My husban drinks everyday I'm tired of seeing him drunk everyday. should I leave him?

Kali_girl825	Really only you can make this decision. Have you thought about going to Al-non meetings. They are meeting for family and friends of alcoholics. Maybe if you are around more people in the same situation as you. You will be able to make a well thought out decision. You might also try to convince him to go to AA. Nut it will only help if he wants to quit drinking. Good Luck & God Bless

father_dale	should you leave him? YOU my dear friend are the only person that can answer that question. I suggest you first contact AA and find an Alanon group and attend. This group will help you understand the illness he has, give you some tips to effectively cope with the trials and tribulations of having an alcoholic spouse. You leaving him and taking the children may be what wakes him up and gets him on his way to sobriety. On the other hand, I cannot stand people that say to stay for the kids sake. My mother stayed for the kids sake and ended up raped by him a number of times, beaten by him a number of times and we as children were beaten by him a number of times. The girls (my sisters) were also raped by him on more than one occasion. I suggest it is better for the children to be raised by a single parent that is sober, aware, involved and loving than by the two parents when one is always drunk. Think about it this way: Does it make a difference if you are single parent with your two children in another home or you stay with him and have a two parent home where one is sober, aware, involved and loving while the other is drunk? To me drunk is the same as not being there. What the hell good is he if he is drunk? Find an alanon group and best of luck to you and your two children. I am sure they are lovely and will get you through many hard times that you have ahead of you whether you stay or leave.

?	If he's abusive leave him now, run , don't walk.

luv41anatha	this is a tough call. u cant help someone who refuses to admit they have a problem. as long as he hasn't hurt you r the kids, not meaning to soumd cruel but just keep up the insurance policy and tell him when his liver kicks the bucket he will force your hand whether or not to spend the kids college fund on them or trying to buy an acholic a new liver. That might make him wake up.

pdilks	You have the power to take control over how your life and the lives of your daughters will proceed. If you are ready, you can give him an ultimatum to get help for his alcoholism, through proper medical treatment and a 12-step program. If he refuses, don't waste another moment of your life or put your children's lives in jeopardy. Call the nearest family resource center and get help in leaving this abusive and unhealthy situation. It may be helpful for you to attend alanon meetings to help you cope with being in/leaving a codependent relationship.

nahdya21	when you figure out your answer tell me. im in the same boat, but ive been with mine for 3 yrs. and have a one yr. old and a baby on the way.

4stringthndr	stand up for your kids woman get them out of that mess

rx8 slotcar	try to work it .. drinkers dont thin they drink tht much.. u or a friend could bring drinking up and how its hurting u an your kids.. be nice tho no one likes to be reminded that their not perfect

Sekkennight	tell him it either you (kids if you have them) or his dirnks. He can pick, but one of you has to go

mande	Have you talked to him about it? See how much weight the relationship has.....see if he'll seek counseling. Tell him it's not the type of environment you want the children to grow up in. Hopefully he'll see how much it bothers you and do something about it before he loses all of you. Good luck.

quick_sand	Having a drink, and getting drunk are two different things...Does he use it to not help you out with the kids?....they are little!...and how much is he enjoying of his kids if he won't remember seeing them the next day...Seems like a cop out on his part...relieving stress?...who is releaving yours mom?........I wouldn't put up with it...5 years?...so the next 10 years aught to be real stimulating...when they need to be taken or picked up from a school function etc..You get to do it all then too huh?....that is BS!....sorry, but he should be delighted to come home to those babies, not drunk...So if something bad happens, like you fall and break your leg, he's gonna take you to the hospital/take care of the kids?....BS...its a cop out!!...If YOU did it, hmmmm...wonder what he would say.......

hedge of protection	My husband and I have been married for 5 years and on and off we drank responsibly, but 4 factors came into our relationship shortly after marriage and now we both drink. I drink wine 4-5 nights a week because of the factors . HE drinks all the night long and it's ( O.K)???? Either way I don't like not being the mom of 3 kids who won't even drink 1 glass and not drive a car. I just need someone to talk to about it . my kids are sick of my husbands drinking. I'm this close to putting me and my kids first. does that make sence?

kay	Leaving is an option, as it is not in your best interest nor your children's to be around him. But it should be the LAST option. You have to ask yourself if you've exhausted all that can be done for his drinking problem. Remember that alcoholism is a disease, it needs to be cured just like other major illnesses and is very much fatal. The implication of this is that most of the negative things alcoholics do when they are intoxicated is due more to the alcohol than deliberate actions by himself.... Go to an AA group in your area and ask what can be done. Maybe they can help you stage an intervention. Maybe leaving him can be a condition if he doesnt change. When all that can be done has been done, then maybe you can consider leaving him.

Geedebb	What ever happened to for better or worse ? Your husband may be an alcoholic , and if he is it is a disease . Would you leave him if he had cancer ? There is also solutions or recovery programs out there that can help him . Thank God my husband didn't leave or give up on me . I was very sick too , I drank most of my life & by the time we were married I was at my worst { and still managed to hide most of it } even after i tried suiside he never gave up on me . I am now 5 years sober and helping other people is my life now . Getting help will have to be his idea though . In the mean time if you love him enough to hang in there , there are groups that can teach you how to properly handle life with him without being an enabeler . For more info .call Alanon .

Nevada Pokerqueen	Alcohol is a very powerful drug. Many can no resist it and if your genes are prone to alcoholism it is a disease. Best to get counseling and require him to go to AA. He needs you to tell him to get clean or you are leaving him. Then give him all information you can on how to get clean and stay clean. Once he quits drinking he can never have another drink. Poison is Poison and Poison in excess can kill a marriage, love, and a body.

Jason M	Yes, it wont get better unless he gets help, it will get worse

Robert	If you can't beat them , join them !!

imalickyouallover69	i couldnt take it, and for these people saying..... stay and try to make it work for the kid's sake......well dont we already have enough screwed up kids in the world?

TaurusGirl	You should tell him to stop drinking. Because it is bad for his health. Be brave and go up to him an say, " Darling, There is one thing I really want to say. Please don't keep drinking. It's really bad for your health.". If he still dosen't listen, it's the best you be patient. If this still happens in 2-3 weeks time, You should make some divorce.

Bachman-ette	My best friend goes through this every day, too. They live right above me in our building. I'm there for her when she needs it, but I can only do so much, you know? Plus the fact that I can't even tell when he's been drinking or not unless I see him getting out of his car conign home from work. If you feel you or your children are in danger, you need to remove yourself from the situation. If you are not in danger, then I would suggest going to counseling or insist that he join AA. It's not just your children's future that you have to worry about, it's your own. Good luck, dear.

christian G	no because hes gonna start having some spots on his body

teef_au	Live apart for a while and see whether that frightens him enough for him to clean up. If he puts the effort in it would be wonderful for the kids to have their own dad around.

KRZY MO FKR	Yes you should.

Western	if he dun become violence or mean when he is drunk,jus let him be,maybe tats the way he pass time or how he released stress

mafiabosscementshoes	sweety there couseling and hipnotize the drunk, if that don,t work tell him his brother make a better husban. Good luck, you need a good man, and couple pairs of cement shoes., for him.

phe_03	My Fiancee drinks beer everyday all day, although he never appears intoxicated. I don't know what to do. He says he likes the taste of beer, but he is a alcoholic and is in the first stage of denial. If the drinking poses a threat to you or the children, yes, leave him. Also, there's only so much sh!t one person can take, so when you've had enough, then leave him. Try talking to him, try being a *****. Let me know what works out for you.

gottaloveavy	Tell to go to an AA meeting, or to get some help. You shouldn't just leave because he drinks. Sometimes, I wonder why people commit to the good and bad times in the marriage vows when the bad times seem to be just too bad for people. What's the point anymore?

FatFed	Have you tried talking to him about it? Possibly encouraging him to attend an AA meeting if its that back?

*dreamcatcher**	Ive been a program with a lot of people that had those kind of problems and alot of them has worse addictions, in that program they say its a behaviour problem not an addiction. ask him to call BHF (behavioural health foundation)

free-spirit	kick the drunken loser out.why should you uproot your kids .if he wont leave..then you have no other choice..get out now before its too late...drunken fool him..i hate to see that