My husband hurt my feelings & i am having a hard time getting over it. Any suggestions?

Shangubi..	When upset, all of us use the same kind of words, although in 90% we do not really mean. Men use it more easily for their wives and then for their near girlfriends, but then they make up for it. In your case, as you state, he'sn't willing to say sorry. Wait. When next he needs you, he will, for sure. Then you can force out a big SORRY and also ask for the reason before you've given up yourself to him. He may have come under the influence of some of the colleagues, since both of you work together, or there could be a woman jealous of you who may have inspired him so. Take time, wait, time is the best physician. Do not grind on the matter, just ignore the case for the time being. Do NOT show that you're hurt, otherwise next time he's angry he might purposely hurt you with the same word, or even worse..

Me	Try to talk to him diretly alone, I beleive any problem between a man and his wife can be solved without interfering from the outside. And about the witch thing, show him that you are not. And show him that its his shame that guys at work share with him this opinion. If you change to be more as he want will be very effective. Be sure he is not comparing you to another girl, Is there another girl in his life.

emmaleighsmom2004	Well I think that is very rude of your husband. Look at your life. Do you think you are a b****? Maybe you just come across different and they don't know how to react. Maybe they are jealous. If you are happy with yourself than who cares what everyone else says about you. You have to live your life for you. You only get one chance.

linda h	Even if he is right, he could be nicer. He talks to the other people at work about you being b*itchy? If I were you I would seek some marriage couseling, if he wont go, go alone.

Rene	Well, this is pretty serious stuff... if my husband called me a b****, I would be heartbroken and we would really need to work on our relationship. Maybe you and your husband can go to counseling and figure out what's wrong. It's also hard to work in the same company with your spouse - one of you should probably find a new job. It just adds stress to your relationship. If my husband truly thought I was a bad person, or if I thought he was a bad person, there is no way we could stay together.

POOCHY	WELL, IN MY CASE, I'M A "ITCH" TOO, IN MY HUSBAND'S EYES BUT HE DOESN'T TREAT ME ANY DIFFERENT UNLESS WE ARGUE OR SOMETHING BUT IN UR CASE, I WOULD SIT DOWN AND TALK TO UR HUSBAND AND ASK HIM WHY HE SAYS UR A "ITCH" AND TALK TO UR FELLOW EMPLOYEE'S ON WHY THEY CALL U THAT TOO. THE IMPORTANT THING HERE IS TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT URSELF AND DON'T LET ANYONE TREAT U LESS THAN WHAT U ARE- STAND STRONG AND BE AS MATURE AS POSSIBLE WHEN DEALING WITH IMMATURE AND FAKE PEOPLE-ESPECIALLY CO-WORKERS!!

tish-ka-bob	People say mean things to people they love that can be very hurtful. After a few days you think he would of appoligized just to end the argument. How awful it was to mention people you work with think your a *** . You have to see these people everyday. You must have a friend at work you can talk to, im sure not everyone thinks that way of you. That was something mean and hurtful to say to you to get back at you. All couples fight and those who say they don't are full of ** or have a push over as a mate.

U.S.Veteran	Just try to figure out what you have done to have so many people feel this way about you and make ammends. Ask Jesus Christ into your heart, repent of your sins, and love your neighbor as if loving yourself. You'll be alright, and don't feel sorry for yourself. You have been through nothing but a name-calling incident. After all Jesus Christ was totally innocent, yet he was crucified on the cross. .

Zolex1981	Maybe you are a ***** (not an insult). Maybe you always play smart and try to show the world that you are in control in term of your marriage. Maybe you should review your attitude. If it doesn't work out, get a divorce...

BamBam	When my husband hurts my felings, I sit down and write him a letter. I know if sounds corny, but it is easier to express your emotions on paper, and this way he hears you out without interupting. If you do this, let him read it when you are not around. (like in the bathroom). I REALLY have found this effective. Don't underestimate the power of your words. Just let your feelings out w/o nagging or getting angry. Unless his heart is made of stone he will respond. Besides, you will feel better once it is all off your chest.

Launycaspot	I think maybe more communication in your marriage will help you understand why he feels this way. You may be doing something to him that he truly hates and it could be something that can be fixed. Yeah its not nice to call people out of their name but when everyone is doing it i think there is a reason why. A nice calm talk may help.

Pegi	I am so upset for you right now I don't know what to say, first of all he should never side with anyone about you. So what if you were a witch (b) there was probably a reason for it. I think your husband is very disrespectful and as far as the people at work, you can try to be as nice as you can but there is a thing called jealousy and they maybe jealous of the relationship you 2 have and are trying what they can to break that up but it makes me mad that he would even side without someone that would call you a witch...shame on him and you should be hurt......You seem like you are really nice and maybe talk with him to ask what make you and your friends label me a *** maybe they just misunderstand you but still i'm pissed. I wish you well on this one because by the time I got through with him and all his little cronies they would know exactly what a *** was....sorry....i just can't help it

Objekt85	hahaha maybe you are

Ask Angie	Well, first of all, he should apologize for saying that. Maybe the way he told you that wasn't the nicest. As for you, try to think about what you are going to say before you say it. Be slow to answer, and think about whether your answer will hurt anyone's feelings or cause problems. As for both of you working for the same company, bad idea. It does cause problems like the ones you see here. Think about these things and tell your husband that he does owe you an apology. Good luck!

starbabytwinkle	This guy sounds really horrible, he must really love himself. Me partner often says the same to me - who are they to say such things. As for the not wanting to ask you for lunch - that is really mean. I really don't know what to say. He's your husband but he sounds horrible. good luck x

Miami Lilly	Well, he obviously doesn't value your feelings much. If that is the way he truly feels about you, I would consider filingg for divorce. Life is so much better when you live with someone that cherishes you, instead of seeing you as a b****.

bina64davis	Oh my Gosh! Well, could it be your attitude towards things? I mean, do you complain or talk negatively about stuff, or always talk about yourself? Many people do this but don't realize it, and others do consider them stuck up, or a %itch. Try not complaining, or talking about anything negative. Start complimenting people, even if you don't like what they have on, or their hair, or something. They will start to think you are a nice person. And when you are out in public, or when you are walking down the hall, just smile and say "Hi!" to whoever you pass. If you change your attitude, and force yourself to be nice and friendly, eventually you WILL be nice and friendly and people will be more drawn towards you.

just nate	Perhaps you could ask him about Why he called you that... ask for specific examples... and then, if it's not too unreasonable, try to work through those things. I don't think you should change everything about yourself to make him happy. Relationships are all about GIVE and TAKE. Its a work in progress. It's not out of the question that you try to change some, and he tries not to over react at everything you say. Good Luck! Nate

reifguy	dont know u ,and dont know what u did or what pissed him off to that limit,but seems he is loaded towards u,.empathy sounds good now,and u aint a b in my opinion ,becoz u have feelings and cried,a b would have rewtailated and made his balls a lunch for the kids,so he wouldnt say that word again,so cheer up

RayCATNG	Well he says that other people say the same thing about you. If this is true maybe you should consider changing. If it isn't true then you should start plotting your revenge on him. Show him how much of a witch you can be ... I also suggest finding your own friends.

thebox	Well, I have been called an a**hole before, when my intentions were good. Talk to your husband about it. Talk to the other people at work and see if they really think you are one. If they all say yes, then you probably are. You might just come off as harsh to some people. Try changing your tone, smile a lot and see what happens. Hopefully something good will come of this. :)

stephanie	maybe think about how you are treating your husband and other ppl you work with (since he says other ppl share his opinion) maybe you are spending to much time with him since you have the same job and see eachother after work....

JM	you just have to make a conscious effort to be nicer! or not take offense to the statement! i find that a lot of people use that word to describe a woman who is strong and speaks her mind. any time i'm called a ***** i just smile and say thanks!

Scadle	Try to be nice; remind him he knew you before he married you and still went through with it; and remember that you both have a responsibility to one another to not just lift the other up but help make them the best person they can be. If you're trying to be nice then it sounds like he's dropping the ball. Lastly, name calling was never deemed productive.

luigi	well wht you should do is tape yourself during the day and see how you really sound after a day...see if your husband is right

Ray2play	Seek out a speech consultant. It could be as simple as your delivery.

curmudgeon	he is obviously very angry at you. he could have made the same point in a nicer way, and he could be more cooperative now, but he isn't and didn't. i suspect he may be up to something.

Common Sense	Is it possible that he is right ?