My bf has choked me 2 times when I was pregnant about 2 years ago, and recently he smashed my head into a wall

mo_shan86	Okay Belinda to be honest with you, you are putting both you and your child in danger. You need to let him go. My ex-boyfriend hit me once and said he'll never do it again and then he did it again. Once a hitter always a hitter. Trust me it will be hard but sweetie please move on. I promise there is a MAN out there who is ready to treat you like a queen and treat your child like a little princess or prince. Please let go if not for yourself do it for your child!!

dixi	Are you waiting for him to kill you or your children? Please seek help and find out why you have such low self esteem. This is just wrong on so many levels!

Lilia	You should leave. Its very sad to say, but you cant trust him not to do it again, and he might kill you next time. call 800-799-SAFE Talk to them, see what they say. They can help. http://www.focusministries1.org/safety_alert.asp You might also find this website helpful. If you cant leave for yourself, then do it to protect your child.

stu22aus	This cannot be a serious question can it? You are gonna get some doozy answers on this one! You should leave your BF as soon as it is feasible and safe.

Gary M	There are women's shelters all across America. Pack up and get out. they normally help you with counseling. Its bad to be in an abusive relationship yourself. But it's worse on your child. What do you think your child learns. It does not matter what you do. It should not end up with you being hit, pushed, tripped, kicked or any other violence. Get out now. Start over. Be happy.

Gorgeous	This sounds horrific. Of course you have to get out of this situation as soon as possible. This is NOT acceptable.

chapes	get rid of him. he knows you are better than he. he is afraid you will find this out. now that i have told you the truth, RUN, before he hurts you and your child.

Moosie	honey you need to go - find a man that will treat you with some resemblance of respect. men that hit women don't change much ,it just gets worse over the years. sorry!!!!

justin_allgood	I have personally been abused by a woman and didn't hit her back because I saw my dad hit my mother when I was a kid and vowed never to hit a woman I hope you are making him get help but honestly even if he says he is never going to do it again it will allways be in your mind and everytime you even think about saying something to him you will more than likely change your tone or body language because you will be afraid that he will hit you

audree	u have got 2 b kidding me. common sense, pleez!

swole6footer	I guess no one has noticed but this person claiming to have been "pregnant" goes by the name of Robert?

lip11	Ahhh, he'll come around.... ---- After reading the responses -- come on people, this is a joke. Read it again - it's ridiculous. If it isn't, then this person needs more direct and immediate help then we can give here....

â™¥â™¥	Ummmm..LEAVE HIM..Its not going to change..Thats an honest anwser...Men like that very rarely change their ways and its going to get worse, not only for you but for your child...For its sake move on.. Good Luck!

Breezer_Ne	If he choked you when you were pregnate that should have been enough. If you are not cheating you should not have to prove yourself. If you stay with him you will live in fear your whole life. You and your child deserve better.

Busy Lady 2010	No do not stay. You have had enough violence and it will get worse. Men like this never change until they are put in a position where they have to learn how to treat a lady. He is acting like he owns you and you are not a piece of property. As long as you put up with it he will continue doing this to you. He is trying to dominate you and he is using his bully tactics. The only way for this to stop is for you to leave. Leave while you can and your child is small. You and your children will be damaged mentally and physically if you live with a man like this.

darkling1k	: amems: GET OUT RUN FAR RUN FAST RUN ALOT.. HESTILL HIT YOU HE WILL DO IT AGAIN . MOVE OUTTA STATE LEAVE NO FORWARDING ADDRESS :coughs:

gengen	ohh no girl...once he got away with the first choke you should had left him..I've been there after the choking comes the smacking,shoving,pushing,kicking,throwinâ€¦ things at you, smashing you head on the wall, then the verbal abuse,and finally the weapons.Please I've been there..don't let your baby see this action..It's horrible to be like a robot with this kind of man..a ROBOT..because you will start listening to everything he Say's so there won't be a fight..You can't look,talk,work,go out..you will become a prisoner of him...Please run run and don't look back ...I've be there..(i was pregnant and he did horrible things to me too)...call the domestic violence hot line 1800-577-7777...and I know he will stop you from using your computer too....intimidating you that you are with another man..which is not true..all this is part of the cycle...man hate when women get advice. Start preparing yourself to leave to a safe place. get your birth certificates for both you and your child social security cards,immunization cards. AND PLEASE DON'T TELL HIM YOU WAS ON LINE GETTING PEOPLE'S ADVICE CAUSE HE WILL STOP THAT TOO.GOOD LUCK..

London Romance	Why should you forgive him for almost killing you three times? Take your child and LEAVE. You don't need someone endangering your kid or yourself.

thaliax	Leave. Leave now. He's choked you and smashed your head into a wall. Just think of those actions as clues. It's not going to get any better. Do whatever it takes to get away from him, and take the child with you.

Brian	It's time to collect your self-respect and leave.

-_-	You can just forgive him but never forget what he's done to you. Once he does this again, it means that there is something wrong with both of your actions with each other that sparks this misunderstanding. I can't tell a specific way that you can take right now. Considering his side, there surely is a reason why he hits you specially in an important moment when you are pregnant.

jacky	is that a joke? because no normal person would ask that question if smth similar had been done to this person. if it is not a joke - he has hit u and he will hit u in the future. after your child grows bigger he will hit your child together with u. my advice - find a battered wives shelter address in your area. next time he hits u or chikes u u leave for the shelter. (if u will be able to move). u might forgive him but he will not stop hitting u ever. even if he gets psychological help. he won't stop.

leadbelly	I will not give you advice to stay. You know, this is 2006 and they have been told so many times don't hit women.

evolvedintofeminist	L E A V E ! ! ! Men who do this never stop. It WILL escalate. Eventually he will hit your child. Leave him and don't ever look back. Don't talk to him about it, save every dime. Start moving your things a little bit at a time or get his friends to take him out fishing for a weekend(or something else he likes to do that gets him out of the house for a few days). Leave, move, don't EVER see him again. Don't let him know about the child. Even if he doesn't abuse the child they will learn from him and he is obviously not fit to have any influence over a monkey much less a child. Be strong for your child's sake. Get out NOW!! Best of luck.

Stephanie	I met a wonderful man when I was 18. I thought he was the greatest man to ever walk the earth. So sweet and caring, I never thought he would be abusive. About 6 months after we were together, he started calling me at all hours of the night, showing up and banging on my door, and even parking down the street. He was convinced that I was cheating although I never did cheat on him. Eventually, he convinced me to let him walk me to my classes, although he didn't go to my college. He became more and more possessive and controlling. He slapped me around, broke ribs, busted and bit my nose, held me at knife and gun point, kidnapped me...etc. I took him back everytime... People ask me why I stayed...I stayed until I was strong enough to leave, I suppose. I stayed because I thought I could change him. I stayed because I thought that maybe somewhere down deep, he loved me. I can say that my X is in prison now, where he belongs. He will never change. Some people are filled with so much hate, they can never love. It sounds like your bf has trust issues, anger issues, and is abusive. That doesn't mean he'll do the same things my X did, but there's always that chance. My advice would be to leave him. You aren't just caring for you anymore you also have a baby. You have to do what is best for your child. Watching daddy beat up mommy isn't the best enviroment to raise a child. No one can tell you what to do. I just wanted to offer my own experiences and hope that it will help you in making the right decision for you and your baby. Best of luck! If you would like to talk to me, email me at scrapbook_lvr@yahoo.com

Amy	Leave him.. what's he going to do next if he lost his temper and get jealous again???

ghadoud2004	forgive him??? this is so dangerous hey may kill u or ur child its very clear that he has no self confidence and he doesnt respect you why should you save ur self and ur child he needs help.... take care of urself and ur child

poo	Leave. Now.