My husband doesn't care about my appearance. Why should I even bother trying to "keep myself up?"

rdhedhottie	Don't do it for him, do it for you. I feel better when I have my makeup done, my hair done. Be glad that he loves you for you and not your appearance. I think he's trying to say he loves you just the way you are.

darell531	wow, ur lucky to find a person like that, but some reasons why ou should is to keep your health good, meaning being happy n knowing that you look good to get attention and to be noticed. hair, makeup, and all other fixings you do shouldnt be to just impress you husband it should be for yourself, and so people wont say that he married shrek or something. just do it to keep his attention n to still live your youthful days becuz todays society revolves around looks.

jimmyrm_25	He cares. Trust me he does. But, as a man I can also tell you that we are conditioned to give answers that are on the fence. We don't want to hurt your feelings, that makes us feel bad. But, honestly, if he married a hot little number he EXPECTS to have that hot little number for the rest of his life. P.S. Instead of trying to be just an everyday attractive throw in a 'dirty girl' look one day or a 'chic' look the next. You'll see how much your appearance means real quick.

poohbearmomma_1	we do it for us.....................all joke aside. There are mornings when i wake up put on a scarf grab the mop bucket and start cleaning......and then there are those days (pay day) that i get up comb my hair put on that outfit he likes and i am sitten in the front room waiting for him. we do all things even our hair for us to make us feel good. girl what would you look like walkin thru walmart with your hair all crazy spending his money. it looks better if you are neat and clean and u feel better too

N!cky	well do wat makes "you" happy!!!

Patricia M	You should try and keep your self looking the best you can. Not for him but for your self. You don't want to give him any reason to look down the road. . But you do not have to over do it. Good Luck Pem

sunflower1237	if you were to stop "keeping yourself up" he would notice, believe me. you might want to ask him about that statement he made. maybe he meant that no matter what you look like or what you do, he will still love you.

blkwdw86	Believe me, he married you for your beauty. If you let yourself go, he'll take off after not a very long time. The difference between men and womens' approach to relationships is this: Women think their man will change, and men think their women won't. Both are wrong. Keep that in mind.

Chiky	first of all, do it for yourself and not for him. Secondly,if you suddenly stopped, he'd care. But forget about him. Just make yourself feel good and keep up the good work! And give yourself a spa night sometime this week just to make it that much sweeter!

gymnastics_for_life	your beautiful without make up, every one is... but if you feel you should put on make up and your husband doesn't like that, then you should talk to him about that, tell him its important to you and he should understand

cupcake	i think you answred you own question in your question WITH a question. he's right... the choice and time it takes to get ready is up to you. why would you wanna look "hot" for his friends anyway? you shouldnt be an embarrassment regardless.

silent.peace	Easy....for you sweety! Doesn't it feel amazing when you look good? Do you enjoy the looks of appreciation you get while out looking your best? I know I do! You shouldn't not care just because he doesn't! Enjoy your life...enjoy being a girl...and enjoy all of the wonderful and silly things that go along with it! Take care and I hope you have an amazing day!

JaidenLucas Kody H	DO IT IF YOU LIKE TO BUT IF HE DONT CARE DONT WORRY ALL THE TIME ONLY WHEN GOING OUT IN PUBLIC NOT EVAN I WEAR SWEATS TO THE MOVIES SOME TIMES DONT MAKE YOUR SELF HIGH MAINTENANCE

llllllfireflyllllll	Maybe so you don't embarrass yourself

Nichole	Who cares what he thinks. Do it for yourself. If you truly don't care either then look like a slob if that is what you want.

kathy g	to show that you respect and love yourself.thats very important to other people and it tells them alot about you.dont you know you cant love anyone else unless you love yourself.love yourself first then others.loving yourself is taking care of yourself.

gmc19832001	because your doing it to make yourself not him!!!! any man that doesn't want to see his woman dressed to the "T" is not much of a man

Xanana	Because when you stop keeping yourself up, he will notice the change, start muttering things under his breath that will irritate you, and you will start an argument, and he will raise his voice, and you will claim that he doesn't love you anymore and cry, and he will say " I don't believe this!" and walk away, and you will go into depression and maybe committ suicide, leaving you husband in eternal guilt. So just doll up ok, girl?

cici	Keeping yourself up shouldn't only be for him, It lets other people know how great he has it and that you're gorgeous. You're right to do it to not embarass him in front of his peers. besides if you didn't keep yourself up and looked like a complete slob he'd probably change his mind.

Nicoley	you should shut up and be happy that he fell in love with you and married you for a non shallow reason.. he loves you for who you are.. quit b*tching and be happy.... just becuase he doesnt care if you wear make up or not doesnt mean he doesnt care.... he loves you for you..... it doesnt mean you dont have to dress up.. if that makes you feel good than do it...

Kats	The only thing you should really worry about keeping up is your weight - be healthy. I don't wear makeup and usually do my hair the same way everyday, in a bun. So easy. My boyfriend doesn't care. He still thinks I'm the best looking girl in the world. (I think he needs glasses.) Plucking your eyebrows is a nice thing to do when you're bored, though.

BECKBY	Keep yourself nice for yourself and also for him. Be the virtous woman as the Bible says.

tats	he cares hes just telling you he didnt marry you cuz ur pretty he married you cuz he loves you for who u are.... Not what you look like... Besides if you stop everything then u will hate yourself You dont wont that... Go to ur husband and tell him u love him

Steph is tight like a tiger	what about trying foryourself? men, even though they may say they dont care what you look like, they would rather look at something more appealing. that appealing person should be you. taking care of yourself jsut makes you feel good.

phoenixheat	You want to look your best for yourself primarily. I bet if you let yourself go, he would notice.

LiNdSaY	I'm sure he would care if you didn't do those things. Guys appriciate those things even if they don't say it, he is obviously attracted to you by how you look every day. If you don't wanna do that everyday, thank you shouldn't have to, but if it makes you feel good then why not.

:SoCaLChiK.:	don't

jaylee c	he mite jus b sayin it,but in any case do wat feels rite to u,if dressing up makes u feel good then do u

Phil	Umm, then don't. Problem solved.

Baby Jack born 4/5/09	Because hes so used to you. The same with women and seeing hot guys. After a long time, your just so used to each other.