kids in the marriage, then the EX has no business seeing you again except as a FRIEND and in that capacity you SHOULD have your new husband with you at that dinner.... if you GO to dinner alone with your EX, it MAY force you to tell a LIE to your PRESENT husband----and getting "even" is not the grownup thing to do!!!!!

J.Me	Remember how betrayed you felt when you found out that your husband lied to you? That is how your husband is going to feel when he finds out that you are cavorting with your ex. Unfortunately the old cliche "two wrongs don't make a right" applies here. If you feel that the trust is gone from your relationship with your husband and you are truly anti-divorce, then the two of you need to run (not walk) to a marriage counselor.

brwnidjkmo	It sounds like you want someone to tell you it is ok to cheat since your husband told you a huge lie. Obviously if you start talking to the X again, one thing will lead to another and so on. It really doesn't matter if he contacted you. Confront your husband, find out exactly why he lied to you. maybe he has a good reason, or at least a reason that is good for him. Or just be honest with him and tell him you going to see your X again. Seems like you are heading down the path to divorce if you do this. Try therapy.

angie	I would think that going out with your ex would be a very bad idea. That will not help your marriage at all. And since you are anti-divorce, I would assume you would want to work on your relationship with your hubby. Hanging out with your ex will make things too complicated. Have you talk to your hubby about why he kept a secret from you? Maybe there was a huge falling out with his family a long time ago. I have a lot of aunts, uncles, cousins, etc that I dont see becuase of bad blood. Work things out with your hubby. If you cant, then seperate from him. Then act like a single woman.

SUMMER RAIN	first of all why would your husband tell such a horrible lie like that...second,are you divorcing your hubby...??? If so, I don't see nothing wrong with going out with your ex as long as its just dinner...nothing more because your husband can use this meeting against you in court...good luck and be smart about your decision

notagain49	It's not OK if you want to stay married but it sounds like you are trying to hurt your husband like he did you so go for it,take photo's,bring home condoms..you know all the things wife's usually do when they go out with there ex's.

ya boi	no you shouldn't no if's or buts about it

Student Doctor House	You are unhappy in your marriage, and rather than working things out with your husband and rebuilding trust, you are about to shatter trust again. DONT CONTACT YOUR EX. Your husband lied to you...that wasn't right. But two wrongs do not make a right....and he didn't cheat on you. You are married, so tell your ex that you don't feel right meeting up with him. Tell him not to contact you anymore. You're holding a grudge against your husband, and you think this will make it right, but it won't. You will only be contributing even more to the crumbling of your marriage. Go to counseling, talk, and work things out. Remember that you ex is an ex for a reason, and forget about him.

BabeHart	If things were okay between you and your husband, how would you feel about him going to dinner with an ex of his? If you wouldn't like it done to you, don't do it to someone else (no matter how you feel about them). You need to talk to a counselor (pref together) about his big lie, and the trust issue. It's fine to be opposed to divorce (people do it on a whim) but it's also foolish to waste your life with someone you can't trust, who lies to you or cheats on you or beats you (or whatever the situation might be). This life is too short to spend it with someone and unhappy, when you could be single and making your life what you want it to be.

wenwen	that would be aaaaaaaa..........................NO...

Amira	I think this situation has little to do with you wanting dinner with your ex and alot to do with you having questions about whether or not you want to be with your current husband. I don't think it matters much whether you meet the ex for dinner or not. I think you should focus on the crux of the problem which is that you are not so sure about your current hubby. Time for the two of you to have a sit down.

milepost211	If your ex knew you were married and respected you, he would not have contacted you. Now it is up to you to tell him no, since you are married. Ever hear, "Two wrongs don't make a right". Thats whats going on here.

gm	If you tell your husband about it and he's for it and if you have NO romantic feelings left for teh Ex then i would say you can still have him as a friend you go to dinner with, but if he has feelings for you then you'd have to cut it off. But i certainly wouldn't want my bf or husband going to dinner with his ex!

Mczero	as long as your not going to dinner in search or hopes for something more its fine

pinkyismygirlfriendniluvhur	you have to have trust divorce him find someone better spouses can have dinner with anyone and its ok if you have trust

The Original Magic 8 Ball BILF	Just because your husband betrayed you does not mean that it is okay for you to go on a date with an ex (because meeting someone for dinner is a date unless you tell the hubby).

soccercraza6	NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its wrong.....im sorry but it is!

â™¥The Mrs.â™¥	Two wrongs do not make a right. You know this is wrong, doing this will not be validated by your husband's lies. This will only make your marriage worse (which probably isn't that good if you are even considering this). I suggest you spend time working on your marriage rather than working to tear it down.

Vanessa :)	If you're going to go to dinner with your ex, which I think is fine, you should bring your husband along too. I know you're having problems with him right now, but it might be good for those two to meet. Make sure you make things right with your husband so you don't have mixed feelings about your ex.

.	no its not ok to go out with your x if you are already married. do you want another divorce?!!

lolimonly12	no i dont think you should then yes but if not it would be tooooooooooooooo awkward

alina	TWO WRONGS DO NOT MAKE A RIGHT. dont do it

glenn h	it is only ok if your next of kin goes as well