Is talking long distance on the phone to someone behind hubby's back cheating?

PippaD	In a manner of speaking 'Yes'. Why is it behind your hubby's back? Something to hide? Imagine if he was talking to some ex behind your back. Been there done this. Yes he was pi$$ed to say the least. As I would have been too. I ceased conversation. As I suggest you do. Or tell your husband and get his opinion, not ours. You know its bad. Your just dodging his reaction cause ya know he's gonna flip.

littletricky	If it's not cheating then why not tell your husband. If he spent time talking to another woman behind your back, how would you feel?

janeyr	Cheating = deceiving = lying = Yes, you are a cheating, deceiving liar.

stickchew	A secret is a way to hide the truth. You know what you are doing is wrong thats why you can't tell your husband. Yes, unfortunatly not telling the truth to the person you stood under God with and made a union called marriage is considered cheating. Be a sacred woman.

pandabear	What?

nolova_nolova_nolova	yes it is cheating not by touching but by not being honest with yourself. will you like your husband to speak to his ex-girlfriend like how you are doing and would you appreciate he did not tell you. answer this why don't you tell him if you don't hink is cheating. honey if you married, you cannot have your ex-boyfriend as a friend

hazel b grand	How would you feel to find out that your husband was keeping a relationship going with someone and hiding it from you? Anything that requires secrecy (dishonesty) in your marriage weakens the bond. Why are you playing with fire? Stop kidding yourself and betraying your husband.

deborah g	It's not cheating, but it is being deceptive.

bossy	I believe that it is cheating if there is emotion involved when talking to this person. I am engaged but still talk to mi ex`s mi fiance knows cause i am not emotionally attatched and have nothin to hide.

terasa425	If there is an emotional attachment it could come across as cheating if your husband found out...through,say, the telephone bill! Besides, it could wind up bringing up old feelings, fantasies or more.

âˆž sky3000 âˆž	It's all about your intention. I don't have a problem with my woman talking to other men on the phone. They can talk, email and even have them over to the house. If I know about it. I think it's important to have as many friends and people to talk to as possible. However, since you have to ask yahoo if you think it's cheating or not, I think there must be a little something extra in your intentions with this man...yeah, then it's deceptive at least and that's never a good thing to be in a marriage.

i_b_winkn_at_u	Why do you have to "hide" this? Then yes its cheating.

Nette	If it is not cheating then why aren't you telling your husband.?Are you hoping that it will turn into something? I would tell him if I have nothing to hide.

stepintostep	If you are doing it behind your husband's back without his acknowledgment then yes you are cheating. Why not tell him your talking to this man you used to be intimate with and see what he thinks about it. You know why you want to that because you are being deceitful and keeping secrets.

soxthiszisxlove	Well some people believe this and some dont but you CAN emotionally cheat on a person. You dont have to be physical with them to cheat on them... even if your talking behind their backs its still cheating... you should never hide anything even if it is just a phone call. Just always ask yourself is this what i would want my husband/wife to do?

billc4u	yes it is if your husband does not know about it and if it is with an ex it is even worse in a man's eyes anyhow if the shoe was on the other foot and it was your husband talking to an old flame what would you feel? I think it is a form of cheating and most men myself included would not like it at all

hibicent	Yes, it is cheating. Ask yourself why you feel the need to "talk" to this person? Then address that issue within your marriage. Stirring up a past relationship is asking for trouble. There is a reason that this is an "ex", remember why? Obviously there is a problem in your marriage, instead of overlooking it and letting it fester into something that could ruin your marriage, get to work and get to talking with your hubby! Good luck to you.

bibliophile31	I don't think it's cheating, but I think it could LEAD to cheating. Also, try to imagine how you would feel if your husband was talking to an ex of his.

PAK	Is it cheating? Yes. Just the fact that you are hiding it from your husband signifies that you know it is wrong and that it would hurt your husband if he knew. As Dr. Phil says, people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Think about it.

mafiosu	If it is something you feel you have to hide from your husband it is dishonest. If it is an emotional connection you feel with this guy then it is an "emotional affair".

dca2003311@yahoo.com	If you have to ask you already know the answer*...

allrightythen	if you have nothing to hide and it is just an innocent friendship, there is no reason to be deceptive.... the person who's opinion on this counts is your husband...if he feels uncomfortable with it, then you need to stop contacting him.

daschund delight	definately shady but not cheating. if you cant tell him and are hiding it then obviously you know it is wrong to some degree. if you cant come clean about it then you shouldnt be doing it.

cherry_pie260	well if he found out and found out you wouldnt tell him im sure he would be a little angry my boyfriend gets mad when i talk to a guy and dont tell him which i dont blame why not tell is there something going on would be what he would think. now what kind of talking like oh your hott and giving each other compliments? cause im sure any guy that really likes you would worrie and mind a little. just tell him so he doesnt think of anything.

Ego's Twin	it is emotional cheating

Maureen	Doing anything in your life that you are ashamed to share with your husband (or anyone, really) may or may not be cheating, but it is certainly not healthy for you or for the relationship.

4mika	It may not be cheating but it is still violating the the trust that your husband may have in the fact that you would be truthful with him about your contact with someone you formerly were involved with. And yes I would be mad if my wife were too do this where as if she were to be open and honest with me from the very first phone call. I might not be because she wasn't being secretive about it or acting like it was no big deal and it may not be but you would have too look at it from a perspective of the once being involved with that person and just failing to feel the need too inform the one your with that you have been chatting it up on the phone and through emails.