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This is a good question ,,,, Actually a young women like yourself has three choices in life ,,,, You can remain single and career oriented ,,,,, or you can get married and be a home maker ,,,, or you can do both ,,,, A guy has little choice ,,,, He has to get a job or establish a career regardless of whether he marries or not ,,,, Since you are 20 then I assume that he's in the same age bracket ,,,, Just remember this ,,,, That allot of guys in this age bracket lack the maturity to know what the word commitment means or what it entails especially if times get a little rough ,,,, Allot of guys let their glands do their thinking for them and it could wind up as I do until he doesn't want to anymore ,,,, This isn't exclusively for males though ,,,, Females have this problem too sometimes ,,,, Look at this guy as a potential father to your children ,,,, Allot of people don't bother to do this ,,,, Sometimes after they've been together for a while some people figure out they were in lust and not in love ,,,, Only problem with this is that it's generally one or two or more children too late ,,,, You have to think about just how much you love your children before you have them ,,,, You have to be careful what kind of invironment you bring them in to ,,,, A child doesn't ask to be born nor does he have a choice as to who his parents are ,,,, But once conceived the the child has every right to live and once he's born then he has ever right to expect his parents to do the best they can for him ,,,, Your income should determine how many children you have ,,,, Too many on too small an income and they all want for things ,,,, If you are curious as to what the bride groom is going to look like in say 40 years then look at his parents ,,,, This also works the other way around too ,,,, Please don't think that I'm trying to insult your intelligence by telling you all of this ,,,, That's not my purpose ,,,,, It's just that allot of young people don't think of these things before they commit themselves and they don't come to realize it until it's too late ,,,, Give yourselves a 4 or 5 year window to settle down and get comfortable with each other before you start having children ,,,,, This is not only good for the both of you but good for any children you might or will have ,,,, Look at this from all angles before you make a move ,,,, I'm guessing that all you are looking at is the present and you haven't given much thought to the future yet ,,,, I'm not saying you haven't thought ahead but allot of people don't ,,,, Like I said earlier you have three choices as to what you want to do ,,,, You aren't tied to any one of them ,,,, Your life is what you want to make it ,,,, There are careers that you might want to persue in the home ,,,, It's always a good and practicle idea for the woman to maintain some kind of job skills in the event she loses her husband or in the event of an accident that renders him incapable of working or a divorce occurs ,,,, Maintaining a job skill is always a good idea for the woman no matter what the reason ,,,, Just as an asside ,,,, you might get rid of your credit cards ,,,, Plastic money is always easy to spend but it's very hard to pay back with the real stuff if you get what I mean ,,,,These credit card companies will kill you financially and could lead to trouble in the marriage ,,,, It's a good idea to have a debit card but that's it ,,,, it's considered a credit card but doesn't have any annual fees connected with it ,,,, You have to have a credit card to just rent a car now days but a debit card works for that ,,,, Having a debit card will prevent you from getting into debt because it's a direct tap to your checking account and you can't spend any more than you have in checking ,,,, I hope you don't consider what I've said a lecture ,,,, it's just meant to be advise ,,,, You'd be surprised at the amount of young people that don't consider all of these things ,,,, Not doing so could lead to problems you not only don't want but that you don't need either ,,,, If young people were more mindful of these things then the divorce rate might be lower ,,,, Good luck with what ever you deside ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,, |
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