My husband and I are always apart ??

ryladie99	You both have to sit down asking each other about the Relationship and future. Love is there but, You both can not come to a term of compromise. Why not move to a city that his career takes off? Then you look for a new job in order to be together. If you both own a home you have to rent it out in case you want to keep it. Divorce is not an issue however your problem is Priority in both of your guys' marriage. One person has to give and the other has to support. Sit down and write the numbers as well as calculate the time. I went through the same thing 3 months ago and now I sort through my problem and I feel like I am alive and well. Take my advice and others then, combine the ideas together, I am sure you will see the light. Hurry and I warn you there are so many women out there looking for others partners even though they know the men are marry. Please call him for a meeting and take on this problem.

not me anymore	i can understand why u might not like being away from him so much, but i think u shuold learn to enjoy the distance and appricate the time u do spend together. wuould u honestly want to be with him like 24 hours a day? in the long run would u? and either that or one or both of u change careers or alter when u leave due to it.

catywhumpass	Sounds like you have to figure out what is more important, career's or your marriage. If it is career's, then you may want to just admit that you are not ready for marriage and throw the towel in and stay great friends (with benefits), if your marriage is most important, then you both have to work together and learn to sacrifice for each other, and that would mean that one or both of you would need to make a career change that will allow you to actually live a married life. Best of luck to both of you!

shamia	What do you both love more each other or your jobs. There are many jobs out there but only one of you. Even if you both get a divorce and marry some one else your jobs will still cause the same problems in the new marrage. I would find a job that is just as satisfing but gives me time with the one i love or we both change our schedule.

Purple	just because you are always apart, you think a divorce would be the answer? The fact that you both still love each other, i don't see any reason for you to split up. Instead. why not plan an exciting date or something, while you are away from home. And when you get the chance to be together, make it happy,exciting, romantic and add a little surprise. That way, you will both be looking forward to your next date. You will feel good and happy when you see him happy too.

Belen	I suggest buying a house in a place which is close to both your places of work. That way, your life will be normal. You and your husband will be just like any other working couples who come home to each other at the end of the day.

ramni222	make the needed adjustments. if you lose your marriage, you will both be very unhappy.

ConsciousnessRevered	Compromises begets happiness~~mostly. My husband and I have lived apart for a year and a half. Not for divorce or seperation, but for our senior parents. He takes care of his senior mother in New England, and I take care of my senior father in the Mid-Atlantic. However, we're both going to make sacrifices next month. He's moving down here and I am moving in with him. We're getting our own apartment. A handful of negatives will come out of this, but it's the positives we're focusing on. I hope you and your husband see that when making compromises, you view these as benefits to your marriage. If you still love eachother and want to make it work, there's always a way. Don't rush to divorce, it should be a last resort. Compromise~~the two of you~~you let go of your job for one that will give you more time, but he should do the same. It's only fair. That way, you both will have more WE time. Sounds simple? Easier said than done, but isn't as difficult as it seems. Think this through.

xeres.libre	I agree with mcbangin. If you love and want to stay together than don't let societies' demands rip you apart. Acknowledge your situation and try to either accept it or change it. Probably I would sacrifice my work and find something nearby. But that would be stupid if nothing nearby would exist. Would he?

Cat sneeze	If I really loved that person and wanted to stay together...I wouldn't care what my job is or salary...Jobs and money is not as important as love and marriage. You could find jobs that would allow you two to be together more.

Dimitar A	Each of you have to decide what is more important for him/her - your love and a marriage or your careers. If both of you decide that your love is more important, then it is time for change. Both of you should make sacrifices with your careers to be with each other. Good Luck

Bert	That's so cool that you love each other, best I can suggest is to pray about your situation, prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives......Jesus loves you

Chris B	Something or someone has got to give! These types of careers are not an ingredient of a happy marriage. One of you, or both of you, will have to change jobs in order for this to work at all. If you love each other as you say you do, then what is the problem? Will you allow a job to interfere with your love for one another? You must re-prioritize your lives or it won't work...not with someone else either!

Joshot	The decision to divorce should not be taken lightly and you need to discuss this in person and in depth. On the other hand, if you two are in love and have been married a while, you understand that there are always sacrifices. Your separation is either more than your relationship can bare or it will endure. Or 1 of you needs to make the sacrifice and take a job where you will have the time together you both need.

pinayinpenn	I would say that you have to make a decision as to what is more important to you at this point - career or your marriage. Perhaps one of you can cut back on hours or change jobs or find a way to be more flexible in schedule so that its easier to be together or be home when the other spouse is home. One or both of you can venture in a business together so that you can spend time together while working as well. Its good that your lines of communication are open even if its via phone and you did say that you love each other and dont want to split so you dont really have to split. You do have to make changes though. Take a step back, access everything, finances, other career options, other potential compromise you can set with regards to traveling for work. I suggest you take a vacation, just the 2 of you, uninterrupted and rekindle the togetherness, spend time together, have fun with each other and see how it goes. :) Best of luck!

Bob H	Sounds like you already make your choice.

tulip joshi	i m an indian so i would suggest u to even don't think of getting apart frm each other if u really love each other

KiARa vELasQUEz	WOW THATS NOT RIGHT IF YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO GO OUT OF TOWN OFTEN BECAUSE HE MIGHT THINK YOU ARE CHEATING ON HIM AND SAME WITH YOU. I SUGGEST YOU START TALKING MORE TO HIM BECAUSE IF THIS CONTINUES YOU GUYS AINT GONNA LAST ANY LONGER!!!!!

Stefanoid	WHAT?!?!?!? Divorce?!?!?!?!?! How can you even think about that lady???? You took him and swore that you will stay together, think of him as a part of your own body, as a part of your soul! Dang you americans are weird when it comes to marriage. My parents are from europe, and they think of each other as one single soul, and as me and my sister the bond that holds it together. No offense, but ma'am, do not think of divorce at all, you chose him as "the one", and stick to your decision.

tickled blue	I would decide who's job created more income, have the other one either transfer to a closer location or take a demotion to be at home more often, etc. Marriage is about a lot of things and one of those is sacrifice. If the marriage is important to you both, it should be put first. If your spouse isn't first in your life then it won't be a happy, healthy marriage long term.

traveler	If you really want to be together then make it happen. You must find a way that you both can live with and be happy.

blahh 90210 is on	Well, you need to set dates, it seems a little formal, but bare with me. like have a sat. every other weekend dedicated to 1 & other

~Josie~	If the relationship is worth keeping, I would make it work, not just give up on it because you both are always apart. If it were me, I would get with my husband and discuss how to resolve this, such as one or the other finding a new career so at least one of you are always close to home.

kookoo4travel	I have been in your shoes. I have lived apart from my husband for most of our marriage, due to his work. We now live together and I miss that space we used to have. We have actually grown MORE apart since we moved in together.

freespirit	Maybe it's time to switch careers

Mnementh	The both of you might want to consider career changes that would allow you to spend more time with your family. Perhaps there are positions in the same company you can transfer to.

:)	That's always one of the factors that affects a relationship - distance. You guys should sit down and really talk about it because it seems like if you love each other there's no need for divorce. Just be hopeful you'll find a solution.

Marina	Prioritize. Which is more important, your careers or the marriage? You're both going to have to cut back a little at work and meet each other in the middle. Seriously, it's the only solution. Good luck to you, and you should feel great for recognizing the source of this fixable dilemma!

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mcbangin	Stop postponing your happiness.