Married women, what would you do?

ronald m	I have preached and preached on trust and faith in each other in a marriage.Now we see it all over again,why did the husband not talk to his wife about this before the loan?No wait until it all blows up then want us all to feel so sorry for him,that money is his wifes same as his,why was she not in on it?I also don't believe him when he says there is nothing going on,sorry.If my wife(I love her dearly)did that it would be adios amego.So she is doing the right thing ,I think.

.	I would kick his @ss! If the coworker has financial and credit problems then it's a good bet that this guy will end up paying her bill or ruin his credit in the process.

Sweetie	This is why even if married couples have seperate bank accounts they should still discuss financial matters. I wouldn't be upset that he wanted to help a friend female or male is what would upset me is now because he made a choice and obviously a bad one I and my family has to now suffer. This now puts a strain on his family's finances. I would believe my husband about them only being friends unless I had some other evidence otherwise. I would from now on tho make it clear how dumb it is to ever cosign for someone who is not your spouse or child. and would make it very clear if he ever cosigned for anything again i would so leave him. I mean I can see him loaning some money that way if its not payed back well u didnt really need it you will live but to cosign on something u cant afford and now your stuck and so is your family bad move real bad move. Tell him good luck and tell him to stop hideing stuff from his wife be open and ask for her opinion might of kept him from this trouble in the first place.

Rhyannonn C	I'd just kill him! A marriage is suppose to be about trust and communication and all of that just went out the toilet so yes I'd be more than thinking twice about leaving him

Common_Sense2	i would probably curse him out and kick his @ss! then, i would probably threaten him with divorce..and follow through with it...that's wrong! you just don't do that. that gives this other woman the upper hand on your husband! if she is deliquent on the payment, i'd make him pay the car off and make her sign the car over to him so this woman would be out of their lives for good.

Kitty	I would be furious. There is no such thing as "his" and "mine" in the marriage, it's all "ours". It's "our" checking account, it's "our" credit. It affects both of us. If my husband exhibited such poor common sense and lack of judgment, I would seriously question our future together. It wouldn't matter to me if the co-worker was female, male or hermaphrodite - the decisions that affect both of us need to be made together. I'm all for helping people, but unless we're extremely wealthy, buying people cars is out of the question.

jessica_birdie	It is dishonest for a married man to do something like that and not tell his wife until it is said and done. Afterall, his debt is her debt too. Not just a money thing though, I think it is shady and secretive. The wife has reason to doubt him, even if he supports and takes care of the family. A husband and wife are a unit, and should remain that way.

wondermom	Come on now! Do you really believe a happily, married, responsible man would go behind his wife's back, take out money without discussing it with his wife and jeopardize his marriage all just to help out a coworker? I don't believe it either. His wife is right. He needs to come clean and beg for forgiveness if he wants his marriage to have a shot at all.

undone	Unless my hubby was super-rich with a history of helping out everyone he came across ( which would indicate that there was likely nothing going on and simply the way he is), I would go through the roof mad. Co-signing a car note for some other woman. Come freakin on! He would be out!

Paula D	Haven't you ever heard "nothing is free"? There is more to your story honey. How he takes care of you and the house is a different issue. Don't do the trade thing. He is a good husband so you should let this one go? Notta!! I would be absolutely furious and start digging into what is really going on............

squidsgirl97	Trust is one of the keystones to a successful marriage and by going behind his wifes back and helping out a co-worker, male or female, was wrong. This is something he should have discussed with his wife before making a decision! By being sneaky and not telling her, he only gives her reason to suspect there is more to his story than just being a swell guy! I know that I would never put my credit-worthiness on the line for a co-worker! Would I divorce him? It depends. If it was a one time thing and I truly loved him and thought there was a chance to work things out, then I would give my marriage that chance.

â™‚â™¥â™€Lesleyâ™‚â™¥â™€	i would have a fit!!!! its not only his credit its both of u's. this can help u buy a house someday, etc. common ur guy friend is giving his wife alot of reasons to doubt him. i d really think of stying away from his house for a while.

skaapie	sounds like he is too kind for his own good . HIs wife should be happy that she is married to such a compassionate guy .People deserve the benefit of the doubt , especially people we love . what happened to innocent unitl PROVEN guilty ??

Rodgman	Finances are something that a married couple has to work through TOGETHER. The money he spent wasnt just his money, it was his wifes too. He should not have done this. His wife has every right to be angry with him.

rojo_jojo	I think he was stupid for co-signing. She ALREADY had credit problems. If she is delinquent on the payments, he needs to take possession of the car, sell it and have nothing to do with the woman again.

I'm Special	I don't like what I am reading here! Something as major as cosigning for a car for another woman should have been run by the wife first. I don't know if it means he's cheating on his wife with this woman though?

wish I were	If he would have talked it over with his wife in the first place he wouldn't be where he is. Either he is a total idiot or there was something more he wanted for helping her! He's getting what he deserves, there is a price to pay for being stupid!!! It's his car, tell him to go get it!

Earl	I wouldn't divorce because of that. I wouldn't be happy about it but I wouldn't let it ruin my marriage. I would be more mad because of the risk of her not paying for the car and then my husband is responsible for the loan, which is happening in the case you presented. He needs to repo the car and sell it.

paki	this is not such a big matter that u will go for divorce .ask him in nice way, why he gave money to someone else and than trust him if his attitude is good with u.

Alissa	All money in a marriage is community property. I would leave his lying deceiving @ss. If it were so innocent why didn't he talk to her about beforehand

acmeraven	No good deed will go unpunished.

steph	i'd be kinda pissed..that he wasn't more responsible..as for her not paying for the car.. i'd take it from her and try and sell it now..

carolinaz_most_wanted85	I'd clean out his bank account and stick my hand out every payday to make sure he never did some stupid **** like that, again!

ndnqt1966	I would be pissed off to no end...First of all your friend didn't discuss this with his wife...Second of all he is taking a huge risk by co signing a loan...if she doesn't pay...HE WILL HAVE TO! And his credit will be effected.

TxsWitchWAB	you never help a friend out buying a car....especially a woman, without consulting your wife first....by the way, how much did he help out exactly?

alanastarkey	I'd divorce him. That is a BIG breach of trust and HUGE example of poor judgement.

Anna	first of all a good husband would never even think of doing something like this without FIRST consulting with his wife. second why would you put your credit on the line of aperson you dont know and i am sorry but cant really trust. i wouldnt divorce my husband for this but it would be on the rocks too, its shady i agree with the wife.

Durga sings the classics	I think it's foolish for him to have entered into a financial agreement without having discussed it with his wife first. He's not the only one who will be hurt by the 'other woman' not paying her bill on time. And, I too, would have second and third thoughts about whether or not there's more to the relationship than meets the eye. It would certainly make me question my relationship!

Sugarbabe	OMG. What an idiot. He was thinking with the wrong head, and HE KNOWS IT. Otherwise he would have told his wife. Pay off the car and tell the woman to kiss off. And beg for wife's forgiveness. omg what an idiot

reddevilbloodymary	The friend was a moron to risk his credit for some woman outside of his marriage, his wife and their security should have come first, and he should have discussed it first with his wife.