My boyfriend of five years (we have two children together) still has a tatoo of his ex on his arm?

junkman	Well, you are NOT married with children, what is the big deal ? get married to him, then discuss the tattoo

samurai	I guess that he doesn't love him but its hard to get rid of a tatoo and life is easier if you just ignore the problems that we can't solve

California_boy1215	wait, ur avatar is a guy, ur talking about a guy being ur boyfriend..... r u gay?

myheartsvoice	As long as he's not secretly in bed with her i excersice some paitients, not so much for him cause i can see how that would be irritating provided he's flaunting it in your face, kind of like if he had a picture on the mantle of her , but just be a little more tolerant for the kids sake, i mean if you two made your children then i'd say your a little more important in his life than the tatoo on his arm . . .

DEDE	FIRST OF ALL GETTING TATTOOS REMOVED COST A LOT OF MONEY SO WHO IS GOING TO PAY FOR DAT YOU SINCE YOU WANT IT REMOVED SO MUCH. OR TELL HIM TO GET ANTHER TATTOO AND PUT YOUR NAME ON IT OR JUST FORGET ABOUT IT SHE DOESN'T MEAN NOTHING TO HIM ANYMORE THAT'S WHY HE IS WITH YOU!!!!

RB. Johnson	The TAT. is something that he has to live with physically not you. Do yourself a favor and be bigger than being jealous. Mistakes are made everyday even by you and once you do them you cant take it back. This TAT is not the end but just a ugly figure. It's an unsightly mole that brings back a bad past and thats all it is. Don't let this be the only thing that would hurt you after all you are with him, right?

precious	oh no, he would of had that gone a long time ago. that's not even right. you need to tell him to have it removed or covered up with a different tattoo. i know that has to make you mad. i would be anyways. you need to ask him about it and if he doesn't get it taken care of then you need to end the relationship because he still has feelings for sure.

lsp	well im sure its expensive to remove and the end result might end up looking crappy too. Just deal with it--its a mistake he made and thats that.

taa daa	R u a man or woman? the picture shows a man?

Calico L	Does he have the money to cover it up or remove it? Duh it does cost money. And if he had the tattoo when you two got together why do u want him to remove it now. He could get one with your name and you can go and get one with his name. God you are so immature.

P Z X	Maybe he enjoys the tattoo because it is a beautiful design & he sees it as a piece of original art rather than just a souvenier of HER ( the ex). Often "cover up" tattoos are odd looking or ugly & removal could leave a nasty scar. It could also be possible that every time he sees the tattoo he thinks to himself "Whew!! Thank God I'm not with her anymore!!" If he really loves you, maybe the tattoo is just a tattoo...

Kristin A	What you should accept is that your boyfriend has a past. Yes, it's a visual reminder of his past, however he has chosen to be with you. Get over it. If you don't drop it , it will only cause problems between the two of you. It's just a tattoo. It's not like he's calling her, seeing her or anything else according to what you wrote, so your best bet is to just remember that you BOTH came to the relationships with a past, and it should stay there.

Suzy Q	i guess you have been with him long time and i assume you are done with him at least that is what i figure of what you have said. yes even with kids if you are unhappy its bad for the kids they know it and can feel it you would be better off alone and not with him i think hes just pushing buttons and its painful to have them removed and not cheap.

DEFINATELY BLESSED	A picture is only that, a picture. Perhaps he keeps it BECAUSE you make such a stink about it. Unless he is spending time with her....LET IT GO~!

Sunshine	He should consider having it covered since it bothers you so much. But he is with you and not her. I don't give my husband's tattoo a second thought and he had a child by her.

momma_duke	Perfect example as to why you should never get a boyfriend/girlfriend's name tattooed. You can't erase his past... and making him getting the tattoo removed would be you trying to do that......It sounds to be that you are not secure with yourself or even your relationship.... don't live in the past, life is too short.

Frankie J	she's on his arm youre in his heart. dont ruin a relationship that could possibly bring the both of you so much joy over some INK.is that tatoo worth losing the five years you have built with this man .I do beleive if he wanted to be with her he would be. he's built a family with you .the two of you have something no one can tear apart you will alway's be family.

1912 Hudson	I'm assuming he had this tattoo before you dated him and had his kids...so if for 5 years you could tolerate it...what's changed now? Your first mistake was to date someone who was dumb enough to brand themselves with another persons name/likeness....the second mistake was to breed with this person. he's probably not in love with her, just too lazy or broke to have it removed. way to pick a winner!

Destined to Win	See if he's willing to commit to you in marriage. If he never rubs her into you , and never says his ex is better in some way, then way do you feel he's secretly in love?

Sir Richard	He is just your friend even though you were willing to have his children without any commitment (engagement or marriage). He has no obligation to you either, you are just free rides to him as well. Just forget this highschool drama.

JoliCart	I think you should get over yourself. Unless there is some for sure sign he is shacking up with is ex, you are overreacting. It is not like he got the tattoo after they broke up. Have you done any research on getting tattoos removed? It is painful and expensive. Maybe he would rather spend his money on something else more useful...food on the table, mortgage payment, etc.

corey	You should have asked him to remove the tatoo before you embarked on a serious relationship with him.

Pan	You have two children with this man - so you have commitments to him. Is the tattoo a symbol of other problems? If so sort them out and forget about the tattoo cos he had it when he met you. Go for some counselling cos your kids deserve happy parents. Good luck.

HedaNova	DON"T GET A TATTOO OF HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That would be the biggest mistake ever! It's not like you could ever remove it if things didn't work out, much like his of his ex. I would ask him why he hasn't covered it? Is it money, is it a reminder of a mistake he doesn't want to make again, does he still have feelings for her? I had a boyfriend in high school who tattooed my name on him, then we broke up, many years later I met a girl where I worked who was married to him, and he still had my name on him as well, so this is not an unusal thing..

Schwinn	Tatoos are more permanent than relationships.

Courtney	I don't know why you equate him having this tattoo with him still being in love with her. The two have nothing to do with the other. Having a tattoo removed is painful and expensive. Having it covered up may be more difficult than you realize. And furthermore, it's not your decision to make. Maybe your boyfriend feels your request is an effort to control him, and as a result is reluctant to oblige. I wouldn't want anyone telling me what to do with my body - be it a tattoo or otherwise, especially if the reason was due to insecurity. Really, after 5 years you should have worked through this jealousy/trust issue. This has more to do with YOU than HIM (or his ex).

its about time	no sweetie...tatoos are expensive to get removed and its a painful process...so by insisting that he get it removed, you're asking for a lot out of him. It was stupid on his part to get it, but he's with you...so that should couldn't for something. Ask him to wear shirts that cover it, or go back to the tat parlor and have them tat over it if its that huge of a deal...but leaving him because of it? Thats crazy.

zajucomom	Just because he won't remove it doesn't mean he harbors any secret love for them.

New Nana	You have to be the most imature person I have ever seen. I would hate to live with all the issues you come up with in life. Did he have the tatoo the very first time you met him? If so you must haver felt liuke you were cheating on her.

future_writer_dreamer	No. Go and get a tattoo of him, or see if he'll get a tatto of you, but in a more romantic spot. Besides, do you wanna be advertised?