Is it wrong when your husband doesn't buy you a Christmas gift??

LaLa :)	He must not really love you or maybe he buying for another girl u dont know about

ambriannaone	When I was a kid, my Mom took me shopping for my Dad and my Dad took me shopping for my Mom. How cool is that. Lucky luxuries. Seems wrong unless he is self sacrificing and practical for purposes of survival. Even if your broke, you each should get Something. Maybe not a Lexis but even a new cd.., new wallet, .. or even a fancy chocolate bar... As a widow, and single Mother, many years have passed in which I did not get a gift at home except for the one I gave myself. This year I even gave myself one early and am giving myself more than I have before. I'm more resigned to it. Perhaps, something is resigning in your relationship with your husband. You need to talk. Some years are better than others emotionally, spiritually, materialistically, physically, psychologically.... That's life. It's short. Live it best in matters of the heart.

Ade	Actually I think that's very low class. He shouldn't feel obligated, but he should want to give you something. He can't get you a new pair of slippers even? geez...

bigmomma3526	buy your self a fur coat and feel very special you can spent money too as long as he give to the kids. what the hell.

krispykreme335	If you agreed when your husband suggested not to exchange gifts, then you really can't complain. I believe that Christmas and all the drama that goes with it, is for kids. If you want something get it, don't wait for your husband to give it to you, but make him pay for it. That might make you feel better.

Autumns Destany	Take your kids out and let them buy you a X-mas gift... that way they will not grow up and be like your husband... and by the way don't buy anything for your husband...yes you go and spend alot money on yourself.. I bet you could use another bedroom suit or living room furniture... CHARGE IT ......

xtratabasco	I always got used shiq. so dont complain.

BM33	my parents feel the same way.... the problem isnt being too cheap or selfish (at least in my case) but because they run out of ideas for eachother and its easier to not exchange then to get eachother something for the sake of getting eachother something.... they exchange anyway though

aiki	wrong no sad yes one should always have an inexpensive nice little gift or even a card. a rose, or plant .. one of the nicest gifts was a gf gave me a really nice shaver .. under $10 that I still use to this day. it was so much better than what I was doing. of course alas the gf is gone. my impovished friend had his family carol me over the internet this year. touching. odd, but nice. but of course, don't have the 'gift of th magi' effect .. be reasonable for you and the kids. should not cost too much .. but tonight is probably too late for that advise.

Dr. LOVE the MONKEY!!!	Get yourself something you are important too!!!

MISS RED	I guess it depends on your finances. If things are very tight, maybe he is afraid you won't be able to pay the essential bills, like food, rent or a mortgage, etc. If you're not hurting financially, I really don't see the reason for not exhanging. Christimas isn't just for kids.

THE JENSTER	He is rebuking the industry of commercial goods that wipes people of their savings and puts others in debt! In other words, he is not contributing to the economy, which is bad. However, if he gives you gifts on non-occasions, then it is not a sign against him. If not, he don't like you ): And in the south, we leave 'em on porches for that. Love, Stranger

Papa Joe	you are more selfish to think this way. why cant u understand your husband. kids only have this period of shildhood before its gone forever... chirstmas is a yearly thing so y the cheap and selfish remarks on your husband? get a divorce if you are so selfish not to understand.

przhm247	I don't know your situation. If you guys are broke; then I wouldn't push the gift thing. If he's just being a dud; then I'd go and buy whatever it is that he Should've bought you!

jennjenn175	how is your relationship? if it is rocky he is being selfish, are you struggling with money? if so he is being cheap...there is no easy answer for it....my hubby is just not bright enough to realize that i want gifts from him!

its just me....â™¥	My hubby hasn't got my a gift in like 2 years....... I think its totally wrong. But with his work schedule I know that he really doesn't have time to get me anything.....It still hurts though

matty60	he is a lazy son of a bi/ch and you go out an spoil your self and dont spend a cent on him

moonshadow	I would buy myself something...just because he doesn't want to participate doesn't mean that you should have to suffer...I don't know his reasoning on not wanting to get his own wife a gift but you go for it...and don't feel bad doing it either...

?!	i don't know if its wrong but it certainly is rude and its obvious it makes you feel bad....he should do it for you, not for himself...plus it would make the marriage better and if he treats you special then he may benefit from it and you may treat him special

pinniethewooh	My husband and I usually wait until the new year to buy each other stuff. By then we have more $$ and things are often on sale unless there is something really special one of us wants...

Beezy	That's weird that he doesn't want to exchange gifts. You should tell him that it means a lot to you. If he still doesn't do it, by all means get yourself something special and wrap it! Happy holidays!

( Kelly )	There comes a time when you don't have to buy each other gifts. My parents never bought each other stuff. Love is priceless. They bought gifts for the children. That's what Christmas is mainly for.... the kids. You should feel special just to watch your kids open their presents on Christmas morning... You should think about your KIDS and not yourself so much. Don't be so selfish.

Kevin L	i would say so, i mean dont you think your important enough for him to get you a gift? put the smack-down on him! (not physicaly, but verbaly lol)

justmedrt	Yes buy your self something nice........enjoy! Merry Christmas.....

Cuddly Lez	Yeah. he's your husband, his #1 priority gift should be for his wife.

monica80	maybe he just wants to save money.

bashnick	He should totally buy you something for Christmas! That is terrible. Yes, you should buy yourself something and wrap it and put it under the tree. You have every right to want a gift and to want to feel special. He makes me mad!!

IMHO	If money is tight, I think this is acceptable. I am so happy just watching my kids opening theirs.

goldlust74	i think hes a pig.

trollwzrd	My wife's response to this question is---- Why do you need a gift? Are you trying to make him show his love for you? Are you trying to make him feel guilty because he didn't give you something materialistic? If having materialistic things to show love is being selfish. That's why women have Mothers Day Christmas is for kids. If I see something during the year and I want it or need it I discuss cost with my husband and if everything is OK then I go ahead and get it. Don't take discussing with husband as asking for permission because IT ISN'T, we have set limits that if cost is above we discuss it. MY ANSWER---- My wife KNOWS I love her and I do show her in other ways all through the year.