My ex wants me back but i don't know how to take him back!?

Yasser S	seconde chance

ndnqt1966	I am not sure if you are still married to him or if you are legally divorced....Because of your first statement.....If you really are questioning yourself on "how to take him back"....then I think you know the answer to your question.....If you really want to get back together...I would suggest that you both go to counseling before you get back together.....To get the bottom of why he found the need to bed another woman....

Terri	Cheating is a deal breaker in my book. He should have thought about the consequences of his actions BEFORE he cheated on you. He does not deserve a second chance. That is my opinion.

sarah jane	I understand your desire to maintain your morals- but think of it this way- what is more important to you, providing a good stable home for your children, or staying with your husband because you are "supposed to"? Are you willing to bring your children up in a home with a father who thinks it's okay to call their mother names? Until he is ready to be responsible adult and keep his commitment to you as a husband, don't take him back. Don't be affected by his tears- if he wants another chance, he needs to earn it through his actions.

867-5309 "Jenny"	Don't take him back until you're ready, don't take him back because he's hurting you will only regret it later on just because he's a good daddy doesn't mean he will be a good husband he's already proved that.

~â™¥Truckers Wifeâ™¥~	Well I think it depends on what you truly want, he has made the mistake and now it is up to you on the next step, If this is the first time then I would think maybe give him one more chance, maybe he sees what he has done and regrets it. But if this has happend a few times then i would say let him go, it is a hard choice to make, but you have to do what is best for you and the kids. I wish you luck on your decision.

Jenn	This isn't an easy situation for you. But keep this in mind....what would be different if you go back? All you have is his word that he'll be good and he has yet to prove that. You have kids involved in this situation. They are going to be watching not only what you do but what he does. These are the things that will influence them when they grow up. If you roll over and take him back every time he does something to hurt you, your girls will think that is what is expected of them when they start dating....even if you tell them over and over that they deserve better. And your boys will think its OK to do that to women. It doesn't matter what you tell them.....its what they see. Take your time making your decision...but remember there is more than just you involved in it.

chumley	This matter is WAAAAAY too important to entrust to strangers on Yahoo Answers. You need to read your Bible and seek answers from clergy you trust. Try to work things out or don't -- but, whatever you do, don't take advice from strangers over the Internet.

jvno	"Once a cheater, always a cheater" is not just a cute saying, it is pretty accurate. If you can live the rest of your life (not just 1 year or 5 years or 20 years, but until you are dead) with a person you cannot trust and doesn't respect you then go for it. If you are in any way intelligent you will cut the strings and move on. You've already made one mistake, don't make another. He wants you back because he thinks no matter what he does he can get you back just by being "sweet" for a little while. Be smarter than that.

gmconlan	Time to keep your legs shut and get an education.

Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG	Do you love him? Does he love you? Or are you considering a reconciliation because of the children? I wouldn't consent to take him back unless he agrees to first go for couples counselling. Even then, take it slowly and give it time. Don't let his mistake stand in the way of your dreams. Go to school. Raise your kids. And get some counselling. Keep in mind that his indiscretion will be in the back of your mind forever. Do you trust him now? Can you trust him in the future? You do not have to be together romantically to raise your kids well. Do what is best for YOU and your children.

chula	In my opinion you shouldnt go back to him because once he cheats he knows he can get away with it and keep doing it if you go back. He may say he will change but i highly doubt it. I have learned from experience. I think You are better off without him, because I dont think he will change. I've never met one that has....they've only figured out how to cover their tracks better

idk (i don't no)	Ur having A baby and not even in College!!! Finish college Tell him to wait focus on something us for a while!

beaners1229	The decision is yours to make...but if you are considering going back...take it very slow...there is no reason to jump back into things, if it was meant to be, taking it slow won't change anything...and definitely go back to school....that will only be better for you and your kids (and him if you do get back together). If you do take him back, make sure he gets some counseling to find out why he cheated...and let him know it will take some time before you can trust him again. Good luck, I hope things work out for you!! I'll be praying for you all!

Misery	You can take him back, just torture the living hell out of him for the same amount of time he cheated on you. Keep an eye on him. Tape divorce papers to the bathroom mirror stating you will take every dime he makes if he screws up again, because adultery is a no-brainer in court. Just an idea..

BlackTexan09	Just say no. Dont take him back, the only reason you may want him in your life is for your child but that doesnt mean you ahve to be with him. Seems like you dont really need to put most of your focus on guys in this point of your life anyway because it seems like u are trying to develop your ife and thats all that really needs to matter. Find a better person, the time will come and the feelings will leave eventually.

Beach Girl	NEVER go back. No matter what. ALWAYS move forward. That's what "over" relationships are for...to learn from and move on. Tell him that you NEVER go backward (you don't want to go back to high school, you don't want to move back into an old house, you don't want to go back into an 'over' relationship. Tell him you are moving forward and he should too, then do it. Thanks for the memories! Bye Bye!

Sunshine_Diva	sweetheart... I'm a be honest... I didn't even read your post... however my philosophy on ex's is.... if it didn't' work out the first time what makes you think it will work out the next time around. if I couldn't' make it work the first time.... was is the sense in going back.... back = backwards.. why would you want to go backwards?

nyjae	WOW- I think you should take some more time out to think about this since you obviously have not made a decision. But you should lert him stew in his hsit for a lilttle longer so he'll know that you mean business.

JENNIFER M	I shouldn't say this but take him back.. men cheat, they always have...he made a mistake, it's better for your children that you guys are together. if he's abusive, then leave, if not, stay with him.

Bill B	Once a cheater, always a cheater! Get on with your life! You deserve someone who will love, honor and cherish only you!

The Lemur	I believe that if he did that then you absolved of any moral obligation to be with him. You should not take him back. Probably what he had going just fell through on him and now he wants someone, anyone, hey you look like his best current opportunity. Go to school and do THAT for your family.

â™ªâ™«Just Meâ™ªâ™«	I don't think you shouldn't take him back. I know this is cliche, but I always say "once a cheater, always a cheater." It's up to you in the end, but it sounds like you already have your hands full and don't need the extra drama. If you can make it on your own, it might be best to keep it that way.

revelinmyawesomeness	he sounds like a very confused guy. my opinion: try some marriage counseling before you take him back. best of luck.

free_angel	Tell him he's lost his damn mind if he thinks you would even consider taking a loser like him back.

melissa	I feel that if your dreams for love and a family do not include him, then by taking him back, you are gaining a cellmate rather then a husband. I am not in a position to really have an opinion on your religious views, being a non-believer myself, but I just cant believe that if there was a god, that he would want you to live in a loveless marriage where you are expected to give up your dreams for life and love. Marriage is supposed to be about love - and by staying in a loveless marriage, your children WILL pick up on that and think that being in a loveless marriage is normal, and be likely to do the same when they grow up. In the end, Follow your heart, thats all you can do. But dont sacrifice yourself just because he is feeling bad and crying. I dont know him, but it could be a mind-game, and you deserve better then that.

Kristine	If he's cheated he can NEVER be trusted again. If you value any sense of values you shouldn't give him the time of day.

thresher	I wouldn't go back to him.This guy will do it again.Once they start they keep going.

yeah!	do what your heart tells you to do!

matty_mo1	he's a scumbag. Eat Funyuns.