Is it wrong to want a proposal with a ring attached?

çµç¸ Heemei	No, it's not materialistic, no ring, no engagement. If the bride is paying for the weding the least a groom can do is buying the bride a ring. The way I see it, the ring is an action for love, not just making empty promises and lip service.

JustPeachy !!!	I agree with you,,,,,,,,,,, no ring, no engagement.

notcha_business09	psshht no...getting married is every girls dream[well MOST of us] and you cannot blame urself for wanting it to be perfect!!

LovemybabyGianna	A ring honey!!!! i told my husband wen he proposed i wanted a ring (a good one, not a cheap one) he ended up buying me a $10,000.00 ring and we were officially engaged lol That's not the point though, it doesn't matter the price that is just one way for us girls to feel and to show the whole world we are engaged and happy... so demand your ring!! lol good luck!

Riley's Mommy	I don't think it's materialistic at all... I think that the ring does hold a lot of meaning. Maybe your guy is saving up to get the ring that you want...

DJA30	I believe you are engaged if you answered yes to the proposal, the ring is just a symbol of that acceptance- not the official acceptance of it. I'm sure there are good reasons why u don't have your ring yet. Congratulations and blessings on your new path.

Bubi	If he can't afford the ring, he can't afford the family...

tough_love101	its ok to want a ring with a proposal. i m not engaged yet but all u can do is just wait. sorry for the downer

Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here	hell no girl, you get that ring. a ring symbolizes that he is mature enough to be able to save (and not frivolously spend his money on himself) for something that is not benefiting him. Think of a ring like this......if a man doesn't get you a ring you can guarantee he pretty much on the self centered side and he will not get a good provider (or help provider) for your future children. he will be one of those parents that would rather by a big screen TV to watch for football games (which are only a 1/4 of the year) than save for you childrens college education and health insurance. See what i'm saying....the ring symbolizes his commitment to you, the relationship and your future together. It's not materialistic at all....it's smart.

Josephine of the Swamps	You are totally RIGHT!! It's just not REAL until you have the ring on your finger. I hope he gives it to you soon : )

nfldwct123	Its not materialistic, it is all about the symbol of committment, I am with you it would not feel official without the ring, I am sure you would be happy with a ring that didnt cost a kings ransom, but yeah whats the first thing we do when we tell someone we are engaged?,,,, we show them the ring, good luck

mommalinerocks	realize that a ring is just a thing , very nice and wonderful to have but not what is important. how he treats you is the ultimate tradition

ladylady4470	Well, it really isn't about the ring on your finger as to the man on your arm.....

Lost	nothing you are not married until you have a ring. I am sorry but I am this way to I do ot feel maried unless i get a ring. I have worn and I will keep my ring until the day he dies or i get divorced.

Gena	Yes, you should have a ring. An engagement is considered a contract of sorts. Men should have to put a little sweat into their girl, anyone can ask, "Hey babe, marry me yeah?" but if he can't afford a ring, even a LITTLE one, then he can't afford a wife. Besides, when a man works for you, it's an investment, you are not as easily expendable. Get a freakin ring.

jelisa3120	well,your not wrong to want a ring.every girl should have one.

Christina	i think you are a marerialistic girl. being engaged is a special thing and all you are thinking of is a ring. I was engaged for a short time and didnt think twice about a ring. I was just happy that the man of my dreams asked meto marry him. Yes i eventually got a ring but it really didnt matter if I got a ring at all. love to me is all that mattered. I think you shouold be happy at the fact that you have a guy asking you to marry you. good luck!

Kitty	You are engaged when you and your partner have agreed to get married. A ring is a token of this commitment, but it's not what makes you engaged - the actual agreement to marry does. If a ring is important to you, suggest you and your fiancÃ© go ring shopping together, and pick out one you both like. It can be a special experience. But as long as you two have agreed to marry, you ARE engaged, there's no way around it. And, btw, a diamond engagement ring is a fairly recent tradition, started in the 40s or 50s as a consequence of a successful marketing campaign by (I think) De Beers. Don't get too hung up on traditions - go with the flow. There are things more timeless than rings, don't lose sight of the bigger picture.

deborah l	I would want a ring too . . .

Mike M.	It's not wrong. The way I see it, one isn't "properly" engaged until one has the ring. I hope my answer helps you.

Neenie	You can't help how you feel...tradition or no tradition. I wouldn't call it an engagement (more like a promise, maybe) until I had the ring on my finger representing a union soon to come. Just be patient...all will occur in God's time, which always better than your time frame.

Poppet	I consider it materialistic.

Lolamite	A ring is tradition, and so is engagement. If he wants engagement, you should together find something meaningful to represent it.

Dante	You're either engaged or your not. There is no such thing as "not officially". If you require a material object for you to consider yourself "officially engaged", then yes you are materialistic. At the same time, I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting a traditional engagement and wedding. Going through all of the motions in the world mean nothing if you don't have your priorities strait. Think about it.

dedum	If you are a traditional kind of person, then go with it! A ring is the sign of a promise and you would like to have that sign of your engagement. Who cares what other people think, your engagement and wedding are about YOU and what you want, not what others think! He knows how you feel, so he needs to get you one!

Sandy Ego	Have you and your partner decided to get married? If the answer is yes, you are engaged - officially. There's nothing wrong with wanting a ring. Talk to your fiancÃ©, and let him know you would really like a ring as a symbol of the engagement. It's a very simple matter to resolve. Of course, it would depend on why he hasn't given you a ring to begin with - for instance, if it's against his religious beliefs, or if he's broke, the problem lies deeper than just the ring itself. But whatever the situation is, you should address it, no need to get all worked up over it. If both of you are reasonable people, you should have no trouble resolving this minor issue. In marriage, there will be bigger battles to fight... pick wisely! Conrats.

Teresa Dagger	The words "Will, you marry me" are a verbal statement. Putting an engagement ring on your finger is a physical statement in which he should make if he's serious about marrying you. If you love him, what type of ring itself will not matter ...but he needs to get you something and he needs to get you something ASAP! Technically, he should have not even asked you unless he was baring the ring along with the proposal. It's not materialistic for you to want your ring. If he doesn't do things the way he should now, then what makes you think he'll do things the way he should after you're married? Talk to him about it. Tell him your expectations. You are warranted for having them!

just me!	i do agree that a ring is a traditional followup to a proposal but if he honestly can not afford a ring, then what is a girl to do??? be patient, he may be saving for the ring but wanted to let you know how deep his love is for you. if he can afford it and just hasn't, then a gentle nudge wouldn't be out of place. a simple comment along the lines of "i'm so looking forward to having an engagement ring" or just ask if you are going with him to look at rings? if money is an issue then tell him you don't want anything extravagant. perhaps he isn't sure of what to buy or perhaps he has ordered one or is having one made for you.......so be careful of your tone when you bring it up! he can love you and he can want to marry you and still not have very much money. a ring is just a symbol, you engagement began the moment you answered his 'will you marry me'. i wouldn't nag him into anything - certainly not into a ten thousand dollar ring - to my mind that is simply childish and you want the ring to come from his heart not from your nagging! you know him better than most so you have to decide what the situation is. good luck! congrats and have a wonderful life!