Is "Girl's Night Out" acceptable for married women?

JRMc43	Speaking as a guy I can only say that my wife deserves a night out with the gals occasionally. When she first asked me about this it bothered me somewhat but when she started telling me about what some of these gals did when they let their hair down it was fun. My wife isn't much of a drinker, doesn't tolerate alcohol very well, so I have little concerns about her going over the top. If there are trust issues then, yeah, I can see where it might not be a good idea but for the most part I say let them have it and turn it into something you can enjoy also. Blessed be~

Maja1228	I have been on many a "Girl's Night Out" or Girl's Day Out" with my friends and I am married. We go once a month a well. And my husband doesn't mind it as long as he knows where we are going, in case of an emergency. We usually go to lunch or dinner and a movie, bowling, dancing at a club or something fun that we can't always do with kids. Getting drunk all the time is no fun, a couple drinks yes, and we always designate a driver. As long as you respect him and you girls are not picking up other men I don't see a problem, unless your other friends are not married and he worries about that. In the end, there is also the option of "Date Night", which is just as fun for you and your husband.

Tess	I'm not the type of woman who needs that kind of thing but I have a lot of friends who do. I don't see anything wrong with an occasional girls night out. I'm sure your husband would be a lot more comfortable if you all went out for dinner and a movie or to just get together at somebodies house. Some couples are OK with the bar scene but we have an agreement that neither of us are. It's my opinion that getting drunk at a bar is just asking for trouble. Even if you don't go there with the intention of looking for it sometimes it has it's way of finding you.

LnC	Your married not dead! Going out every once and a while is fine, as long as you act the same way with your gfs as you would if he were around! Why dont you suggest to your friends doing a couples night out?! That way NO ONE feels left behind!

Sandy Ego	Is it acceptable in principle? I don't see why not. Is it acceptable in your particular relationship? This is only you and your partner can answer. My husband and I have no problem with "nights out", but other people may feel differently. It would make sense to take your husband's feelings into account, no matter how irrational he may seem on some matters.

Valerie X Deleted AGAIN!	I never hang out at bars anymore. Me and my man do not partake in things like this. If I want to sit and drink, I do it with HIM.

Tina P	hmmmm that's tricky. I wouldnt mind my partner going out with friends to do most any activity... but going to meat market clubs or strip clubs would really bother me. on the other hand going to a pub or sports bar wouldn't. I guess for me someone married or involved in a serious relationship doesn't really have any reason to go to a place where people are only looking to get picked up. Ask your girlfriends to have a girls night in one certain house... have some nice drinks, do mani/pedi's, listen to great music, laugh and all that good stuff. I dont think the hubbies would mind that at all.

Skinner	As long as there's no intention of doing more than hanging out with friends, I don't see anything wrong with it. After all, we guys have our guy stuff.... Poker, bowling, etc. However, a bar is a little different. After all, there will be guys there trying to pick up women. (And some don't care about the married status.) So, I can understand his reluctance. As long as trust is strong between you two and no one violates the trust, it should be acceptable.

Laheira2	If that is all you are doing, I don't see what the problem is... then again, I am a girl heh Anyway, maybe your husband is worried that you may end up in a car accident if you all get drunk? If such is the case, maybe you would like to discuss the "designated" driver approach with the girls if you haven't done so yet and then inform your husband. If that is covered, then simply tell him that it should be fine, that so and so is the designated driver for the night. Have you suggested the "couples" night out approach to your friends? That sounds like something fun to do and if the SOs are amenable, could be a way of breaking from the routine "girls' night out".

yeahright	i never ask any permission from anyone, but honestly, i am so not interested in nights out anymore. i prefer to spend my saturday evening with my hubby drinking cognac in front of our fire place. and going out and getting wasted and staying late isn't healthy. so even i am allowed to go out and do whatever i want to i prefer to stay at home

Boss	There is nothing wrong with going out once a month. My husband goes once a week. It is called 'man night'. As long as your partner knows where you are going and how late you will be what is the problem. Communication and trust is what you need here. He must have some insecurities of his own.

KJ	oh yeah... i make my wife go out without me, and she gets hit on million times and come home smiling. does wonders for her self esteem.

ADONIS	of course it is, she goes to a tupperware party and I go to the strip club with my buddies...it's even.

AnswerDude	Going out and having a drink and a nice meal is GREAT and encouraged! GETTING DRUNK should end after college!

chikimlien05	i dont see why you cant go. i ssay go ahead and go. go have fun. get away from being a mommy and a wife for a few hours. youre just going to hang out with friends. its just like if you were going to meet your girlfriends for lunch. but instead of during the day, youre going at night, and your friends will be there to watch your back. so your husband has nothing to be worry about. and its only ONCE a month. yes, girl, go.

PeaceHut.com	absolutely - you both need to be able to hang out with your friends without the other one there. he may just feel left out, but he should be able to trust you. explain to him that it really is just girls. getting drunk might make him worry a little more because everyone is a little more likely to do something they normally would not do while drinking. but let him know you will be good and enjoy your time with the Girls. you might send him a text message or two throughout the night just to let him know you are thinking about him - that might help him to feel better about it. good luck.

Angel	Hell yeah, he should trust you!!

Marina	I think it's harmless, but why can't you go somewhere for dinner that includes drinks like TGIFriday's or 99 or Applebees? Why does it have to be a bar atmosphere? My girlfriends and I get together twice per month and do lunch and shopping or dinner and a movie, or we take off and go to Yankee Candle Outlet or antique shopping or to the beach or some other day trip. I think what bothers your husband is the single women activities going on during these girls nights out.

MetalHeart	Yes. They should go out more. Too many of them stay home and complain.

missmojo78	I go on girls nights all the time. When me and the girls are out we may occasionally have a guy buy us a round of drinks, but most of the time the men steer clear anyway. I mean, most men get nervous approaching a women at a bar, and many won't even talk to a women who is surrounded by lots of her girlfriends.

Freedle S	That bar thing can be dangerous but otherwise, I have no problem with it. God, what those girls talk about. And, if you didn't know, our wives tell us all of the sordid details you share. fs

Dixie	i think an feel that its ok to have a girls night out once in a while,, but then its ok too to have all couple/friends to go out to with their spouses,, if there is no trust, communication, theres NOTHING,, if your friend doesnt understand the fact that your not single any more, suggest to her that you girls ought to have a night where everybody goes out, that way its fair

oh_jo123	well a girl's night out needs to cosist of more than going to a bar and getting DRUNK if it is more of a shoppping spree or dinner and talking then I can understand but bar hopping NEVER a good idea

Thera 9	Hell to the yes you should be able to go! Seriously. He needs to get off his high horse. Does he have guys nights? If so, you can have girls nights. Hell, if he doesn't have guys nights, encourage it! It is healthy to have a life outside of your spouse/significant other. Just don't cheat or do something stupid, which is the same advice I would give him.

justasking88	Sure. You have to have an outlet. All within reason and with the UTMOST respect for your spouse's feelings/

CollegeKid88	Girls Night Out should not only be allowed but it should be encouraged! Once a month is perfectly acceptable. Maybe your husband needs to get some guy friends!!!

Brown Water Drinker	My wife does it a few times of year and then they do one out of the country, usually tropical with cabana boys. But Hey, I'm cool with it. Your husband may not be.

~â™¥Truckers Wifeâ™¥~	Sure is..... We all need time to have a little fun... (Clean FUN) that is!

E&L	Once a year, but once a month???

ted.stryker	Yep...my wife hangs out with like 20 chicks and plays BUNKO...I don't mind because I play Poker with the fellas every other week.