Is this situation too young to marry?

toygirl	Age is a huge factor when it comes to forming relationships. Think about 40 years ago, nobody would bat a eye if two teenagers got married. But nowadays it's looked down upon..... The only true answer to this question lies in the hands of the two involved in the relationship. You say they've been through a lot in there respective lifes, then nobody can tell them what to do. Life is a great big school lesson...you won't learn unless you attend class.

Sturm und Drang	Yes. People change quite a bit in their 20s, so I personally think it's best to wait until your late 20s or later (I got married when I was 29). Also, it's really hard to truly get to know yourself and understand who you are if you are married; this is a major part of your early to mid 20s. It's also very hard to attend any postsecondary education if you're married (yes, it's possible, but why make something harder than it already is).

terliuke	In the next 5-10 years they are going to change as the people very much. Their plans and desires for the future will change more than once. What about the college years? Are they going to the same college? So yes, they are way too young to get married. Why not to date for another 3-5 years and see what will happen?

sara e	yes, but that is really their decision. The only thing people worry about is that they may change their minds once they have grown up a bit. Plus my boyfriend and I are both 19 and we would get married but we know that we are financially unstable for that and just want to wait until we are truely ready. If they think they are then that's fine, as long as they both agree on the decision.

Mr.J3	I think at that age they haven't received enough experience in life to teach them enough things. I think they should live life a little bit more before taking such a strong step and move ahead together.

cb	There is no reason to rush into a marriage, and many reasons not to. Whatever age you are, it's a terrible idea to marry someone you have been dating for less than a year. Most people know at about 2 years whether they want to continue a relationship, so at least 2 years is the minimum I'd say is smart.

shauna	yup, too young. if they are in love and everything is great, they should be patient enough to invest in the relationship to give it the best chance at success possible. studies have shown over and over again that teen & young marriages have a much higher divorce rate than marriage btwn adults. they should definitely attend pre-marital counseling and finish school before marriage. they should be able to FULLY support themselves without help from mommy & daddy. that means paying all bills, health insurance, car payments, car insurance, medical bills, entertainment costs, etc. if they are "meant to be" then their love will only grow as a result of their maturity & stability as they become adults.

imre_14_2000	i think they should just stay together and not worry about getting married, what difference will it make if they are married. They shoudl wait untill they are on their own and living together a while, then when they are financially stable get married. The divorce rate is currently almost 50% because people get married before they are really ready.

ndnqt1966	Absolutely too young to marry...no matter how mature you or anyone else thinks they are. If they really love one another now...then they will still love one another in 5 years.

bl00dsuckr	let them marry ASAP. check in on them in 6 months, and tell us who is suing who for what. if ppl want gays to marry... y not kids... I mean.. kids are ppl too!

?	Yes. While they may seem to fit together really well now realistically they are so young and probably haven't experienced life yet. They shouldn't rush into marriage just yet but maybe they can move in together when the younger one turns 18 so they can see how things really are when you are with someone all the time. Then they will really know if they can see a future with each other.

lynnsanner@sbcglobal.net	About 4 yrs to young,if all is normal.

fire4511	Seeing as they have only known each other for 9 months of so, it is too early to make a lifelong commitment! They are a bit young, but I have seen cases where it works out well. They should continue to see each other, but not plan on getting married for a while!

Sara	Are you the one getting married? I don't believe it's too young, no. However, can this young man support you? Does he have a job? Go to school? Make sure you have a SOLID foundation set before you jump into a huge responsibility as marriage. Other than that, congrats!

matt	yes

mom of 4	yes they are too young and if they do love and care for each other they will finsh college and high school and get a great career started first them marry . they still have their whole life to be together. dont rush into anything.

cheetah	yup its too young! what have they achieved in life? what are their careers? how will they raise their children? on state benefits , that wont be enuff i think!!

Arthur W	The idealage for a couple to marry and survive is around 24-25. Most of the games are played and over with,college is usually done, ad have matured considerably by then with a good outlook on their future

nichole l	no its not to young if they know what they want out of life, some things are just meant to be and when to love each other they should know that.

goodcook	yeah, that's pretty young, the odds of staying together for the long haul are pretty slim, though young couples have been known to stay together. my son married when he was 19 and is still married, has two kids and they continue to do well. Its been 6 years now.

BabeHart	Yeah, too young to be committing to each other long term already...chances are high it won't be long before one or both starts to wonder what they missed out on. I married at 19 and it was too early...hadn't experienced enough life as an adult before I got married.

janicajayne	Of course it is. How will they afford a house? How will they afford children? One of them is still legally a child. They have bright futures now, but what happens when she ends up knocked up and he has to quit college to get a full time job and she can't work because the pregnancy makes her too sick? Graduate college first, then get married.

getmymackon	Yes they are still too young, they haven't experienced life and all the ups and downs that it brings. They have centred their lives around the two of them together forever while that is ok now will it still be ok in 2, 5 or even 10 years down the track.

kat	Yup.

firemouse23	To lesser mature persons this would be too young. If they are showing a maturity level that is of someone much older than they are, then no it is not too young. Age is not the factor here. Maturity is the factor that counts. As long as they know and understand what they are getting into then they will be fine.

mysterious	yes way 2 young! need time to learn and discover each other it may just b the beginning fling in a relationship you never know after a while the romance and the feelings might b lower and then they start to see each other's real side.

just a girl	Too young. Many people feel that way early on in a relationship.

Ricky	Are you part of this couple? LOL. Lots of couples this age make it work for a lifetime, but it is rare. When you hit your 20's you change a great deal. Sometimes you both change together and sometimes you drift apart. It's hard to know.

Cher	yes, if it is meant to be then taking is slow will prove that it will be

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