Is my wife being unfair?

what was i thinking!!	well karma has finally come your way.so if this was an agreement then its time for her to feel what you went through.

arya	At first, 9 years ago, what was your idea for forgiving your wife. Was it because you loved her or because you know your own erratic ways and you want to get back at her. A husband and wife,....its not a tit for tat relationship. Ofcourse, I agree with you on the fact that you forgave her so you were sweet cos' you loved her, but coming to your question, it looks like you forgave her cos' of your '''get out of jail card free'''...whatever and then you '''WANT''...TO GET freaky with a younger chick...which leaves me in doubt if you actually forgave her because you love your wife too much.... Your wife is not unfair. You are. Yes, your wife made a mistake 9 years ago (god knows what ages you were) and now it looks like you are making an excuse of ''that'' 9 year old mistake to actually have a selfish motive....so your wife making out or cheating has no diff on anything.... You are lying. Face it. You are using excuses. If you felt you want to hit out on your wife you could have done it 9 or 8 years back, which you didnt, or you cud have divorced. Instead you waited, which is pretty clever of you. So you are intelligent, you are not innocent yourself. You are the punishible one. The court is adjourned... good luck

georgiarose	You waited too long! You should have done it a long time ago. It was a stupid idea to play that game in the first place. If you have to do it to her to get back at her for what she did, then you didn't truly forgive her. Forgiveness is moving on and letting go , not revenge. Two wrongs don't make a right. You waited until she fell in love with you all over again and thought that chapter of your marriage was over and now you want to open up old wounds. It was bad what she did to you , but you have to stop playing this game. Just leave if you want someone else.Stop hurting eachother.

Princess	Oh my gosh. What you are wanting to do is terrible. Even if your wife cheated on you, it is unethical for you to want to have a "get out of jail card" and want to "get freaky" with another "younger" woman. Did it not almost kill you when you found out your wife cheated on you? Do you want to cause the same pain on her as she did you? Why would you if you still love her? (and obviously you still love her, or you would have divorced her when she cheated on you). Two wrongs do not make a right. I think we learn that in elementary school. If I were your wife, I would kick your butt out and divorce your sorry self....Being honest here, but then again I wouldn't cheat on my husband.

bindysdogs	Apparently the counseling didn't help ya huh? Your a do do and if you take this chick you want, I hope that the wifie flys the coupe. Your homework is several items here. One...read and study the Definition of ...forgiveness Two...write down three things you learned in counseling....Three...read and study the Definition of humility and fidility. Oh yes, while your at the blackboard, read and define Divorce. I hope you get one.

Roll_Tide!	Hit pig is the right name for you bud!

caroline c	an eye for an eye maks the whole world blind.

BJ	two wrongs don't make a right. A mature adult relationship should not be that way. If you are still not over her cheating on you and still want to seek "revenge" maybe you should not be together. Go to marriage counseling. You two have a very unhealthy relationship. You should be more worried about STDs than getting revenge.

Candace	your right you are a pig!! If you don't want to be married anymore than get out but don't cheat because you seem to think you have a get out of jail free card! you would ruin what little trust your relationship has left. you may think it's unfair but life is not fair we learn that in high school!! DON'T DO IT!!

leah g.	She promised but I think you were supposed to just do it and then bring up the promise when you told her you already cheated. Why did you ask her? You had a get out of jail free card to use. You didn't have to ask her first. That was dumb.

jmd96266	Two wrongs don't make a right.

Mohican	You know the old saying "Two wrongs don't make a right"

emberstoashes_04	Here it is Pig: Two wrongs don't make anyone right. If you want to continue to be with your wife, BE with her. If not, show some decency and get a divorce. It's precisely behavior like this that discredits our gender from being honest, decent, reliable men.

von L	First of all, your wife shouldnt have given you a "get outta jail free card" and you should even be thinking that it would be ok. Both of you are morons.

*G gUrl**	ok if u forgave her for cheating in the past, that doesn't mean u get to do it now. actually ure being unfair now. if u decided to forgive her that was ur problem, if u were not going to get over it then u shouldn't have taken her back. and ur wife is stupid for having said yes then but actually ur both dumb thats not the way things work u forgive and move on not do the same both of u get counseling.

Keep On Smiling	Wow it's not just her problem, it's both of your problems. This marriage is doomed if you make agreements to cheat on each other, lol. I mean yeah it's not fair she got to do it and you don't, but.... the main point is, there shouldn't have been any cheating in the first place! Just get a divorce if you guys are having these silly problems. Oh yeah and "I have this younger chick I want to get freaky with" makes you sound totally creeper :P

Anonymous	I'm pretty sure the imagined "get out of jail free" card was taken more as a way for her to apologize with less guilt and not an actual admission that it's alright for you to get with another woman "just once". I mean, imagine what kind of trust issues this opens up between you two, if you're willing to sleep with another woman based on what amounts to a technicality. Judging by the frankness of your question, it's difficult to tell whether or not you're a troll.

asdfgh	lol your an a**

Letting You Know	Be smarter than that. Stay loyal.

L M	hey this was 9 years ago do you remember how you felt when your wife cheated on you. marriage is not a game you have to grow up you cant use this as an excuse for wanting a bit on the side.

goodgirl	She probably didn't think you'd go through with it especially after nine years. But do you really think your doing the right thing? you know what I don't think you intended to "get her back" so to speak but you seen some woman that you want and your using this as a way to have your cake and eat it too.

andrea	What good does cheating do for the relationship? Yes she messed up but you took her back. Then again, she did to agree with it. The reason she agreed was probably because she was afraid of losing you at the time and didn't think you were actually serious. If you actually do cheat on her, expect to go to counseling, again.

Emily	you cant just sleep with someone to get back at your wife its not right.

It is only my opinion	No, its not right. You have forgiven your wife. Don't cause more problems in your marriage.

Aimes	are you serious?