My husband abused me, should I get divorced?

canivieu	Walk out the door with the phone and make the call to 911.

FaLLen_ANGeL	First of all, you should report it to the local authorities. Get a check-up at the local hospital if necessary, should you want to lodge a complain against your husband. If you are lost and really need somebody to talk to about your frustrations, fears and worries, why not try the local women's shelter or counselling group? It's good to have somebody to talk to first before you jump the wagon and make decisions that you might come to regret. Abusive husbands tend to apologize when just a glimmer of reality shines through the madness inside. Promises mean nothing, and the abuse will eventually get worse if you do not plan your next move. If you still love him, why not talk to him, find out what is wrong? People usually release their vented anger by leashing out at the people that they love, like what happens when a person is drunk. It does not mean that he loves you less, though. He just needs something, someone to take it all out on. Then again, please reconsider the divorce IF you are carrying his child, or have any emotional attachments to him. Having a child and at the same time trying to get a divorce might be very messy business. Take it slowly from there... Good luck!!

surat108	6 months and this has already started??? It WILL get worse..get out now while you can.

*~â™¥~ CHEEKY* ~â™¥~**	divorce him it will only get worse!

hamhead	yes you should get out now, make yourself the #1 priority, keep yourself safe. if you are asking this question, you are feeling something deep inside, you have an instinct. follow it and if he wants to go to counseling while you are seperated and you are okay with that then do. but get yourself safe..this is a begining of a cycle.

Maximus	no my dear divorce is not an option...forget it....punish him...like dont talk to him....or do something so that he can realize what he did was wrong......good luck

bprice215	You should consider anger management classes for him, if he refuses then you must leave him for your own protection. He will not change, no way no how. He is a walking time bomb, so if you care about yourself I suggest you listen to what I've said, and not listen to him or anything he may say.

qi-li-xiang	Did he hit you? If he did, then you really gotta divorce. He wont stop abusing you, believe me.When I was a kid I saw my father beating my mother constantly. After the beating, he'd say sorry and be nice and sweet, but when the devil got in him, he forgot his promise. Once he did that, he'll never stop.

candleinthewind7579	Get out NOW!!! Abuse always worsens. You've only been married 6 months and he's already abusive...imagine what it will be like in 6 years when you have kids to worry about. Any form of abuse is unacceptable. He may beg you to come back and promise it will never happen again...but it will. Go to family or friends for support and if you must, go to a Battered Womens center. There you will be safe and they will help you get your life back on track. I wish you the best

UNCLE_ ADVISOR	Its OK, don't get divorce. if he doesn't stop you start abusing him................lol

Lady	Yea what do you mean abused you? Cause if he just yelled at you, well girl grow the hell up and yell right back!

catwomanmeeeeow	That the classic, textbook definition of a repeating abuser. He'll apologize, tell you it'll never happen again, things will seem good for a while, and then Boom! he does it again. Get out before you're in too deep. Also, document each and every time he does it. Contact the police, as well as a friend or family member you can confide in. You're not alone in this. Good luck!

abelssexywifey	Leave him ASAP , no one deserves to be treated like that especially a woman.you should tell your family.

Laura	There is this cycle. 1. He abuses you 2. The next day he apologizes gets you flowers, etc. 3. He then seems to get angry again 4. The abuse starts again You should definately report it. I know it's complicated, but you need to do it for your own safety.

Dke	yes, get divorced now, abusers usually don't ever change. Will be harder to divorce him in the future when children are involved.

nursesr4evr	Yeah, get out now! It will only get worse.

th25tina	yes...get out of that. you'll be so much happier.

Z Lee	A husband should never hit his wife, and a wife should never hit her husband. Hitting people is illegal. It's called Domestic Abuse, and you can have him arrested for it. Do not wait around for him to hit you again, then next time he hits you he could kill you. Getting hit in the head with a fist can cause all kinds of damage to the brain and blood vessles, getting hit can kill you. Leave him before it's too late. Get a restraining order so he can't come near you to hit you again. Good Luck.

Abuser	No. Stand there and take it. It might help him out if you give him a weapon or two.

knowssignlanguage	I would get him into anger management and marriage councilling and if he does not want to then you have no choice leave while you still can. Tell him if he does not do it you are leaving him for good no expections this is the only way the marriage can continue if he does these two things.

mighty_power7	Please, get out of that relationship! He will keep breaking his promise to you until you get help for yourself! There is no way that you can cure him and his need for control all on your own - you need to get some help for yourself first! Tell the authorities, tell a friend, tell someone!

Luis G	End the marriage it will only get worse. Annulment would work or just divorce and make him pay for the abuse. You might need a restraining order. He sounds like a bad choice. Dump him now.

conds	What do you mean abused you? Did he yell at you or beat you or rape you or something else? In my opinion you don't divorce someone if they yell at you, even if it's obviously bad that they do. I mean I would not, but people are different. It's your first year of marriage. Maybe go see a counselor?

chesscrazz	Someone who loves you would not yell at you, leave now.Don't turn back divorce him.He;ll know u mean buisness...he'll start asking for forgivness...u give him one chance...he ***** up...then its over.

Lisa	get the heck outta there...you are only in the beginning sister......if he does not seek help it will only get worse

PoshBerries	Prepare for a divorce and report your case to the police and women association.

Liberty against the NWO	Please get out! A man that would abuse a woman like that once can do it again. If you are worried about financial matters and have no family or friends to turn to this is a great place http://www.thesheepfold.org/ http://www.thesheepfold.org/victim/victim-overview.htm Please just dont remain with him that is not normal for a man to hit a woman! This could get worse if you stay with him, much much worse.

ha	Yes..report it