My fiance rarely picks up the phone when I call and it really bothers me?

Phoenix	Your fiance does that just to get a rise out of you. I used to date a guy who wouldn't answer the phone when I call, I stopped calling. Meanwhile, if I didn't answer phone, he said I cheat on him. I just don't have time to play games. Now, I rarely call guys. If they want to talk to me, they can call me. If I left a message and the guy doesn't call back, I don't even care to ask why.

New Running Shoes	Just sit down and talk to him like you said previously and tackle the issue from the point of view that this is important to you and in order for you to be happy then it is important that he pick up the call or at the least return your call within an hour...some decent amount of time. Use your "i" statements...believe me it works. You are showing that the issue lies with you and that you are not attacking him. He will respond better to your need this way. If that doesn't work then there might be other issues that need to be resolved, but for now just have that talk. :)

ronnny	Just some of our habits. a few people are like this.

Donna M	Don't start to expect that he is cheating just because he didn't pick up the phone. I know people that average 30 days to call me back. If you feel bothered by it? Try not calling him. He will start to wonder why you aren't calling him and hopefully something good will come out of it and he'll call you. If by chance nothing good comes from this, remember you have a life, a job and friends. Make good use of it. Good Luck to ya

gunspliter01	talk to him about it, ask him why. if he doesnt give a good answer be suspicious. I know its hard to admit something if your getting married but something might be going on and thats why he doesnt pick up the phone

George	Yeah that sux. go ahead and talk to him, if you are getting married nothing should be so private that it can't be discussed. you're supposed to be able to trust eachother, right? ask him why he doesn't return calls, it should be an amicable conversation, and if it isn't, maybe he has something to hide. there should be no questions you can't ask eachother. just say you would appreciate it if he would answer the phone and/or return your calls. if he was out all night, well, where the heck was he? if he doesn't want to answer or gives you hard time, perhaps it's time to re-examine this relationship, and let him know that. secrecy and distrust don't work in relationships, no matter what. if he has control issues, feeling like he has to keep secrets just because, well, either you learn to live with it, or accept the possibility that people who have nothing to hide hide nothing.

Sandie L	i have the same issue with my guy, way back when we had broken up and i caught him with someone else and now it seems everytime he doesnt answer it causes me to freak out so to speak, expecting the worse, and yet i practically break my neck to answer all his calls, but when he doesnt answer mine he always has an excuse as to why, yet the reality of it is still the same to me, what is it you are doing that you cannot possibly pick up the phone even for a sec to say i will call you right back.....we had planned to get married but i just cant see myself playing second fiddle, if talking to me isnt that important then maybe being with me isnt that important either, i talked to him about my feelings and he actually has made an effort to pick up his phone when i call and when he absolutely cannot he does try to call back within 10 mins of the missed call...i dont know what else to tell you except good luck and if you ever find a way to make him answer let me know so i can try it on my guy....i have found when i dont answer my phone it gives him a lil taste of his own medicine but i dont advise this as it usually causes a bigger fight for he and i...good luck to ya....

andrea.force	Is he just not a phone person? Does he like to talk to the other people (parents, friends, etc.) in his life on the phone? Maybe he's just not as comfortable when conversations aren't face to face. Do talk to him about it (not on the phone!), but pick a casual moment when you're both calm and relaxed. Let him know it bothers you without making a big deal out of it. Hear him out when he gives his answer. There's really not enough information in your question to know whether it's a big deal or not.

1540	Im wondering how he would react if you did that to him as much as he does it to you. Women always make themselves too available and easy for the man to always call the shots. Its nice for us that you do that but youre selling yourself short. Try talking to him and asking him why he does that. It sounds like hes taking you for granted.

munineye	This happens quite often, and it's happened to me. Please, do sit down and talk with him about it. It's not an insecurity, it's wanting to make sure he cares enough about you to answer your calls. If this has been happening throughout the relationship, it needs to come to a screeching halt BEFORE you walk down the aisle. Age has nothing to do with this, it's all about respect. Explain that you feel hurt and worried when he doesn't call you back or pick up the phone. Explain your feelings openly and rationally and he'll come around.

Archangel	it depends on what he does for a living. if hes seriously busy, he might not be able to answer if hes in a meeting or something. i like to discuss anything, and nothing is more important to me as making sure i have a solid connection with my love. if its even a question, its an issue to me and id have to bring it up. i personally put her before anything, just to make sure that im doing everything right for her, and if something goes horribly wrong, the finger wont be pointing at me. i totally understand where youre coming from, and i would personally find out why it has to be this way.

i â™¥ hershey â™¥â™¥â™¥â™¥â™¥	maybe you could let your fingers doing the walking to another bf phone number ??? If he can't or rather chooses not to call back til the next day then there is trouble in paradise for you !! Sounds like he's got the best of both worlds !!

rl spoon	I'm a guy and an honest one at that so to break it to you plain... he's cheating! Sorry!

OK Faith	Yes you need to ask him about it. That is crazy. I can see if he was doing something where he couldn't grab the phone right then but he should call you back in a timely fashion. I would want to know what was going on and couldn't help but think he is cheating.

raisedbycoyotes	Don't call so often. Keep the calls short and have a reason to call. Guys don't want to waste time talking, it is not their first choice.

Rikki Marie	Sounds to me like he's got something else going on. That's a realllly good reason to sit down and talk to him about it, and if he gets angry or defensive, drop him, because then you know for sure he's got something going on that he's not supposed to be doing.

x_Three Days Grace_x	my boy friend does the same exact thing... i talked to him about it and he dident care but still you could just tell him how it makes you feel and if he doesent understand then do it back to him and see what he does like my boyfriend wouldent answer the phone if i called him during a movie so i dident pick up my phone anymore either and it worked

RoadRunner	I would talk to him about it! Then you decide what you want to do.

Wish I could be something	Some men hate the phone..My husband does the same thing, he isn't doing anything, some men just don't like to talk on the phone, talk to him and see what he says. But don't be insure about it

Jesse Rocks	...I bet he did leave a sweet message....yes, I would talk to him about it...seems strange..and listen to your gut.

pearl_hoff	maybe he got in late was in the shower was tired did not check messages give him a break

Monkton	maybe he is just out a lot or doing somthing where he can't get to the phone(working on car, shower ...) you could just ask him where he was and try not to make a big deal about it. maybe mention to him that you two should talk more

dot&carryone.	See how he responds to the same treatment.

im serious	you should totally look into it...

Mary B	Yes, that is strange if it is happening frequently. Is something else going on in your relationship? Communication and availability is key, especially since you two are planning on marriage. That is a big red flag that something is wrong.

Name here!!!	tell him about it

Marina	Tell him you need him to pick up the phone or at least get back to you in a timely fashion. Ask him what you would do if you were stuck on the side of the road somewhere or in an accident or something else and you couldn't get a hold of him? That should wake him up. Does he answer his phone right away for everyone else? Start paying attention to that when you're with him. He could be blatantly ignorning YOU and that is definitely a reason for concern!

lisalisa	at first I thought maybe he was busy with work but you called him on a saturday night and he did not answer he is CHEATING!

Butterfly	hes cheating

Joe C	Get rid of him, that is, if he's a fiance according to the valid definition of the word - someone who's engaged to marry you. That is a disgrace. It appears that he has contempt for you instead of love. You should be top on his priority list.