My husband forgot my B-day yesterday. Should I say something??

MissingInAction	He does not love you anymore. Find the door and let yourself out.

SALMON	Get over it and yourself...Birthdays are for little kids when you turn 12 that should be the end of that.....

Walt	It is very common for me to do that. I have never forgotten an anniversary or birthday. Mainly because my wife reminds me that she celebrates her birthday all month, not just one day, lol. Well, if he found a birthday card from a friend just laying on the counter he will get the idea. Do not confront him, just have a b'day card from a friend laying where he will surely find it and then he will find some way to bring up the subject. Happy belated b'day

noodles	This happened to a friend of mine and she went out and used his charge card to buy herself an expensive ruby ring. When he asked her about it she said "it was your birthday present to me". I doubt if he ever forgot her birthday again.

NEWMOMMY	go out to dinner at a nice restaurant.. order some flowers get them sent to you, buy a nice present for your self.. and simply say thank you honey.. hopefully you will outdo yourself on my next birthday..

thwack	So sorry. Tell him ASAP. If you have a good relationship, then I'm sure it was a mistake. Laugh about it and forgive him THIS time. But make sure it is in his planner, calendar, etc. next year. Sometimes we men are not as thoughtful as we should be. I think he will feel really bad - as he should - however he will make it up to you!

I, Sapient	Work on better communication. That's a start. You need to be able to express yourself in your marriage.... in a constructive and productive way! There is no sense in making things worse for yourself. Snap out of it - You can't change the past! Pouting and making yourself even more miserable will only make things worse. Remember - No one is going to come in and make your marriage (or husband) become what you want it to be..... only you and your husband can do that!

durtyboyz2005	I would at least let him know how you feel because if you dont say something it will just get worse and worse

angelastheboss	How did you not get any birthday cards or anything from anyone else? How did you avoid mentioning it for the preceding weeks? You sound passive aggressive. Just tell him he forgot, it hurt your feelings, and that next year you'll remind him so he won't forget again.

deer	You should take him to a professional football game and pay to have one of those messages put across the scoreboard at half time. Have is read, "Happy Belated Birthday Arielle. I bet your sorry husband forgot too! What ever you do, don't get mad and start letting him have it. He'll feel worse if you don't. Trust me.

Kit Kat	Yes, tell him................and make sure you milk it for all its worth.... !!!!!!!

bdmrplemons	I would say something to him, it would be very hard not to!

seaturtle36	Well I can tell you from alot of experience even the best men are not perfect. Y es go ahead and tell him let him make it up to you,. This may sound stupid but try not to be mad. This happened to me on my 12th anniveresary.

em T	Walk around the house singing "Happy Birthday to me" and see if he takes the hint. If not, keep dropping more hints until he realizes. It's far more productive to make him feel a little guilty and try to make it up to you, than it is to get angry or teary at him and make him get defensive. We all forget things sometimes. If he doesn't take the hints (some guys are a little oblivious) just ask him " so what's the really big thing you've been planning for my birthday that's taking a little longer than you planned to pull off, seeing that my birthday was yesterday?" Say it with an expectant smile. And if he says "nothing" just tell him you're sure he'll think of something.

â™‚â™¥â™€Lesleyâ™‚â™¥â™€	happy late birthday, honey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im sure he didnt do it on purpose, i would remind him if i were u, he he he make him feel guilty. most men when they do this, they can turn into the most loving men ever.... luck to ya

TwinkaTee	I think the most important thing is to address your feelings. Yes, when your husband fails to acknowledge your birthday, it is a disappointing thing. BUT, DO NOT allow yourself to feel about who you are or about how much (or how little) your husband loves you. You can not take it personally. Step back and a realize that people do forget, people do love you and that you need to take better strides in making your feelings known. You should talk to your hubbie about what happened. Let him know that it made you feel bad and ask him if he plans to make it up to you. Be honest, direct and to the point. Don't get all emotional - There is no need for that. I have found that the more you get your feelings under control, the more emotionally healthier and happier you will be!

Vanka	Wow some husband. Tell him and see his reaction.

chowderboxallnite	Yes, you should say something like. Get out of my house you loser. I am filing for divorce. I can't IMAGINE forgetting my wife's b-day.

ellen	Don't ignore it. Instead, go shopping and say, "hey, look what you bought me for my birthday!" and then I pick a restaurant so we can have dinner together. I've done that plenty of times. I think he's used to it by now. Anyhoo, he's not good at picking out gifts.

Â¡Hola! Mi nombre es Tamara.	Go buy yourself something expensive with his credit card! ;o) Happy Birthday!

ktychaos13	Say something like,"well do I look any older?" And then mention that your mom or dad wanted to take you out to eat for your B-day. I would bring it up in a way that makes him figure out what he forgot and then make him make it up to me double time!

Gretta	Communication is so important in a marriage. Whatever you do, don't let this build up within you. Months and weeks of resentment will cause nothing but heartache between the two of you. I would just set down tonight and have a little chat. Don't be accusing, just say something like 'honey, I realize things have been stressful lately and we both have alot on our minds right now, maybe I shouldn't even mention this, but I have this ache in my heart that I can't supress' then ' I was just wondering if I have said or done something to upset you in anyway....yesturday was my birthday and it didn't seem as if you acknowledged it.....I thought maybe I had done something to cause that." By making it seem as if you are at fault it will keep him from going into defense mode. Even though he shouldn't have forgotten your birthday, it is always best to approach any situation with a tender, loving heart. Remember you always catch more flies with honey. I'm sure he will be very upset when he realizes he has forgotten your very special day. Good luck!!!

Rieanna S	Absolutely tell him. Don't get angry, he'll likely just get defensive about the situation. But calmy tell him that he forgot your birthday and that it was an important day for you and it hurts that he doesn't care enough to remember. At this point, he should start feeling horrible and appologetic and will offer to make it up to you in some way. If he blows it off, then there is something wrong and you may want to consider couple's counseling. But do not ignore it. You waited all day yesterday for some type of special recognition and it never came. Ignoring it will just make you feel worse, and you need to tell him about his mistake. Just remember, be calm, even if you're very upset. You can show you're upset and depressed, but no yelling, throwing things, or other "explosive" types of actions.

Calculus	Should you say something? Well, you could say "You forgot my birthday!" and he will be apologetic. Birthdays, anniversaries have no value whatsoever in a man's mind so don't be alarmed if he ever forgets. Not that he should. But the key is that these things are of very little value to men and it is hardly surprising of a man forgot their anniversary or wife's birthday.