My husband doesn't call me when I am away on business?

-\| Josh \|-	You are not doing ANYTHING wrong. I am in the same place he is in with my wife. When she goes on a trip or anything, I usually will not call her, not because Im not where I am supossed to be or that I dont care what shes doing. A man for some reason LOVES time where nobodys watching. He is safe at home or maybe out enjoying time with friends. He knows you are okay, but knows its okay to call. Its different for guys, they just really love time alone, but not for a long time, that would be lonelyness. Just know that hes fine, and hes trying to make the best out of it, I assure you. Do not file for a divorce for these reasons, he needs you, just may not be aware that it bothers you. Hope this helps.

thisaintall07	I would be concerned too but I don't think it is grounds for a divorce just yet. If everything else in your marriage is as good as you say it is then get some couples counseling. Fight for the good things in your marriage. Maybe through counseling you can find out what's going on when you're away. Until then I wouldn't call him either.

Tani	I wudnt say that any of u r doing smthing wrong and its a good reason for u to divorce him. However its strange why he doesnt answer ur calls when u call. If he doesnt call u coz he thinks u r busy then thats fine but he shud not stay without answering ur calls. U better ask him the reason for this. Is his phone ringing when u call or is it busy? if its ringing then call from another number which he doesnt recognize n see if he answers. If he does, then question him why he didnt answer when u called a while back. if he doesnt answer then note the time and ask him where he was n what he was doing that time (thats when u go back home or if u get a chance to talk to him before going hm). Then the next question is divording him coz of this. Why dun u try explaining him that u r worried abt it and want to know what he is doing when u r away? U said u both r hving a wonderful time together when u r together then why wud he not miss u when u r away? If he doesnt give a solid answer tell him u r frustrated and want a divorce if he doesnt tell u the real reason. It might scare him off. Otherwise what u can do is plan a fake trip...tell him u r going on a business trip n wont be back for a couple of days. Stay at sm hotel or sm plz close by n keep an eye on what he is doing... i guess if u can do this without getting caught to him then u surely can find out what he is up to when u r away... what do u think? Isnt it worth giving it a try? if u get caught tell that u were worried why he doesnt bother abt u when u r away so u wanted to figure it out urself n wanted to convince urself that he is not up to anything bad if u know that i mean.. Good Luck!!!

Mr. Vincent Van Jessup	Opinion: Something is engaging his interest while you are away. He is pursuing that interest free of interference. No one is too stupid to lift a phone and dial a number. Little 5 year olds do it. He doesn't want to, and believe me, it is not your fault. There's nothing you're doing wrong. It's him.

just me	give him a break , everyone needs time alone,

Happy-2	So you're going to divorce him because he doesn't call you on 1.6% of the days of the year. Sure, him not calling you when you're out of town is a bit odd, but divorcing somebody over that is what's commonly known as an OVERREACTION.

867-5309 "Jenny"	By all means get a divorce because you don't trust him,, sounds more like guilt on your part..

jennifer_nh72	Sounds like he may be happy he is getting a break???

suspendedagain300	Everything is great but you are thinking about divorce because of this? Wow!! Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you because you overreact to things.

Chris	You're over-thinking thining things.....you may have already left this guy (and not just on business). If a relationship can end on the absence of a phone call, there is something else wrong there.

timssterling	Your hubby isnt calling because its hard to talk in strip clubs. Id lay it down straight on him too. Something isnt right.

55 and trying	This all seems strange to me. Out of sight out of mind does come to mind. Especially when he will not answer his phone. Something is up for sure.

Rachel	I'm shocked that you're willing to divorce this man simply because 2-3 days a year when you're on business, he doesn't call you. I truly wouldn't worry about it. Maybe it's his own of simply having his space.

Dr. Deth	6 days a yr he gets a break from being around you and you're talking divorce? what you're doing wrong is blowing things out of proportion - why isn't he a bread winner also?

Flagger	You are the person away from home. It is your responsibility to call home. What he has told you is exactly right, he does not know your schedule and presumably working. Call him when you are free. Don't you think that he is the one who is feeling "out of sight"? For what possible reason has this risen to a divorce level?

kja63	You want to divorce your husband because 359 days out of 365 he's "perfect" and the only problem is that he doesn't call you when you travel (rarely) on business?!?! Honey, you're the one with the problem. Not him.

FuGiez1	You've got to be kidding about getting a divorce over this really are u serious?? I mean what has marriage come to know-a-days you break up with your 8 grade crush for stuff like that. Do you guys have any kids? Female bread winners typically don't but thought I'd ask. Listen as guys we want and need our space what he's saying is let me breath unless u don't trust him? The only thing you should look or be observant about is how he acts when you get back home. Is he happy to see you? Does he rush you str8 to the bed? Is the house clean upon your return? Remember let him breath, as the song poet wrote. "Everybody needs a little time away, I heard them say from each other."

redpeach_mi	i can understand your position on this, but it's not worth divorcing over a situation that comes up twice a year. you are going to have to really hammer it into his head that you want to hear from him while you are away. for some reason he seems to think that's it's ok to not talk to you for a few days. i can see why he doesn't call you because he doesn't want to bother you, but i don't understand why you can never get ahold of him. if you try to call and can't reach him, leave a message and tell him to call you back.

Happy	ok.um just beause he hasn't called you doesnt mean he doesn't care.and maybe you could be busy and he calls u and u get mad or sumthing...ok.dont give hima divorce for such a stupid problem..and if it's bugging you that much call him yourseelf and ask him whts going on.and if he doent answer call someone u trust and tell them to like go check up on him....just incase you know if hes like at home with another lady....

ukisses06	To me i think he hiding something from u because it dont hurt to answer the phone if u just calling to say i love u. he should answer the phone. it might be something wrong so why not answer the phone. tell him u going on businesss one week before today an sit him up. you will know than. just sit back in watch him. dont just give up so fast check him out.

amor vincit omnia	cuidado nina bonita, i sniff a rat here

Ade	Sorry, I agree with you. I think there's something really wrong.

dulcrayon	Well, I understand the not calling. My wife does not and I would not either. He has no way of knowing what's happening at any given time-really bad time to call/etc. It's always better if the person attending the "thing" do the calling, then it's assured they are not in the middle of something. having said that-- I agree there's something not right. there is no reason he should not answer his phone. I think something that's not supposed to be happening is happening. trust is one of the main issues of any relationship-if it ain't there then the rest sorta falls apart, huh. good luck, and trust your gut.

Shayna	I don't understand why he wouldn't answer the phone when you call. I would be totally pissed with my husband for not answering the damned phone! My husband wouldn't call me when I was away either, but he will always answer the phone when I call him. I wouldn't divorce over this, unless his reasoning for not answering the phone is because he's at a strip club or having an affair or something. Edit: Okay, okay. I have to add something here. I'm not trying to imply that he's cheating or anything. It could very well be that he's just doing 'guy' things while you're gone, like hanging out with friends and whatnot, as others have said. But still, he couldn't possibly be gone 24 hours a day when you're not at home. At some point, wouldn't he be there to answer the phone? That's what I'm saying. Edit 2: I told my husband your scenario. The first words out of his mouth were "What's he up to?" Edit 3: I don't think some people have read the part that you DO call him, but he doesn't answer the phone. I think they're focusing on the part where you say he doesn't call you - they're thinking 'overreactive nutcase'. I think it would be your responsibility to call because who knows, he may get you at a bad time, in the middle of a meeting or something.

Lydia	Hon, he's probably just enjoying the break... Maybe you should too.

Kaya M	I guess your marriage is not as great as you said earlier in this comment. You are looking for something, that he told you he was doing. He said he knows you are busy and maybe you being away gives him time to miss you. It is only 2 days. Invite him to come this time and go from there.

Johnblaze613	ur not doing anything wrong, i dont think these are grounds for filing for divorce, you talk and see each other almost everyday, its healthy to spend a day or two without each other, just relax you're making a big deal out of nothing

cassieallet	Don't divorce him over this dummy... guys just need guy time. let him have his three or so days to be himself without you. 3 days out of a year is not asking too much. try treating yourself to alone time when you're gone. go get a mani or something. it feels good to be independant every once in a while.

Auri D	You're doing nothing wrong.A little time away is good for relationships..you don't want to suffocate each other.

Aunt Henny Penny	Honey, your husband is out kicking up his heels while you are away, exactly like any other man who's wife is away on business. Now, I am not saying he is cheating on you, not at all, I just think he is doing exactly what he wants to do while you are away. I do the exact same thing when my sweetie is away from me. I go to the movies, I visit with friends, I shop like a crazy gal. I wouldn't put too much thought in to it right now. I sure wouldn't get divorced over it.