Married and liking someone else?

chris	Hi, it all depends how you feel. do you love this other man more than your husband? is your husband treating you badly if everything is all fine than just leave it alone. if you have any problems with your husband tell him. hope this works

sassy	Why did you marry him if you liked someone else

b.johne k	you want the cake the icing the pan the oven and even the baker what are you thinking ? the world was offered to you on a silver platter you chose the dinner meal . now after tasting it you want to return without paying to get a sample of a dessert? what planet are you from? we here on earth we call that adultry either way you slice it. whose gonna pay this price?

amazing_creation	What you should do is start living by convictions and not by feelings. You CAN control your feelings and emotions. It sounds like you don't WANT to control them because you'd rather feed your ego and your selfish desires instead. You made an eternal commitment to your husband, and you must honor that regardless of all else. There are going to be times when this is tough (like now) and other times when it will be easy. Feelings and emotions give us a gauge to measure other things. Example: right now there is obviously some need in your relationship with your husband that is not being fully met, so you're inclined to try and 'find' something with this other guy. Living by your feelings & emotions is dangerous. People who get wrapped up in passion, anger, etc. can often wind up doing foolish things if they do not keep themselves in check. As far as your husband: tell him that you "love him to death" and that right now you are being tempted to do something that you know is wrong but that you are going to do everything in your power to stay on track... and that you could really use his support right now.

Level 7 is Best	You're bored. Make a decision: tell your husband and risk dissolving your marriage, or carry this with you for a few more months till it passes. Each path has advantages.

radio80flyer	Stay with your husband and don't contact the other guy. He'll only cost you your marriage and additional heartache.

Richard F	LEAVE IT ALONE. YOU ARE MARRIED!! FOCUS ON YOUR HUSBAND.

uncle_buck71	You made a commitment if you want to end it then end it but do not go and play then say hmmm i think i liked my husband better then try to go back, have a backbone make a choice and live with it.

â€ Evonneâ€	Stop being ignorant. You are a married woman! You should be faithful to your husband. You've made your bed, sleep in it. Marriage is sacred! Marriage isn't something you do on occasion until something better comes along. What is wrong with you? You made your vowel before GOD. That should be taken seriously. Not only are you committing a sin by lusting after another man, but you are also wanting to follow through with being an adulterer. In the Bible, it says; Matthew 5 - Adultery (NIV) 27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'[e] 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Understand that it goes both ways. Stop sinning and get right with God. Make an effort to change your evil ways. You leave the door open to the devil and his temptations and schemes, you will fall into his wicked ways and will be lead astray. You will continue on that path to destruction. Having a lustful affair is not worth your soul. You need to stay away from that other man who is trying to lure you away from your husband. It isn't hard to focus on your husband. Give him that love he deserves. Build your marriage on a solid religious foundation; like rock. Don't be like the foolish builders in the Bible, who build their houses on sand. In the Bible, it says; Matthew 7 - The Wise and Foolish Builders (NIV) 24"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash." also, Luke 6 - The Wise and Foolish Builders (NIV) 46"Why do you call me, 'Lord, Lord,' and do not do what I say? 47I will show you what he is like who comes to me and hears my words and puts them into practice. 48He is like a man building a house, who dug down deep and laid the foundation on rock. When a flood came, the torrent struck that house but could not shake it, because it was well built. 49But the one who hears my words and does not put them into practice is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. The moment the torrent struck that house, it collapsed and its destruction was complete." It isn't too late for you to submit to the Lord and seek HIM whole-heartedly. You obviously knew that this was wrong otherwise you wouldn't have posted this question on here. Your Holy Spirit is trying to work through you. It is trying to tell you that what you are doing is wrong. Listen to it. Don't harden your heart. -Don't give up on the Lord for HE has not given up on you. I will say a prayer that you seek the Lord with all your heart. May you work on your marriage and find peace, hope, love, faith, joy, forgiveness, and prosperity. -Amen. â€ God Bless.

chrissy	looks like you weren't ready to get married.

mistermark	It sounds like you already made your mind up. At least have the respect for your husband to divorce or seperate from him. He is probably a great guy and you're going to absolutely destroy him. To bad, I've seen this wife wants to cheat thing way to often...you're not a bad person, you're just having normal instincts....so good luck to you.

jmiller	Marriage is not something to play with. If you are serious about leaving your husband, then leave. You can't just leave him cuz you "like" someone else. Grow up.

Mary	ok what u r doing is very wrong!! your husband doesn't deserve this!! atleast i don't think so... but anyways u should really get ur feelings straight before u do anything, do u really want to lose a man that really loves u, for another that might later on in life leave u for another one? i mean think about it, u have what u want... right? i mean if u r going to do what u had planned, just tell ur husband the truth don't lie to him, becuz u pay for everything u do in life, it will sooner or later come back to u... there are no breaks in marriages ok...good luck!

Debbie Ann H	YOu are not ready to be married and are being unfair to your husband.You need to get a divorce and than do what ever you want.Until than you made a commitment.Or I guess you forgot that part...

lil ol me	avoid this temptaion .dont even consider it. either you stay faithful to your husband or divorce him but dont take a break as you call it just to fool around . there are no breaks in marriage. this guy doesnt respect your vows or your husband who you claim to love so why would you even consider giving him the time of day. maybe your hubby adn you are in a rut take a short vacation to spice up the marriage a bit.

real kool kat	Not to be insulting but, honestly you apparently are not mature enough for marriage - maybe you shouldn't have done it in the first place. Until you learn to be honest with yourself and the people that you engage in relationships with, none of your relationships are really going to work. You need to figure out what you want before you go dragging other people's hearts into it... Have a heart-felt discussion with your husband and tell him the truth. He deserves to at least know. Good luck.

A M	Ask a therapist

Megan	First off, you should not have gotten married if you liked another guy. And second...you have a different kind of love for your husband. You do love him, dont get me wrong...but its not "true" love. if it was, you would be all about him and never need or want another man. Take a break from your husband. be with this guy and if you cant get it out of your system, then divorce him. even though, in the long run, it will most likely not be worth it.

April	Do your husband a favor and offer him a divorce, so that he can find a lady worthy of is love, trust, affection admiration respect and passions, in his efforts in building a loving marriage. You, from this posting, aren't it.

crazy_green_eyes	I don't break up with your husband, neither with that other guy! It might sound strange but keep both guys and enjot them equally. Hope they don't find out for each other.

Kitty	If you "take a break" from your husband, it'll never be the same. You have to figure out how important your marriage is to you. Most people will tell you that grass isn't greener on the other side, but I understand that you might not want to take our word for it.

fRi5k0 ChIck1980	ok im not an expert or anyhting but i say u should find where your heart truly leads to. even though you dont intend to hurt your husband you will tell your husband how your feeling but first discover who you really want to be with because leaving your husband for some guy you like is takin a big chance because you never know if that relationship is gonna last. because if you really were in love you would never have any kind of feelings for anyone else again communication with your husband i say is the best key to figure out wat u really want

ilswallow	what a hoe.....did you think your vows were just a joke?

Lady L	If your husband maltreated you,I would say...Yes!leave him for this guy!But,If your husband has been giving you such a very special treatment,And has been very2 good to you,love you passionately,Than...,d even thimk about leaving him for that guy...He's not worth your husband.....And you will never know what would be your future to be with him....

Pretty woman	don't even try (breaking up with your husband for someone else). that is, if you believe in karma.

nwnativeprincess	That is something you should have figured out, before you got married. You my sister have serious commitment problems.

rodriguez m	you sound very immature. marriage is a life long commitment, if you don't want to be part of it , then maybe you should not be married. take a break makes no sense, just leave. shame on you, s**t. your husband deserves better.