Is this normal?

Moonlite gambler	Looks like, time for Counseling to me'. Nothing unusual ... good luck....

spdbunny	Hes is pointing a fingure at everyone else but himself. You just happen to be the closest target. If you can accept this is what he is doing, then the next step is the hardest part. Convincing him to stop blaming other people. Marriages end on less reasons, so i would enlist the help of a certified marriage counsler, for advice at first. He would most likely not attend such a thing at first.

redjellolover	It sounds like this is the kind of person that could degenerate into a very manipulative even combative person over time. I would seek professional counseling and and if that fails because he won't join you, you may consider ending the relationship possibly with some outside help.

jooje@sbcglobal.net	mine is similar. he is very defensive. but finds it fun to pick me apart. i think he is tired of me in alot of ways. there is a deep love between us on one level, but he is seeing that he is attracted to other women and is only seeing the perfect parts of them so he is comparing me to them and picking me apart either to sabatoge our marriage so he can cheat , or he is making me feel so insecure he will never lose me no matter what he does. it is called manipulation. He is probably the one who is the most flawed, only can not see because he is too vain.

berry	He is cheating and wants to irritate you so you'll leave him. Then he can marry his lover.

sexydiabla592	girl come on. you said yourself getting worst. you don't need him and you sure don't the abuse. ( mental ) forget the loser and get on with your life away from now. now will make this a**hole happy because his self esteem is down on himself and feels he's gotta dog you about offending him. all i hear is him and trying to talk to him and him again. when will it be you.

frustrated female	It sounds like your husband is an insecure @ss! I'd tell him if we can't talk about how I feel without him getting mad maybe we shouldn't talk. You may want to see a marriage counselor or consider divorce, if things are that bad. Sorry, but you should have found out what you got yourself into before you married him.

lonnie_m_d	This needs to be addressed and unraveled by a counselor. It is obvious that he is having issues dealing with his feelings, and anger is over riding all logic. Please let someone who knows how to begin this process help with you and your loved one!!! Huggs and Kisses,,, Lonnie

Haresh Bhagia	I think this is a case of egoism. Your husband seems to be too egoistic. He thinks that whatever he is doing is correct. If anything is wrong then you are to take the blame. There is only way out. You have to be more positive. Try to understand where you have to agree with him If you feel he is wrong. Then I feel to save your marriage, Silence is Golden.

TRUST_ME	Well, believe it or not, men are just like that. My husband does the same thing and I have concluded that men just have to be right. The best advice that I can offer is to just watch what you say and how you say it. If you make yourself more open and less confrontational, he will have no choice but to do the same. My grandmother always said that the best way to avoid an argument is to hold water in your mouth. If he is going off on you, just drink some water and hold it in your mouth. That way, you won't be able to respond and he won't have anyone to be mad at but himself.

Eeyore	Sounds like mine sometimes, it is usually when he knows he is in the wrong and won't admit it. Other than that things are pretty good. I have learned to just laugh at him and tell him I am on to his game and and that he knows he is wrong and so do I. I know that is a short answer and the problem is a long one. I can't explain it the fight can last for days. He changes it all around and makes it my fault. When it's all his problem. When I really get "onto" what is going on I tell him so.

gretchen856	This sounds exactly like my parents marriage. They tried counseling. But the counseler agreed with the one who is in your situation and the other didn't like that! I think you should try something to save your marriage, but if this is verbal abuse then I don't think it would be healthy for you to stay. Nobody deserves to be treated that way!

techvolts	He seems to be going thru some personal and dificult times of his own. Seems to me that seeing a marriage counselor would a good idea for both of you.

cpi	Did this just start recently? If it has, have you considered that he might be having an affair?

iltmaemc	sound like he is withholding information from you. so anything about him might spark the defense mechanism he is putting up.

mo	Okay you need to leave him and then see he is going to crawl back to you like a dog.

Nutsters-ChickÂ©	4 the sake of UR own sanity U've got 2 stop being a Doormat! Answer him back, no man has the right 2 treat his wife so badly. If he has some under-lying issues he really should seek help. Perhaps U would both benefit from some Marriage Guidance. Failing that drag him 2 the Docs 4 a check-up, huh? :)

Sean J	As a man, here is my advice: bring this up to him one more time in private, but if it goes the same way, talk to one of his friends (his friend, not your friend, and not a "mutual friend") and see if they will be willing to be with you when you talk about it. His friend is only to act as a moderator, saying things like, "Woah, boy, she's just asking..." or "Hey, girl, that's below the belt..." not to actually get involved in the content of the conversation or take sides. Obviously, you'll want to choose one of his friends who is a good communicator, but if you brought one of your friends or a mutual friend, it would feel like he was being ganged up on.

jimbobb1	He needs therapy for anger management. I would be surprised if he has not hit you. This is the type of behavior exhibited by abusers. You really need to think about getting out of this relationship.

Cheane	he is mentally abusing & manipulating you. ....which is just as bad as physical abuse. get help or get out now.

jack b	Marriage Councelling. You need a third party to be involved to help him put things into perspective.

Justsyd	He has an anger problem that has nothing to do with you. If a person truly loves you they will not blame you for everything, or attack you. If he has pushed you then you need to leave, it will only get worse. You need to realize that you are in an abusive relationship and you need to protect yourself.

bbfyhjd	I went through that to. I found out that my partner was critizing them selves so much and then when i added to it , it made it worse. Its almost like they dont want to know reality.

Ahijado 3	Sounds to me like he is the one with the problem. He's trying to point the finger at you. I think that counseling is in order. Please don't just sit there and be attacked.

alter_tygo	it may be normal, but it's not healthy. you cannot go on like this, as it's bad for you! try couple's counselling or marriage counselling. if he won't go, go yourself. in the US call 1.800.doctors to help you find a person to help you guys out.

The::Mega	Do you actually try to discuss it or say the same thing over and over again. Seen a lot of that... called 'floggin` a dead horse' for a week about same item until a person can not take it anymore and anger develops followed closley by an outburst

Sindebad	dont worry all thing will be good

sahm2boys	Yes, the truth hurts and it sounds like your husband can't handle the truth. I suggest seeing a marriage counselor. Good luck!

Brat	Yeah its normal husban's get weird once they have like more than a year married with you like me!

*PKitty**	he definately needs some counseling before he blows his top one of these days