Is it wrong to give my opinion to my friend who is engaged at 18?

QueenServilla	Only if she asks for it. Otherwise keep you mouth zip

00silky	No matter what decision she makes it's still her business. It's normal for a friend to have an opinion and be concerned for another friend and their well being. As long as, what you're saying isn't done with the intention of destroying a relationship, because you never know what a person is ready for.

liltwerp	It is not wrong to give your opinion, but for the sake of friendship, I would sugar-coat it a little. Let her know she shouldn't halt her progress for the relationship and that her growth could only improve the situation. Encourage her to continue her education no matter what and hang in there, you never know how things will turn out.

Mim	No it is not wrong to give your opinion about getting engaged at a young age. You will just need to be careful about how you phrase it. Be tactful and respectful but definitely point out your concerns for her. All the best.

*HabiscusFlwr22*	It is not wrong. You have a lot of influence over her. My sister has a friend just like this. Seriously ask what she wants out of life. The only way to live financially with no highschool diploma is by getting two or three jobs and working your *** off. Does she really want to start her life so soon when she could be making a nice foundation for her and her future family??? Its so sad to see people our age making such bold decisions when they've barely lived life. Overall they are probably both scared and people like to have someone around to get through the tough stuff but they dont need to be engaged or dropped out of highschool. Yeah but my friend isnt even 18 yet, engaged, met her fiance on myspace, and got engaged after knowing him for only two months. So dont get really worried its happening everywhere-but maybe you can tell her about my friend and how thats exactly what she's doing.

mir-mir96	no its not wrong because maybe if u tell her then she will get her thinking and maybe she might get her life right

Color-Wolf	It would be best if you just advise her. Just tell her that this is just some advice.... if she wants to listen then listen. If not forget it. You've done what you can.

Music makes me lose control!!	wow! thats way young! tell her to wait and make sure he is the ONE! wait is she preggo?

jtk15sc	No, if shes a friend, tell her what you think is best for her. However, do not force your beliefs upon her, she is afterall her own person.

Flaca_in_Az	You can but you can't tell her what to do.

deen	give awdvice hun

NYC4KP	i would just ask why she is rushing into a LIFELONG commitment. and say wait until the time is right.

MilleF	Well, if she doesn't ask your opinion don't say anything. If she ask, go ahead and say what you want to say, and say without judgements and use the manners. If she doesn't listen or doesn't want to hear you. At least you had told and is about her life and not yours. Depends a lot of how far she wants to go in her life and you to support her, you know about her better than me. Love makes us blind and marriage is not easy! Childrens are not easy, married or even single! Do what a best friend would do in this situation! Be responsible for the consequencies, good or not! Good lucky

Heather	If she hasn't been going out with her fiance for too long shes probably pregnant I'm not trying to be mean but talk to her...comfort her...try to teach her something..and whatever you do don't let her get rid of her baby if shes preg..

hisoka	no its not.

lovehealer	Speaking as a couples therapist, early marriages are destined to fail, for lots of valid reasons. Show her this article: http://www.hearts-and-kisses.com/relationshipadvice-best-age-to-marry.html

Suzianne	If it appears that she is making a bad choice, I think it would be wrong not to discuss it with her. You might try asking her questions that would lead her to her own conclusions rather then offering your opinion directly. It is an old teaching technique, but it often works when you expect some resistance. One thing she should consider it the rate of spousal abuse in marriages where the woman has inadequate education and ability to support herself. Being helpless is a trap that limits a woman's choices. That can make things very difficult.

ladyren	Give her this list that my mom began hammering into my head beginning when I was 13. And guess what? Because of these four little things, I have one hell of a nice life..... 1. The most important thing you will ever do is choose a husband,... use your head as well as your heart. 2. Have no children until your bond is strong. And have no more than you yourself can support.... cuz you may just have to 3. At any and all costs, finish your education. I'm really glad there are beople at McDonald's flipping those burgers. I just don't want you to be one of them..... Your children and your education are forever. husbands and lovers are not!!!!! 4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about...even if you think you will never ever need it. For sure you will, and the more the better. OMG, thank you mama. And tell your girl friend to thank my mom too..... Sent to you to send to her with love, from my mom

captobvious2	its almost never wrong to give your opinion, just do so in a respectful manner.

abc	you can give your opinion all you want.....don't be shocked when she doesn't listen or follow it

O_O	ya you should, but i doubt she'll listen to it

wallflower1515	If your really good friends and she vaules you opinion then yes...You only want what best for her...

aznqtpiebaby	well if shes pregnant already, shes going to be a single mom anyways if she doesnt marry him. at least if they get married, they might try to work it out.

rickwalia	No if shes ur friend no thats are what friends are for right? all i say is tell her wat u have to but and if she gets bad DONT go to much in it if she wants to talk about shell be open with u and if she doesnt shell get pissed then you jus can drop it and say least i tried..

amyloowho	Give her advice, but don't expect her to take it. You also risk starting a fight that could potentially ruin your friendship. Tread carefully.

Emily Dew	Tell her your opinion in a loving but concerned way, however, don't be surprised if she doesn't go along with it. Never mention your opinion again and if the marriage goes bad, don't say I told you so.

5150	naw yer good.

PhilPhil89	no..if you guys are good friends.. i think she would appreciate your opinion..

bookcrosser_raerae78	While it's great that you want to give your opinion (and it sounds as if she may need it), some people need to live and learn on their own. There's a chance that if you give her your opinion, she's going to get mad, not speak to you, get married, and then the marriage (may) fail. You'd be better off being supportive about whatever decision she makes.

Kourtney M	Approach her in a non threatning way and ask her if she thinks she is truely ready to be married and if the guy she is about to marry is truely the one for her. Explain to her what your thoughts are and why. But don't be forcefull about it. Just tell her that you are a concerned friend and you don't want to see her make a mistake.