My husband and i have both cheated is there hope for this marriage?

Our marriage has lasted 1year and 8 months. 8 months of that time we were separated. I left do to his anger issues and I really believed we were over. We have actually been together since i was 15 years old im 23 now. He has been the only love of my life. We now have a beautiful 2 yr old son together. During our separation we both saw other ppl he had a serious relationship after sleeping with one other woman ,while i slept with several men during that span of time. He wont forgive me for my actions and says that if he knew all that i had done while we were separated he would have never took me back. Though i had more encounters i never really cared for any of the men I was really insecure and lost. He seems to think that my actions were worse then his. I want to put this all behind us thats why i admitted the truth. Ive always loved him, but i feel like he will never forgive me and im the only one doing the forgiving. He makes me pay each and everday. I feel like im slowly dying.

free_angel	Why even be married if you both cheat?

hiyalldr92	i think he just started to fix it when he told you he cheated on you. you can repair it but it wil take lots of work, persisternce and faith in each other it WILL work out if you try

bad_brad_again	well sounds like he dont want it to work to me. and i cant see you putting up with a guy that thinks what he done is ok but what you done (the same thing) is not...he sounds a little one sided maybe he dont think normal..id say find a guy that dont care what you have done and start over cause it dont sound like he does...to many guys out there would treat you right dont be stuck with one that wont....git rid of him its his loss and you will be happier.

Vic Costik	I think you shouldnt stay in a relationship if you're not happy and you dont think its going to get better. It sounds like your husband is a bit emotionally abusive, and I dont think thats going to stop.

RAWR	counseling is doing wonders for my marriage. all hope is not lost. only u and ur hubby can really answer the question... like... do u love eachother enough to try? do u 2 think its worth it? do u think its fixable? only u guys know ur true feelings and what exactly happened and why, so i believe counseling can help. try individual then marriage... i hope things go better for u. add me to messenger if ud like. your_drty_lttl_secret@yahoo.com

Pogo peeps	You don't really have a base to stand on. Just move on & start fresh. Neither of you would have cheated if you were with the right person. Technically, though, you didn't really cheat. In future, nobody you date/marry wants to hear about your past escapades, especially when you were just "on a break". Just because you've been with him since 15 doesn't mean he is the love of your life. Just means you don't know any better. Sorry, it's not easy to hear or to follow through on but you will be better off without him. pp

Sweetpea	No I dont think you guys can survive. He probably sees you differently now. I dont know why there is a double standard for women, but there is. I do think he should forgive you since he is probably the reason you were so insecure in the first place, plus you were so young. Id try it for a while since you love him, but I honestly dont think it will get better. He is probably wondering if any of those guys were better in bed than him. Guys tend to wanna know or worry about stupids things like that, when us girls really only want the ones we love. Good luck

Bayle Alyesse	I didn't read but i think if you guys wanted it to wrok you could make it happen. anything you want you can do with help. im only 13...and i have learned this lesson. you should too. the question is do you want this guy? he doesn't even repect you if he cheated (or your bad in bed lol) and you don't respect him because you did the same thing. go to marriage counsling if you want it to work okay

Rose P	See a marriage counselor, you can overcome all of this but it sounds like you will really need some help. Seriously you both made mistakes and I think his way of dealing with guilt is by pointing the finger at you. He needs to address his issues and then you both need to forgive eachother and start over again.

#1 Due on 12/22/08!	Its sounds like its over,,and i really feel for your boy,,

peggin_beast	NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!â€¦

T_Bone	Well, maybe you should see a marriage counselor and that will help. But if you are both gunna cheat, then how come you are together? Even if the affairs didn't mean anything, it still shows something .. How could someone cheat on someone they truely love? I dunno .. That's my advice there ..

tessa1198	you shouldn't feel this way...and if he is to self absorbed to understand how you were feeling ...move on ..you owe it to yourself.

BMOC	Either forgive and forget or just leave. Both people need to forgive. If he can't then it might be better for your son if you left the relationship. He needs to grow up for his families sake.

90304	Not bothering to read that thing. NOPE there is not!

Old Kid	Leave! Why would you want to get back into this kind of relationship? Get you life back in control and move on.

Stephen G	Move on. Who wants to be tormented the rest of there life

Denis B	not a chance.........

originalquene	have you tell him all of this? you should

armor king	idk thats is up to you and your husband you should talk to him

geoffrey_0007	I think you both need councelling.

Kellabud	NO. Don't waste your time.

Right Wing Extremist	You were both wrong and if he can't see that then you should not be together.

ogg08	time to leave, the heart can only take so much...

Ashley D	No, throw in the towel - the trust is gone.

Mia Bella	Move on already!

C_DOGG	MOVE On, marriage was not the right thing for you guys.

dhonug	I didn't even read the whole question. The obvious answer is "NO" Now that I read it all. You don't cheat when you really love some one.