My boyfriend said that most people regret that they had kids.?

kimberelena	No! Obviously your life drastically changes after having children, but having kids is an amazing and rewarding experience. There are things that you may wish you had done before having kids, and maybe there will be things that you miss about your non-parenting days, however you will not regret having had children.

gln2401	Thats his opinion only, I have four sons and would not trade them in for anything. Thats my opinion!

thaliax	I've heard several parents say that, definitely. More than a few people who've had kids have told me that if they had it to do over again, they'd skip the whole thing. I never bothered having kids, myself, and I'm so incredibly glad, after seeing what other people have gone through. A mother of six once told me that having children was the most idiotic thing she'd ever done in her life.

malraene	Your bf needs his ESP adjusted, I know people who had children "by surprise" who wouldn't change it. I not only had 2 myself, I have only regretted that I couldn't have 1 more. If this statement were really true you could tell by the way the people act. I will admit I wish I had the body back, but I will keep my kids.

I'm Gonna Tell You	You miss your freedom to come and go for a little while, but never regret having them. My life before having kids had no direction or purpose. It was a series of making money and spending money. My husband says that he loves that we have children together, it BINDS me to him forever and ever. I am not his family without that binding. Maybe your boyfriend is afraid to be bound to you forever.

Nate	That isn't true. The only people who regret it really are the people who were young when they had them. People under 18. But from people I know, they love that they have kids.

Right Wing Extremist	Your right I would never tell you I regret having my kids, I do not no what I would do with out them they are my life.

scooter2006	not no but HELL NO....they will be ur life...dreams....

kathyseyes	I have never regretted it but, I love mine. Some selfish, trashy people don't like their fun/freedon interfered with. They really shouldn't have had kids. Kids were probably an accident. They are also stupid because nobody has to get pregnant these days. It's just ignorance, stupidity and laziness when that happens.

Lisa T	Absolutely not!!! I had my first child at 16 by my boyfriend of 3 years. I am now 31, and have a four month old baby as well. I do regret missing out on my teen years due to the responsibilities of motherhood, but NEVER have I regretted having my children. Parenting is the toughest job ever. There are times when you just want to crawl into a hole for days on end. However, children are truly a blessing. After a bad day all you have to do is look at them and see their smile, and know that it is all worth it.

intheholycity	Oh hell NO! I have two. They have been the ONE redeeming thing in this marriage!

noname	I wouldnt trade my kids for nothing in the world. It has been such a joy being a Dad to them. There is no feeling in the world any better than when your child says I love Dad. My kids are all teenagers now, not yet raised but I can see a light at the end of the tunnel. Like I said I wouldnt trade my kids or my experience as a father for nothing in the world. With that said though if I thought there was the slightest chance of me ever having to raise another, I would mash my nuts off with a claw hammer.

Melinda	no, i do not regret any part of having my daughter. she is a gift from heaven. i love her so much . and i cherish her with all of my heart. i wouldn't change anything about her or having her. it is great to be called mom.

BRUCE H	that's the craziest thing i ever heard i have a 13 year old girl and she makes my life better every day

Trollhair	That is not true. Having kids when you are not ready you could regret not having the life you thought you were going to have. But never regreting that you did have kids. Wait until you are both ready to have children.

SANDY A	your boyfriend is not right at all people might wish they could be back in there younger days but never regret having thier children.

Raindrops	For me NO, but my husband and I planned our child. She wasn't an oppsie. We often thank eachother for her.

aaricka	Your boy friend is NUTS many people are full-filled with more love when they have children.. And those who don't may even say they wish they had a child Children bring a space of joy that a new car could never bring. A house with the sound of a child is full of magic that cannot be gotten with money A house to me without the sound of a child is empty of magic. But it's his choice and yours if not think about what you want in life and follow your heart. For the joy is yourd to have the choice is yours also

kristy	hellllllll nooooooooo

Nikki	I don't have kids, but I think that is totally untrue. Most people do have to make sacrafices for their kids, but I don't think they regret it for a second. I mean, I'm sure some people wish they had never decided to reproduce, but I'm pretty sure that the majority of parents are happy about their decision.

Matt T	No one will admit that it is true because it isn't true. There are very few that will say that I will give him that, maybe it is him that don't want kids as he likes his life. I have had two kids and messed up and lost them. We haven't talked for years but have I ever said I regret having kids? Never. If I could go back in time and change things would I? No. Even though I sent them threw hell I have learned so much. I lost my wife as of course she left with them but if I was to go back and change things I wouldn't have what I have now. A loving wife that I know won't go cheating and two great boys that I can help because thier dad isn't there for them. I know I lost the time with my own children but God has given me a second chance. I don't know why I got off into all that but kids are a blessing from God and I know very few that have ever said they regret having them. But if you can, wait for the right time and the right man, cousel before marriage and know that your marriage is going to work. Take care and have a Blessed Day, Matt.

curious1	All I can say, is that when my son decided to marry, he and his wife chose not to have children, they were "career people". But although, not planned a child was born. At first his mother resented it as it "ruined" her plans. But then he smiled at her. They now have two kids, the second one planned. They have not regretted what happened at all. The mom is a great mom, and has even quit work to be with her kids. You just don't realize what a joy they are until you have one. Yes a pain sometimes, but not nearly as bad as the pain when they leave home. True, they limit your playing time, but when you are mature, playing with them is so much more fun. I would get a boyfriend who is not so selfish.

Valeria	It's true for me. My husband didn't want kids (I did not trick him) I just did not realize that he was a grown up selfish kid himself. He gave me NO support. Barely any help.He was a nagging thing that gave me stress and depression over my kids. BOTH people need to want the kids! That's all I'll say about it. Best of luck to whoever this is about.

Bug's Mama	Sounds like an excuse to not have kids. Sometimes I miss the freedom I had before becoming a mother, but I certainly never regret having my son, nor given the choice, would I change anything.

connerkent06	i love my kids they have made me a better person before they were born i was selling drugs and gang banging but when my son was born i knew that i had be something that i never had and i wanted him to be proud of me t

Kelli W	No way, i would have my kids. Just would have gotten rid of their dad alot sooner...lol

Tony	My kids are the best thing that has ever happened to me. The reward me with their love. I feel sooo important because they need me soo much. I do not regret having children at all. Can't imagine life without them. Your boyfriend is absolutely wrong. But they are a lot of work and responsibility and they completely change your lifestyle. Be sure your ready to have kids and that you are able to support them financially because they are expensive. You do lose a lot of freedom....but it's all worth it.

tina m	I'm a forty-something single woman with no children. I have asked friends, family, acquaintances, and people that I meet conducting business, and everyone has told me that although they love their children, if they had it to do again they would not be parents. The only person to tell me to have children was my grandmother. She told me to have children so that I wouldn't grow old alone. She has seven children. Well now that she is old, they are too busy with their lives and families to care for her. They put her in a nursing home last September, and it broke her heart. She is now old, and alone.

crazymom	Not true. I will admit it is hard work, I got fatter, I have no life at times. But, ABSOLUTELY WORTH IT! Tell him to ask his parents if they feel that way.

Agnostic Canadian	There are times where parents may say that, but I'm sure they don't mean it.

glenbarrington	I'm surprised that everone has missed the obvious answer (and I think the correct one). Your boyfriend is most definitely telling YOU he doesn't want kids. Not with you, not with anybody.