My ex partner blames me for drinking?

free_angel	Slap him with child support and bet him a bottle of booze that he'll end up being a deadbeat dad.

Sybil C	I wouldn't bother trying to get this man to see his child. If he did and was drunk driving and wrecked and killed your son, you would feel guilty for the rest of your life putting your child in that situation. Just make sure you have a good male role model that is a stable fixture in your child's life. A family member like your father, brother, uncle or cousin would be perfect for this spot, family will always be there. Boyfriends usually dont work for this because if you break up they wont continue the job. Your child will learn that people walk away from them easily.

ÃŸuÎ·Î·iÑ”	WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU WANT THIS "drunk" around your child???? Would you send your son to hang out in the alley with a wino??? But only familiar drinks? He needs to get help for his problem for his drinking then he'll do what's right. As for you you need to think more clearly.

Chuckles	as long as he's acting in this manner...consider it a blessing that your son is not seeing him in such a state.....and when he hears you say that....i'll wager he does an about face....he's trying to punish you with the guilt, of the pain he's inflicting on the child...this knife has two edges ....he needs to redefine his purpose in life

fedupwithlife	That' what alcoholics do blame everyone else!! why would you want him to even be a part of your son's life in that state?

beyonce	I know how you feel. I too have been blamed for everything that goes wrong in his life. Ignore him, walk away with your son. Do not, and i stress do not ever call him begging him to see his son. Dont. you'll be happier and stress free. you dont need this .

Onetoplay	I do think the best thing for you to do is let him figure this out by himself. Don't let your son see Daddy drunk. What we see as we grow up (be it alcohol, drugs or abuse) tends to make us believe is a normal and acceptable lifestyle. It's not. Unfortunately, you will have to be the one to explain Daddy's "sickness". Share the happy family memories with your son and at some point he will be old enough to understand more. Age 8 isn't the time. Every alcoholic places blame elsewhere. Don't take it to heart. It's their way of denial and allows them to feel somewhat justified. Good luck to you. This will be a tough road for everyone involved.

Rosa	Leave him alone with his love for alcohol. Sounds to me like his is an alkie and it's typical of alkies to blame anyone and everything. I know I'm a recovered alkie. Do not waste your time with him. Trust me misery loves company and ask yourself why you would want a drunk to see his son? He is not paying you anything and will not as long as he is drinking himself to death. Go to an open AA meeting to see what you are dealing with. When you get to the meeting tell them what is going on with your life and they will share their experience, strength and hope with you. Good luck and don't contact him or talk to him.

Deana M	If you called the courts and reported the dead-beat dad, he would be forced to pay child support or go to jail. You make it possible for him to afford the booze. Make him pay so he can't buy so much of it. He should thank you then, and not blame you.

lost	his drinking isnt your fault and why would you want you son around that he might learn drinking is ok this guy needs therapy and he needs to pay his child support so get his butt back into court and I am sure you have other role models that your son can look up to so you need to be strong and leave this ex of yours alone but still make him responsible for the kids

accuristau	Oh yeah, it's all YOUR fault that HE drinks. It's all YOUR fault that he won't see HIS son. This guy is a loser, he can't even accept responsibility for his own behaviour. Forget him and move on, you've done your bit. Your son deserves stability in his life, and you can do a zillion times better, trust me! God bless!

Mand P	spoken like a true alcoholic..blaming everyone around for their own selfish downfall. You have tried, now walk away taking your child with you..you want to keep him as far away from the situation as possible.