My husband has gotten more abusive but promised it will stop, what should I do?

Steve-o	u dont deserve that

AnotherName	you diserve better, leave him it will be better in the end he needs help

Maggie	leave him. no one deserves that.

pebblespro	What are you waiting for? Him to kill you? It would probably NOT be a bad idea to leave him. Good luck

gbasp2003	Leave him, now!

demicidal	If you wanna keep your wife around... Hit her.

Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions	dump the chump... he's not gonna get better without anger management...

awfulshowkeyz	Send him to jail. Any man who would abuse a woman deserves to rot in prison and find out first hand what real abuse is!!

welshchick20078	once a woman beater always a woman beater he wont change hun! leave him he deserve much beta than that!

Kimberrr	He will do it again. I think you should leave him while you have the chance. Good luck.

Voddy C	oh yeah? I would never have let someone ever even speak down to me, you get treated how you LET your self get treated.

Danielle	dude get the crap away from him as fast as you can

akristel2003	get counseling or move back in with your parents.... This won't get any better unless something changes, and you deserve to not be abused.

Joy	It doesn't stop that easy! You need to leave because he won't. The next time he might hurt you bad so end it before it does.

Allie	you need to leave him and get a restraining order...this abuse will not stop and will only get worse. PLEASE leave him, look after yourself.

Æ¸ÌµÌ¡ÓœÌµÌ¨Ì„Æ· Lillie TTC # 1 Æ¸ÌµÌ¡ÓœÌµÌ¨Ì„Æ·	It doesnt stop until you leave. He will promise and promise but it wont stop. He will tell you he will come find you if you leave but don't let him know so somewhere safe. You need to leave

Angel	Sorry to hear of this & you shouldn't have to put up with it, leave him, it'll be hard but it's for the best

parkmistyred	Get out now while you can. I can assure you the next time will be worse. He has that mean streak in him and you nor anyone else is going to change that. Do it now while you still can.

KDC	I think you already know the answer, but need to hear it from others to validate your feelings about the situation. You are not safe. He will get even more mean. It is a vicious cycle. GET OUT. The police can help you find a safe place and counselling.

Mark M	DO NOT TRUST THIS MAN. Violence escalates. It takes on a cyclical pattern. He will treat you very well for a while, then the abuse will start again and it will always go a little further than the last time. PLEASE get your kids and leave NOW!!!

G-man 1	Girl this is BAD, you just descibed a volcano that is biulding up to a eruptsion, and it`s going to blow! get a restraining order NOW! then have him get OUT!, do this ASAP your life may depend on it. I would not trust him if I were you. my prayers are with you.

cancel	I think if he really is hurting you...you should report it. Then find another guy. What do expect people to say? Think of it this way...do you want to live like this? Does how he treat you make you happy? Look...it's your decision but you shouldn't have to live like that. And apologies mean nothing if the act re-occurs. There are good men out there.

Just me	As you see it started out just verbal and has progressively gotten worse. Unfortunately it will continue to progressively get worse and one day he will really hurt you. Please just leave and find the wonderful man that you really deserve. One that will treat you with love an respect. And please if you have kids leave NOW. I grew up in a home where my father beat my mother. Locked her out of the house in her bra and panties in the snow and when I tried to call the police he ripped the phone off the wall. I could tell you many more very traumatizing things from watching my father abuse my mom.....It's a terrible thing for a child, very scary. To this day if someone even looks like they are about to fight or someone just gets a bit loud I get so anxious and I just want to run away.

say it all...	He will not change. An abuser will make you all sorts of promises and yet they never seem to be able to keep them. There are counseling services and other services for battered women - call 211 (info-line) and find one near you. As much as you feel that you love him - it's very rare that the abuser actually changes. Take care! Be true to yourself!

ICYUNVME	Get out, if you have kids take them too!!! Also leaving him will help him change and that is ultimately what you want right? If he sees how his abusive ways have caused you to leave him he will do what it takes to get you back!And that means becoming a better person.

Lady Freyja	Your husband is lucky he's not married to me. Because the first time he laid a hand on me I would have kneed him in the nuts and walked out the door. Then I would have pressed charges and sent his sorry a-s to jail. Anyone who hits or otherwise abuses a woman deserves to go to prison and be some guys b-tch.

Rachel B	im' soryy to hear about your situation and i know it will be really hard to leave him but u have to before something serious really happens he says he won't do it again but u don't know that for sure. your safety and life is on the line, u should leave hem just make sure that i u do leave him pack up and do so while he is out of the house

des	You shouldn't be asking questions on yahoo you should be calling the police and get info on getting a protective order. I don't understand people staying in relationships with this type of behavior, you see t v right people being killed by their partners, you need to get help and now, I think if he only happened once and that would be bad enough but after all this he's not going to stop until you leave.

auroras	GET OUT OF THERE. Take it from me. I am a domestic violence survivor. I was married to my husband for 11 years. We had 2 small sons. Like you, it began with verbal abuse. Then emotional abuse. Then physical abuse. Punching holes through walls, doors. Drinking, drugging, cheating, gambling, staying out for days at a time. You name it, he did it. Do you have kids? If you don't - DO NOT let yourself get pregnant. Get out of there. NOW. Do you want to know the rest of my story? The physical abuse only occurred maybe twice a year. But it was enough for me. I was afraid he would start hitting the kids. One time, when my son was about 4, my husband threw him on the bed. That was it for me. We tried individual counseling, marriage counseling, nothing worked. I gave it all I had for 11 years. My therapist said "when you're ready to leave, you will leave" and he was right. My leaving was not planned, or thought out. It was spontaneous. One night my husband and I and my youngest son were watching TV. My oldest son was at my mother's. My husband grabbed the remote out of my son's hands. My son was 6 or 7 at the time. I made a comment that it wasn't nice of him to GRAB the remote out of my sons hands. A fight esculated. The fight moved into the kitchen where my husband proceeded to pick me up with his hands around my neck. He dragged me back into the bedroom, threw me down on the bed, and as my little son watched, hit me repeatedly in the face. I found the strength to kick him off of me, grabbed my car keys and wallet, and my son, and we ran out the door. We were both wearing pajamas. It was around 11:30 at night in October. 1994 to be exact. October 8, 1994. I still remember the night because it was a milestone in my life. We made it into the car and drove to the nearest police station. I ran in with my son and said my husband was beating me, to please help us. The police got us a room at a local motel, and gave us milk and cookies. There was a female police officer there who said to me (and I will NEVER forget it) "THIS IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE", and it was. Because I never went back. My husband thought it would blow over. But I meant business. He followed me, he pleaded with me, he begged me. For me, it was over. Done. Finished. The next day I had him arrested. He spend a few days in jail. When he got out, the police escorted him to the house for his things, and I got an order of protection so he could not come near me. I ended up moving out of that house, he moved in with his mother. I took the boys to another state and started a new life. I raised my kids, bought a house, got on with my life. And it's all good. You've got to do the same. Get yourself out of there. No one has to put up with that. No one. No one deserves to be treated like that. And if you have kids it will mess up your kids. Get out. Listen to me. Listen good. GET OUT.