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scooba	I'm not sure anger and swearing are the same issue. Regardless of how angry he is, it is well within his power to keep the name calling out of it. Knowing he can apologize and make up later won't make him stop. Next time take him up on it and leave. Take your time coming back and get the point across that enough is enough and let him know he needs to grow up.

OFFICER CAMPBELL	he defenitly has anger issues and needs help he should not be cussing at you

Will	talk to him

Serious Mandy	Wow.. that is so disrespectful and immature of him. He obviously has anger issues. With you, or himself. To physically flip you off.. that is not just anger, but hatred! I would take his advice, pack my things and leave him. My husband I do not have big issues to argue about. When things get heated we talk like mature adults. I may curse when I get mad.. but it is never towards him, and it is never personal.. it is just a potty mouth. But wow.. You need to sit him down and ask him what he wants.. Sounds like he may actually want you to leave, and has been waiting for this fight to arise to tell you just so. Bless your heart!

silver butterfly	just tell him when he acts like that, it hurts you. You don't need to put up with it. I say give him the option of counselling, or that you'll go stay with family until he's resolved his issues. good luck!

ann.natalie	People say things in the heat of the moment, maybe he feels bad afterwords but I don't think it is alright for him to talk to you like that. It is disrespectful. It sure does sound like he has anger issues. Ask him to talk to someone and tell him how bad it hurts when he talks to you like that. Good luck

RdSoxFan	Yes, and no. It is normal to say terrible things in the heat of anger. I'm guilty myself, so is my sweety. Birds do fly around I sware that you'd think it's a migration. I know friends that do the same things, we are a new more "expressive" generation. Meaning, I couldn't see my parents do that to themself, nor seen them. Can you imagine :)? However, they are very strong words, they were thrown out since sometimes they're on the tip of our tongues, not because we really mean them. Because, we always make up and apologize for such fights and words used. (We are both very type-A strong personalities) So cheer up, you are not alone. Marriage is not easy, it will test your temper, but the making up is the sweet part. Now, if you never fought, then, worry ! Because, there is something seriously wrong...

aquired	My wife and I never argue like that. We only bicker and it is nothing serious. You husband has a problem. He is not the only one like I am sure, but he needs help. Sadly, he probably will never change and from seeing other relationships fall apart for that same reason, yours probably will too. A person can only deal with that type of verbal abuse for so long. Good luck chicky

jaredsmommy2004	All couples argue this is granted .. but there should still be respect in that area. If he unable to control his anger, or not able to talk through the situation then he needs to find another way to vent it out. Its not acceptable for the name calling, to down grade you. I would strongly suggest when things calm down and you are able to approach him on the situation. Explain to him that when he yells at you, calls you name how deeply it hurts. In addition I would suggest to get him into counseling to deal with his angerment - and couple counseling for the both of you to learn how to communicate. Yelling never resolves anything. Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

JACKIE M	Well we all say things out of anger and most of the time we regret it later. If he said he is sorry and he didn't mean it then just accept it and try and get passed it. ALL couples fight and argue and it is ok we all have to let things out sometimes we let build up as long as it NEVER gets violent...Good Luck!

kellygirlaj	It's common in any relationship to have disagreements and differences of opinion, but it is NEVER right to call a person names or belittle them. You are right, he does have anger management issues, and he needs to work them out. As for you, stop beating yourself up about what his problems are. Maybe you two could benefit from a little time apart. Since it's the weekend now, if you have nothing holding you back from leaving, see if you can stay with a friend for the weekend, or stay in a hotel; give yourself time to heal from this verbal assault. Something else you should do. Since you've made up with him now and everything is rosy, tell him that the next time you have a disagreement, you will NOT stand for being called names, and if he does that, you will call the police and have him arrested for assault. Be prepared to do exactly that If he starts up, and don't back down. If he tries to stop you, leave and go to a neighbor's house and have them call the police. You are a woman and should be treated with respect and dignity.

WhyNotMe	that's a bit much with the name callin, he needs to get some anger management classes & u to need to also go to couples couseling. good luck!!

I'm all yours	I'm saddened that today you feel so low. I had a fight with my wife over the past few days. It never came to name calling, but there were longgggggggggggggggg hours of being chewed out. It's hard to get over these feelings. I can feel being in your situation. I'd like to talk to you one day.

fouracesrwild	I think you are describing what I go through almost every month (lol) My husband has anger problems, he says mean things when we fight and Throughout this I know he still loves me We make up and its fine for ahwile until he gets real stressed from work. But im sure he still loves you

robsnor	I have sympathy with you. Unfortunately when we (male and female) get angry we tend to say things we do not mean and afterwards regrets it. My wife and I go thtough this every now and then but we sort things out are are still happily married after 13 years.

jenn03	ask him to go to an anger management class because he can be mad at you without disrespecting you :) good luck

sarapooh	YOUR HUSBAND IS VERBALLY ABUSING YOU .HE MAY PHYSICALLY ABUSE YOU LATER ON. EITHER HE GETS HELP OR YOU NEED TO GET OUT.

fancey	all married couples argue and say things they regret latter that really hurts the other if this happens alot get cancelling try to get his and your anger under controll

Michele S	WOW! Sounds like we are in the same boat. Same thing happens to me, been together for many years and every argument, he does the same thing and then after, very appologetic, but the names DO hurt and leave scars upon our heart. My hubby and i have spoken about it,been to counseling,both together and seperately. Bottom line, it is UNACCEPTABLE for him to treat you this way! My hubby has admitted that there are anger issues unresolved from his past that have nothing to do with me. Anger management is a definite. We try to make excuses for their behavior, bottom line, it is abuse! No excuse. I wish you luck.

aaricka	this is not what I call a marriage I been here you don't deserve to be in this type of relationship ..You have two choices Get a professional to help you work things out (both of you) Or just plain get out Both of you have issues with each other As for who packs bags, his is suggested here

tours	i think he is ok, if he loves you, dont worry abou tthat, just he looks very bad when he got angry, i think you have to forgive him, and when it is good time, tell him how you feel when he tell that bad things about you, try to be open and express what you feel ... take things easy he still loving you.

BIG WILLIE THE GEORGIA TITIAN	if he loves you no matter how mad he get he should not call you names baby

jolie minouche	It's abused but I'll be the first one to admit in my case i the one that do the cursing,I've been married to my husband for 8 yrs and i love him very much ,would not want to change anything about him because his very good to me but when i upset i loose control and i said nasty things to him because I'm hurting not because of him but i finally realize when i meet him i came into the relationship with a lot of baggage and i couldn't believe he can be that good of person,always thinking that his going to hurt me one day but I'm going to get him first ,but after years of doing it i realize that i couldn't continue to hurt him like that and i decide to change,I'm still not perfect but i change a lot .i do slip once in a while but i try to control more was coming out of my mouth because seeing the sadness in his eyes was killing me i had to change. i can't say was in your husband heart it's possible for him to love you and regrets saying these nasty stuff to you but he needs help to control his anger.good luck

Joseph S	Dissagreements are normal, but how you handel them show the kind of person you are. Just with your short description I would say he has anger issues. If he only treats you like that when he is angry then what else could it be? The only other thing I would call it is a temper tantrum. So now it is up to you to be the adult in the situation. You have to let him know what he is like when he is mad, and let him know how that makes you feel. The I'm sorrys only work once, after that how much sorrier can you get?

kookie	It sounds like your husband has an anger problem. He might need help. Talk to him. Not all husbands are like that. No wife should be treated with bad words and be mistreated. I'm sorry for what happen to you, I;ll be praying for you.

Not Me	people argue but the words he chooses to say to you are completely hurt full. Not cool at all

cobenour30	yes, it is normal, my husband has said the same things to me.. I guess the question is.. have you talked to him to find out what is bothering him? My husband is bipolar andtakes things the wrong way all the time.. It is so hard to deal with at times, that I just want to give up. but we do love eachother. You need to sit and have aheart to heart talk and no matter what words are exchanged betweent he both of you... keep it cool, and stay up and talk to you can come to find the answer on what is really going on and why it is he feels he needs to call you names..