Let me try this again.....??? Would you tell her even if she's in a happy Marriage??

AngelVirgo9206	Yeah its sounds like in this guy delusional mind that you would agree and run off with him what you told him was the right thing to say and if he has any respect for you and your husband he won't bring it up again good for you GF!!

tempoutofcontrol	You say: "I am trying really hard to understand why he would do this??" My answer: because he is interested in you! I question your anguish about this. Us guys do weird things when we are infatuated or in love. If I were you and I was truly in a happy marriage then I'd politely tell him that I did not share the same feelings. However, if I was not in a happy marriage then I might become confused or question my marriage. Who knows perhaps, I'd even post this question on Yahoo Answers. But I'd only do that if I had second thoughts.

amandy245	maybe he really does like you. he just wanted you to know that. but since you are married and he has a girlfriend, i think you handled it the right way.

Sean J	I think you responded right. As to why he did it, sounds like he wants to see if he could steal you from your husband. He wants to see if he's "man" enough...

gabby	maybe he just wanted to see your reaction- if he has a gilfriend-he probably doesn't love you -tell him you are going to tell your husband-see what his reaction is-

â™¥dream_angelâ™¥	It's obvious that he said it because that's how he feels for you and he was hoping that you felt the same. If you are not interested in him then you did the right thing by telling him.

berry	Then keep it to yourself. As long as you don't allow or participate in any cheating with him, you and all of you will be fine.

Quasimodo	Why do you think he told you? Think. What advantage do YOU think he might have forseen? A physical relationship at least. But....kudos to you for saying what you said. You are indeed smart and have standards. So stop trying to delve into this and look for easons or answers. See...everyone nowadays wants reasons as to why this or that happened. Sometimes there aren't any answers. Now...if this fellow persists after you've made your feelings clear to him then I suggest you sit with your husband...tell him what the story is and gently suggest that you do not want him to kill the guy but to cool the relationship with him. Ask your hubby to say nothing but little by little disolve the friendship. Good luck.

watergirl	He wanted to let you know he is interested in the off-shoot you might be either available or interested in having a relationship with him. I'm glad to hear you let me know in advance nothing can ever come of the situation.

harmony	if i were him, i won't tell you a thing. once you're taken, it's off limit. if i were you, i would tell him, what the f? i'm taken and you have a gf? you're an as_s for telling me this. don't you ever talk to me again. baby girl, he wants you on the side.

Jersey Boy	He should not of said anything unless he wanted to act on it. Tell your husband what is going on and that you are disturbed by this. A united front works best in this situation. Your friendship may end, but at least you stood by your husband and were honest with him.

naturelover	if i were him i would have never said this, n if i were u i would have said no. coz its wrong u r married he has a gf ,whats the point. maybe he is trying to take advantage of u, beware.good luck.

I'm Gonna Tell You	I think he just loves you. It's okay for someone to love you. Doesn't mean he wants to screw you. Maybe your making more of it than nessasary.

citizen high	Marriage is a marriage !! it's not a game ! You know that ! He knows that ! You husband knows that ! All the world know that ! So , what advise I would give you !? Be cool !!!

Kitty	I have no idea... No, I would not have told someone such a thing out of the blue. It's just retarded.

momof4	Seems to me like he is just trying for the UNATTAINABLE. That isn't uncommon with either gender, when you shouldn't or can't have something all of a sudden you NEED it. And with you being married and him having a girlfriend that seems to me like what is going on here. You did and said the right thing now just make sure you stand your ground and don't think that this will be the last thing he says to you about it. Just make sure you are always on your guard, you don't want to make a mistake you might regret.

yokrem	I think you handled it exactly as you should have! Cudos 2 U!! The reason he told you.....that's a bit tough. Well, he is a man, and men really don't think before making a bafoon of themselves. Possibly told you to see what your reaction would be and if he had a shot?! Since you turned him down, now he can pursue a closer relationship with his girlfriend.???? Who truly knows what men are thinking except themselves. I agree about not telling your husband. You seemed to have handled it very well, and if you aren't too uncomfortable with him being friends with your husband, then just go forward with life!

BOO	I think he just wants to sleep with you

John B	The answer is one word. "Attraction" When a man finds a woman attractive and then finds that attraction so strong he believes it is love it would be very hard for him to suffer in silence. He wants very much to be with you. No doubt a very strong attraction. He knows that unless he tells you how he feels nothing would ever come of it. So he says this with the hope that you may have some of the same feelings for him but just not saying them. That hope then would extend to your divorcing your husband and being with him or at the very least have an affair with him. We men are very good at fantasy in regards to woman believe me. If I were him I would not have told you unless I could see you were not happy with your husband. If I felt for one minute that you weren't I would make very sure you knew you had someone to turn to. Just tell him how this may have affected your friendship. He will not want to loose that so he should then back off.

GrnApl	OMG R U blind? He's setting himself up with a lil side bootie. Having a girlfriend already and saying what he did to you shows a clear disregard for her and no respect for you. Did you tell the girlfriend when you met her? Did you tell our husband? What's wrong with you? You sound like you enjoy entertaining the idea of an affair which b4 long means you will go thru with it. Where's the respect for your husband? Quit making excuses no1 here is going to think "oh, wow she is soooo desireable".

desayunogratis	Well If I were attracted to you like he is (and by the way I am)I would tell you upfront what my feelings are.In my case they are purley animalistic. He might want to try a discreet relationship.Not all people eat the same thing everyday, so He might just be the special of the day,during a week of brown-bagging it.

mizsinister	tell on his ***

Su Z Cue	Somethings you never know the real true answer to, and this might be just one of those things. I will suggest to you however, that if you value your marriage, that you keep your distance from this person.

loveable	He told you cause he thought you would be intrested in him an maybe you all would have hooked up. You did the right thing and if he tries to hit on you, you should give him a warning and the next time warn your husband:)

silly billy	Sounds like he was hoping you'd leave your husband! People say these kinds of things for various reasons. If you ask me, he should have kept it to himself. Nothing good will ever come of him saying that. Seems to me like a 'normal' respectable person would NEVER say that to someone who is happily married. Especially if he is in a relationship as well. I guess he just felt he had to get it off his chest! You should slap him. Not cool. =0)

vanhammer	I think you gave him the best answer you could have. It sounds like he's "testing the water" so to speak to see if you're up for something more than friendship. He sounds like he's trying to invade your marriage. If you love your husband, Stick to your guns and don't give in to him. I would reinforce what you already told him.

C live	regardless of his reasons I think you should leave him alone and tell your husband

ca_dahlberg	WHO KNOWS WHY THE GUY WOULD SAY THAT TO YOU. MAYBE HE'S TRYING TO RATTLE YOUR CHAIN. I WOULDNT PUT ANYTHING INTO IT. JUST LET IT GO. AND OBVIOUSLY IT CANT GO ANYWHERE BECAUSE YOU'RE MARRIED. SO LET IT GO AND JUST BE FRIENDS.

itsmyfault82@sbcglobal.net	I hate to say this, but it is selfishness. If I were him, I would not want to ruin my good friends marriage, I would chalk it up to a crush. If I were you, I might just put the friendship on hold. I would let him know that nothing will ever happen and that I love My Husband. And I would also put the friendship on hold for a long while. Otherwise, you might be tempted to explore the what ifs. And then I would fall deeper in love with the man I married. I think that he would not tell you something like that if he is really your friend. That is bound to cause nothing but chaos in your relationships. It was selfish because he only thought about what he wants. Which is for you to think about him in that way, for you to have a wedge in your marriage, and for you to reciprocate. Boy, oh boy... Why would he do that?! Good Luck!!