My fiance just left me...I don't know how to handle this?

mhommy-to-be!! :)	exactly when is your wedding?? if its not too soon yet, i guess you might want to give him some time though for him to cool down and for you too to think things over...what he may be doing may be just part of his "farewell" to "bachelor-hood";and one more thing, it's not really "you" that's second place coz think about it....HE IS GOING TO MARRY YOU!!! aint that a strong ground for you to trust him??i know its not easy for you,ive been to where you are right now actually, and its easier said than done ei??but if you really love him,dont you think he'd also want you to "love" his friends too?and same as him loving "your" friends right? just try to be "fair" to him k?he loves you honey...enough...so so so enough that he decided to marry you...PUT THAT IN HEART AND MIND...so what you have to do right now is just try to be mellow on him;like sending him lunch or coffee or whatever to his office without "you" really giving it to him. good luck and just take it easy.

Buck	I know this is probably not what you want to here right now BUT marriage is not something to rush into. People that do or marry for the wrong reasons usually end in divorce..... I personally don't know of anyone that is glad that they went through all that but anyway if he still puts his friends before you then ( in my opinion ) he is not ready for marriage. I am not saying break up but it is probably in your best interest to put the wedding off until he either starts putting you before his friends ( he is not making a commitment to them ) or you feel that this is just not going to work out. At least that way you will know and not end up a divorce statistic......That is my opinion!! Best of luck to you through this!

Manda M	Aww Hunny! Just tell him you are so sorry that everyone makes mistakes and you truly love him and you didn't mean it that way or that far, tell him you'd do anything come to his door don't let him close it on you talk to his friends or his family! sister brother or maybe he did it on purpoes if he got it off so quick maybe you need time to think Good Luck beb!

JKib	cut your losses!! look, have you ever dated a guy and thought that your last b/f was better?? prolly not!! well, you love this guy and your engaged to be married, you laid it on the line, you or his friends and he chose the latter. you know you deserve a guy that will put you first and there are plenty of guys out there that will make you much happier than he ever woulda!! once you move on and he calls and tries to make-up with you, please remind him that he wouldn't compromise for your happiness so you won't compromise for him. keep your head up, smile, and you'll attract somebody you deserve, i promise! best wishes

that judi	Me thinks he was just waiting for an opportunity...no one blows off a wedding over one disagreement. If you have started any definite plans for the wedding and recpetion, cancel them NOW. The fact that he could not face you and tell you and instead had to text it, is cowardly. I know you are hurting over this. but remember : You may have dodged a bullet my dear. Marriage would not change his behavior and you have found out in time, what that behavior is like. SIt down write him a letter, telling him your feelings. Use " i" statements, get it all out on paper. There is no one there to interrupt or argue with you, so take your time. Set a time frame in the letter and when that time frame is up and still no word...move on, my dear. Good luck.

riya	If he really LOVE you he will come back

bpb105	i been down that road went to work came home wf was gone called fbi got no help thought some one took her and few days later fbi called she was ok but she sayed she just left me i was told go file for divorce so i did she didnt show up and went to court to see child spent 8000.00 3yrs later never seen my child yet she was 7be 11now she that not justice

demhater	He just chose his friends over you. You should come first better to know it now before your stuck feeling you can't leave your husband. Sorry but better hurt a little now than a lot later.

mr.comediannot	its probably just an overreaction...give it a day or two and he'll b back

missnasa2001	You need to be the tough one here. He's ignoring your calls give him some time. You need to be the one ignoring his ***. When he calls, don't answer, when he comes over don't let him see your face. Let him know BEFORE this marriage that you mean business. I am confident he's going to come around but you gotta toughen up. If this is the life you have now, just think what it could end up like later? Don't sit and pout and fault yourself for this either. These things have to be worked out before marriage. Completely put him out of your mind and he will become aware VERY SOON! Stick to your guns girl.

happilyhiswife	Honey, if you are going through this BEFORE you are married what makes you think he is going to change AFTER you are married?! Why be in a relationship if you are so unhappy? There are plenty more fish in the sea, you just have to be willing to look. Yes you might "love" him, but if he is putting other things before you, than he doesn't "love" you as much as you do him. Trust me, time does heal a broken heart. I speak from experience and now am happily married to the best man ever! Good luck.

NESSA	GETS SUM REAL DRINKS LOTS OF THEM ILL JOIN YOU.HARD LIQUOR

Gator	If he can walk away that easily then he was looking for a way out anyway. If he really cared he would listen to how you feel and do his best to work it out where you could both be happy. From the outside it would appear that maybe some of his 'buddies' may not be men and maybe he was looking for a way out. This morning you gave him an opening to make his move. I would say goodbye and see what happens from there. If he stays gone then you were better to find out now.

zelin	Sweetie if he's out drinking with his friends all the time then he's not ready for marriage anyway, you've done the right thing... maybe he'll think about it now. I'm sure he'll come running back, then it'll be up to you whether you want him back. If I were you I'd move on. I know it's hard, I just had a baby boy with my fiance and walked in to find her cheating 2 months after... I went nuts, but it gets better and you start realizing you did the right thing.

ScSpec	If he is out drinking with friends all the time, and puts them before you, then what exactly are you in love with....sounds like a selfish frat-boy to me. I think you are well rid of him. If he is willing to end the relationship rather than talking things out with you, then it would only be worse after marriage. You would be sitting at home alone with kids, and he would stagger home drunk with lipstick stains on his collar. Picture that! He will probably come back, but if he did, if I were you I would no longer be available. If you are just deperate to get him back, the best thing to do is ignore him, then he will start to wonder how much you cared, , and that is a challenge.

ddcapslock	you need to wait until tomorrow morning. if it was serious it wouldnt be through texting you or anything. give him the night to think about things... youll both be thinking straight. it will be alright honey. dont you worry.

Melissa	Maybe it's for the best. Give it time and see if he comes back to you. If he doesn't, better you find out now than after the wedding. if the drinking bothers you now, it will feel worse after you're married. Good luck to you.

J *	Well you have to let him have time with his friends........... BUT he has to make time for you.. Sadly if he cannot do that for you than he might not be for you. In turn - if you can't accept him wanting to go out and be with the "bros" then maybe you are not for him? Give him time. Don't keep calling like a crazy person. If he really cares for you he will come around and really talk it out with you about how he feels. Good luck and best wishes.

â™¥megsâ™¥	if he loves you he'll come back..if not his loss. don't settle for someone who doesn't love you. you deserve better

curly que	Most likely his text was just to blow you off enough to have time with his buddies. He will probably calm down and come back. If not, you do not need someone who would text you to say the wedding is off.

debk	It's not about you handdling his friends, it's about him spending time with them without you too much of the time. Run like hell away from this person. They are not as into you as they profess to be if they want to spend that much time with other people, especially drinking in bars. Sounds fishy, like having your cake and eating it too. You can do better.

Sir_Willard	He just has cold feet. He is thinking about how he will miss his drinking buddies when he is married. Don't worry, he'll get over it. I would expect for you two to call it off several times and on again before it is done. Call him back. Dude is scared.

raysmithson1	now is the time for some good old patience, my dear , don't push him , you just pushed his button ,

sirranksarot	Stand your ground. Don't be a pushover. He'll be begging you to take him back.

Itwentbang	It's going to be hard, I won't deny that. But do you really want to be second best ? Get the pain out the way as quick as possible, don't drag it out any longer. One day you'll find mr right, and trust me, you'd be far from 2nd best in his eyes.

green eyes	Give him some space. It sounds like he's not ready to be a husband

NAN G	If you give in to him now, your life will be a living nightmare. It sounds as though he is not ready for a commitment....he would rather be with his friends. You need to seriously think this through......You deserve better.

prognosticator	if you love someone, let them go. if they come back to you, and you STILL want them, it was meant to be :-)

openminded	Count yourself lucky. He is and ***.