Is my marriage really over?

bx824	youre a stupid hoe and you dont deserve him and your family. they should leave you not you leave them.dont you know women would love for their husband to go to work and to come home and spend time with the kids after a long days work.youre just being selfish!A woman dont know what a good man shes got until she loses him.

joe	@@@@@@@@@@NO SYMPATHY HERE@@@@@@@@ YOUR HUSBAND IS RIGHT !!!!!!! you are cheating just becuase it isnt physical doesnt mean it isnt cheating if your husband was online and talking about hooking up with another woman you would be the first to scream foul and you know its the truth. but i suspect you dont give a crap what i think since its not a feel good answer, its not agreeing with you and saying do what you think "FEELS" good or im not saying " YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY" no the only people that have that right in your family at this point is your kids but hey im sure some people will tell you diffrent so the hell with those bratts mom is more important. i feel for your husband here he is doing right by his family the best he can. im guessing you are one of those people who believe life he should be 99% you and the world should have the other 1% unfortunately for you, your husband is actually wrong and should have always put you first and every thing else last but he screwed up and really needs to learn his wife always comes first then the children. but hey you dont care about that truthfully, your still looking over and seeing the grass greener on the other side and your still going to screw your family over to "FEEL" i person who actually is reconsidering not doing it wouldnt boast they even have hotel reservations they would actually prefer hide such info from the world , you on the other hand are showing off and leads us to conclude you actually are using this husband thing to excuse what your going to do and are looking for people to validate it, and i think you will get it from those who condone cheating but the rest of us think your a low life and you have no morals and your children and husband will be better off with out you i hope this man you meet up with. (and you will) has some desease or is worse then your husband and i hope your husband has more sense then to let you burn him twice. oh and btw way your husband is also incorrect about somthing else "basically a cheater" you have not protected your marriage and forsaken all others so you did breach your marriage and thus you are definately a bif fat lying weasle of a cheater. goodluck i hope its worth it. in 20 years im sure your kids will say gee your right mom dad playing with us after work was a horible thing and i understand why you left him.

David	It will not work (the other guy). He will be a temporary fix for your real concerns; you are BORED with life. Boredom comes from low metabolism. Your body makes chemicals, the chemicals control your emotions. If your metabolism slows down, the chemicals drop, so you feel miserable. Here is a simple exercise you can do in your kitchen that will start your metabolism back up. There is other things you can do, but this is a start for you. Stand in your kitchen, hands on the counter top. Squat down slowly, go up slowly. 10 times. Use your hands to balance yourself. Step back at bit, hands on the edge of the counter top. Put one foot back, firmly on the floor. Do counter top pushups, feel your calf muscle stretch as you keep your foot firmly on the floor. Do 10 times. Then switch feet and do 10 times. Do at LEAST once a day. More if you feel you need it. Takes about 5 minutes a day. When you are ready, go to my 360 page and I will tell you other exercises you can do.

pink9364	DO NOT meet this other guy...... do only what you want your kids to do... set an example even if they will never find out. You are STILL married so don't cheat!!!!! This guy is no good that wants to meet you if he knows your married.. where are his morals?

retrodesignerdeals	Your husband works 60 hours a week, devotes quality time with the kids, and you feel lonely? Why don't you spend time with your husband when he spends time with the kids? Do it together. That's what families do. He sounds like a good, hardworking man to me. Don't blow it with an on-line fantasy friendship. This person can tell you anything. You don't know what you are walking into. Go back home to your family with your children and give it another try. God bless.

$&$&	NO, it's not over...Only if you want it to be...I understand where you're coming from...The problem is actually not with your husband...It's within yourself...You chose to have a family and having a husband and having kids takes alot of work and the most part of it ends up you being alone...Now the key is if you can find something to entertain yourself until your life has situated itself...Believe me in time it will...The kids are still young and in the long run they will appreciate you more... First of all, what you need to do is get off these online chat rooms and find something that interests you...Like an art class, or a night out with just adults to get some peace of mind...Get yourself active or more involved in your lil kids life...Just please don't throw away your marriage...You married for rich or poor for sickness and health...This is part of marriage...Try to get some help, but chatting n meeting other guys is not the answer...Believe me you married a good husband...He is spending time with the kids after a 60 hours work week...You have been blessed...Most fathers out there don't give the kids a minute of their time...He does care...I don't see why you don't think he does... If anything think about the kids and less about yourself...Try to keep yourself busy with other things...Things that will make you happy... Just a lil hint: I was in your possition at one point in time...Then I created my own business that I do at home...It actually intrigged my husband and gave us both the chance to build on our relationship... Hope the best for you.

"big dogs wife"	ur marriage is only over if u want it be over. none of this is unusual. it is all normal. first dont meet the guy. ur husband is trying to do what he is supposed to do. every wife and mother feels like she gets attention last, that is life. when ur children were born u gave up being number one. just talk with ur husband tell him ur sorry about the guy, u guys will be ok. pick a date night, just for the two of u. good luck!

Cing	I want to thank you for reinforcing why I will never ever have children! What's the connection? Well, I have had the misfortune of marrying 1 selfish woman like you that only cares about herself, not her kids or her husband. Like you, she was unappreciative and didn't understand that the reason she got to live in a big house out in the country, drive new vehicles, go on ridiculous vacations, have boats, never worry about an account balance when she went shopping, etc., was because I worked hard to give her that life. Fortunately, we didn't have kids yet because I just don't know how I could deal with a miserable, cheating, selfish exwife if she took my kids too. Its bad enough to deal with a miserable excuse for a human like my exwife, let alone having to deal with her for 18 years after the divorce. Sure, my words sound harsh, but if I were other women I would be down right hateful, because it is situations like this that cause successful, hard working men to not marry women anymore. Have a wonderful life with your molester internet buddy for multiple states away that you have never met before. Oh, sorry, that wont happen. He is just gonna get with you and move on. Seriously, what level of dude just jimps in blindly with a married woman with a tribe of kids? There has to be some issues there. Good Day

hill bill y	dont go get your butt back home

in ur face	my hubby used to work 12 hrs a day 7 days a week. there was once a time when my daughter stopped to regognise him cause he was gone b4 she awake adn came after she slept. and i did the same foolishness and trusted some one else. and i cannot even tell u ho whurt i am now and how much i regret it. if u play with fire u will get burned. i made that mistake and i ask u not not to do the same. things have finally gotten better. i mean sometimes u live for the kids sake. inside i am angry lonely and depressed but i know my kids need their dad and i cannot sacrafice their happined for mine. and now after 5 yrs things have gotten better between my husband and i. patience is a virtue. dont have an affair its not worth it

tjnstlouismo	Since you haven't actually cheated yet, you might have a chance. Go back to your husband, beg his forgiveness, ask to have marriage counseling and try to save your marriage. You have two babies you are walking away for for a man who thinks its ok to get involved with a married woman and the mother of two small children. What kind of man is that and why would you want to be involved with him. I don't know if it'll work, if I was your husband, I'd toss your sorry butt out and keep the kids and everything else. But he just had a baby with you less than a year ago, so maybe he will forgive you and give you another chance. If he does, then in that counseling, tell him that you need to feel important to him, and that he is your husband first, before he's an employee and a father. Work this out with the counselor. Good luck, you are going to need it.

oceanwvs2000	no do not meet this other guy or you marriage will be over.go back to your hubby.you need to realize that work does come first to keep his family healthy wealthy and wise. if you want to spend time with him you know where to find him.you also know where to meet him if you want alone time. maybe that is the little shove that he needs. At least he cares enough to work for and to take care of his family. Be happy he is not out cheating on your butt. and that he comes home every night.

YourAnswer...	How old are you? Ditch the online guy... That is just CREEPY! You have never even met the other guy. How can you be sure he is not a whacko? Deal with your relationship with your husband before EVER starting one with someone else. Counseling is a great way to start, if your husband is willing. You didn't say how he reacted to the split.???

CoCo-Puffs	I am not going to say much cause it would get too personnel for me. Special connection with someone you never met in person? How do you know he isn't some lying wacko? You shouldn't be giving up so easily. Think of your children, my parents where divorced and it was truly hard on me. Not saying you should stay together just for the children either.

LasVegasMomma	DON'T DO IT!!!! No matter how miserable your marriage is, don't run off to be with this other guy!!! Trust me. You need to figure out your life before you can commit to anyone or anything else. I know you are in great pain and this other person is making you feel special, but it will end badly. The guy you met on-line could very easily not be the person you think you know and love and makes you feel good about yourself and your life. The bad marriage has clouded your judgment and you are not ready to meet new people yet. Your marriage may or may not be over, but you don't want it to end over another guy. For the sake of your children and your future sanity, resolve everything with your husband before you hook up with someone else. I have been in your shoes. I know you are very emotional right now, but please do not continue with this guy until your current issues are resolved and you and your husband have figured out how you will live out your lives and parent your children (whether it's together or apart). Good luck. I feel your pain.

angel g	You are upset that your husband works his butt off to take care of the family? I never GET that when people complain about their husbands working too much. OH MY! big sin on his part...working FOR his family & paying attention to the children. If you feel like you have been pushed to the side, then FIGURE out a way for you two to get to couseling or have a "date" once every couple of weeks or something...IF he is still willing to work at it after you moving out & looking for attention online. You will NOT be happy with Mr. Online until you figure out what YOU are missing. NO ONE else can make YOU happy...that is up to YOU! You may have the TEMPORARY toe tingles for a while with a new guy but that will soon wear off & you'll be back to your unhappy self again. PLEASE think of your children, they don't need a parade of men through their lives while Mommy tries to get someone else to make her happy! Work on YOU and set an example of a strong woman - not a needy one who flits from one man to the next. Good luck and really, all the best to you & your family!

dempseyville	If you truly love your husband than stick by him. Think about the kids and the impact of you leaving to be with someone from the internet. Try this: Try to find away so that you and you husband can spend time together. IE: playing with the kids, spending family time at home or going out as a family. I'm not tell you what to do, but I think you have a good family, and I hate to see a family fall apart. Good Luck! and God Bless You

?	First let me say, be careful. You don't really know this person. He might be saying this kind of stuff to someone else. I've had a similar situation. Don't just trust anyone. Secondly, if you still love your husband, then this is wrong. No, your not cheating (in my book) but its not really over with your husband and your kind of moving on already. Just be very careful. You have to decide what you are going to do then decide if this other person fits in there. Plus, you have children to worry about. This person might be a predator and you might be putting your children in a bad situation. I know you wouldn't purposely do that but you just never know. Write me if you need to talk.

my2003matrix	I would say you both need to go to marriage counseling. If you love your husband you need to try to make it work. Your lives have changed drastically in the last 2 years, and you have to work at a relationship...it doesn't just happen. The guy that you have been chatting with is meeting a need that your husband isn't, but that doesn't mean that you should leave. In my opinion, you should definitely give your marriage a chance and break it off with the chat guy. Try either a local counseling office that specializes in marriage counseling, or speak with someone at your church. I hope this helps you.

SilverBbe <3	just move on u luv him but he duz not love u MOVE ON! meet this guy maybe he is verry nice and u will start a relationship with him

Cracker Jax	Do not do this. If you husband is working 60 hours a week you don't have a lot to complain about and should be working hard to make his time at home more enjoyable with the kids. He works, he comes home and he spends time with the kids. There are a million women out there who would be thrilled to have such a hardworking dependable guy. Another man is not the answer to your problem. Does he have to work 60 hours? Deal with it or get a marriage counsellor but stop complaining.....

Hoops Girl	OMG...get a handle on your present relationship before adding anything else to the mix. If counseling is not the answer for you and your husband, then you need to make a decision. It sounds like you are going for the easy way out. Don't forget, there are children involved...they are just babies...and will be severely impacted by your actions.

kny390	You are going to met a guy you know nothing about, in a city that is not home, at a hotel. Your marriage will be over if you do this. This guy only wants a piece of *** - yours. What I did when my kids were little was have a once a month date with my hubby. Get a baby sitter, and go out to a movie and dinner; miniature golf and ice cream, anything to get some alone time for just the two of you.

Alicia	ok the other guy you meet over internet could be a rapist or a very bad person. ask your husband if he cares about how you feel at all. if he doesn't answer you then either meet the mystery guy or find someone new.

Lisa	Well, it looks like you're choosing to end it. You should have reached out for help earlier instead of reaching for another man.

marajjoya	cancel the trip talk to your husband. Tell him EVERYTHING onhow you feel and if that doesn't help go to counseling. Its obvioust you love him do fight for your marriage.

gasdf a	how dare you what will your children think of you going meeting some random guy in a hotel. Even without children meeting some guy in a hotel is ridiculous.