Is my marriage worth fighting for?

Josee B	You and only you know the answer to that question. The best advice you can get is to look deep inside yourself the answer is already there and just waiting for you to take that step, in one direction or the other. This happened to me as well and that is the best advice I got.

shorty	What you have can't be considered a marriage. I think that you have a good chance of getting an annulment

Jed	Let's hope he's had a chance to grow up and change. If he hasn't, you're in for a long hard ride. I wouldn't make a move until the two of you can be face to face and talk, and I mean really talk. If he isn't willing to do that, then you will know exactly what you are up against.

me_me625	When is enough enough? (famous words from julia roberts in the movie the mexican) :)That is up to you. Love is worth fighting for if you truly love the other person. Give it your all so you know you have done all you could do to try and make it work. If in the end it doesnt work out at least you knew you did all you could because of your love for him. By trying hard especially if it is onsided you may get hurt in the end but you will also feel a sense of relief that you gave it your all. so yes love if worth fighting for its not easy to be in a marriage but if everything was flowers and sunshine we wouldnt appreciate the great things life and marriage has to offer. keep trying if you truly love him.

RCD	time u find someone who can appreciate and to communicate with ...may be this will set an alaram for ur husband n can get back to u also..if u think there is still something in this relationship that makes u to hang on.. do so ...finally u will have to know what u can expect

bobbi	wow what a situation you are in. It sounds like this relationship is a one way street. His street. This is a big decision you have to make and only you can make it. Communication is extremely important if a relationship is to work. If you arent happy something has to be done. Do you think its worth fighting for? If it is then try and get those communication lines open. If not count your losses and try again. Whichever road you take i wish you all the luck, its going to be a difficult journey.

James L	Wow, tough question. I personally believe it is worth fighting for. Marriage is never easy, that's a big misconception. However, you enter marriage as a promise to stand beside one another, through thick and thin. You loved them enough to marry them, you should love them enough to make sacrifices to make it work. Though, that is a two way street. But is his lack of communication or care partially your fault since you haven't found a way to communicate your needs to him effectively enough to make him reconsider his actions. Just a thought, I'm not accusing you of anything. You should consider these though. With that, you have to do what's best for you. But I would try to work it out.

classic1957gal	Marriage only works if both people want it bad enough to both work at it. He's already got some strikes against him. You are the only one who knows if it is worth working at. Even if you do stay with him, consider your future. Is he going to always be the one to make all the decisions without your input? If he's already doing so, chances are he'll expect it to continue that way. It'd be like living your life on a shelf and only getting off the shelf when HE decides. Marriage has got to be a two-way street, give and take, and even tho it can't always be 50/50, there's got to be balance in decisions affecting the marriage. Otherwise, you'll end up resenting him and hating each other.

ohmy	well tell there needs to be changes in the marriage or its over sounds like there isnt much of a marriage to fight for, dont get me wrong if you feel that there is and by all means do, this is a decision that you need to make on your own. just ask yourself if its really worth it

Catmandoo.	Sounds like u have the perfect marriage, all the tax breaks and you dont have to see each other !

no need 4 drama	let his azz go! you knew what he was like before you married him and he joined the service to run from what he has done (getting married) relize that you deserve better and life is too short!!

Feline05	It is always hard to have and save a marriage when only one person is willing to work on it. Call or write him a letter letting him know how you are feeling - give him one more chance if he does not respond then I would file for divorce. That in itself might get his attention and might even save your marriage. Good Luck!

sunbun	only u can decide if u are ready to give up and chuck it all...good luck

jesa ?	All you have to do is ask yourself, "Is this worth it?" If your answer is no - then get out now. If your answer is yes - then talk to him about it. See how he feels. Tell him that although he has already cheated on you before the marriage, that if it happens again - you will leave him.

minniemouse	OK, this is not worth fighting for, and it's about time that you go and find somebody else. Obviously this guy doesn't care one bit about you or how you feel, so leave him, it's for the best.

Miss. American Nightmare	I think that you are very strong for standing up to this for the past 2.5 years. It sounds to me that you have tried every avenue that you could to try and make this work. I think that you need to let him know where you stand. Le thim know that you want nothing more than to make the marriage work, but you need him to pick up some of the slack....

Kerry	Any marriage is worth fighting for. The consequences of breaking up are not the "best" or easiest" thing to do, but create other, more difficult problems. Especially if you have children. The skills you can aquire through fighting for you marriage will not only help your marriage, but will help you as a person.

jamaicanguy19	ppl get married and live for 20 30 years and get divorced, i allways say if you are not happy y put up with it the other individual aint worth all the headache and sleepless nights

hsmommy06	Communication is the key to a sucessful marriage. That should tell you there. I am not telling you to leave your husband, but is there is no communication then your marriage isn't much of one.

xcbuffrunner1	I think you should fight for it. Think back to the reasons why you got married in the first place. Keep those priorities #1.

ptstrobl	Joined the service without discussing it? Dump him. A marriage is a team--you make team decisions.

SamCam	Do you love him? Yes? Fight for it, by all means!!! No? Divorce.

Pumbaa1976	Sounds like this marriage was domed from the start..I would move on to someone who can appreciate you and your needs.

kitkat	He didn't twist your arm to marry did he? Wait until he comes home and get counseling. You should do all you can to save a marriage.

â™¥Meowâ™¥	you both need to sit and talk woman!, he's a cheater for god's sakes!! what r u thinking

urguy71	i think you already know who you want to go out with but ur asking for us to tell you its ok

Superdog	Listen to James Taylor songs

reba	find someone else, you know he can cheat in the service dont you!!!!

chris_in_pdx	Doesn't sound like much of a "marriage" to me.

John H	Get out