My husband is 300lbs due too overeating,he thinks it's OK and doesn't care that I hate it and find it gross

sissybombay	your husband needs to love himself because it is going to kill him. The family is suffering also because they will be left w/o a father I suggest you mention a 12 step program that deals with over eat eaters your husband has OCD obsessive compulsive disorder and this can be treated. I wish you guys luck..

Becky	not sure what your question is... yes that sounds gross and unhealthy, was he fat when you got married? Do you want us to tell you to leave him? What is it you want??

Marsha	that may be true - the more of him to love - but also more of him to miss when he is no longer around due to health issues it is easier to laugh it off than confront the issue - noone has to tell him - he knows do not badger - promised for better or worse - sickness and health .... still the same person you married inside..... love him unconditionally and do what you can to serve healthy meals and lessen the number of unhealthy items in the fridge and pantry areas.....he will come around when he sees the results thanks for caring!

oneidmnstr	How fast can you get to a divorce lawyer?He's killing himself,which means he doesn't really love you.If he loved you he would want to change.Your best bet is to get out.

nonya	Why is he overeating? Sounds like a psychological prob there sweety. He may need some counseling. It may be more of him to love, but obesity can be the cause of his death.

Zebra4	As I see it, your best move is to separate from him for a while, letting him know it is because he grosses you out. Basically, it's like giving a child a "time out" while they think about their behavior. Either he will wake up and realize he needs to change, or he won't and you will be free to find someone who takes care of himself!

Sharon R	i did not hear any question .......just a selfish statement .Make him some healthy meals and eat them with him.

nikki	well, why dont you do the shopping from now on adn buy healthy but yummy foods(i know it is hard to believe but they are out there) also go for walks after dinner or go bike riding on the weekends. just find something active but fun and do it with him so he doenst feel alone in this. if you wanted to do somethign extreme start a diet for him adn do it with him.

~just_jd~	it isn't healthy and he could have a heart attack. so i would go along more of the lines for health issues. instead of grossing you out.

My midpt. in life.	OMG he's gonna die! why not start small, no need for him to have a six pack, but losing maybe 20 lbs ( seriously ) will help. as a rule, losing 10% of your total body weight over a period of 6 months helps. I believe at his rate if he just cuts outs one soda, he will lose that 10% or even more.

jt	Pack your bags and leave for a while. Tell him that you will return when he stops thinking about himself. He's killing himself, and he's going to leave you all alone. Does he want that? Talk to him, tell him that you will help him, and be there for him.

rand a	well, buy him some donuts and lard, and say Hellllooooo to the pool boy.

Amanda	Tell him to stop with the jokes.. if your husband grosses you out, it's time to just come out and tell him to lose some weight. Don't give him dessert, if you have control over his meals, fix him something healthy. He'll get the hint and hopefully change for you.

bigfree_2005	Well, please be supportive of him. Let him know of your concerns and help him get the help he needs.

Taco	he is just making it look like he doesn't care He need a motivation

Hamish	Maybe he thought you meant it when you said for better or for worse.

coolbluepot	Motivate him to lose weight!!! I feel so bad for you.. a fat husband... tell him to lose it or move it! good luck

deborah_012003	Well its his decision. If you don't like his weight remind him that you probably would not have married him if you would have known. He has a point though.

â™¥RNâ™¥	Its not like that! Tell him he can seriously cause health problems does he have diabetes?? =He will!

Ya-sai	He's let himself go. He's lazy. He's selfish and guess what, there's 300lbs to prove it

statistics	i dont think you should change.. definitely HE should change his mindset. it's so unhealthy to be that way. maybe he needs to get some counselling. or maybe u need to take drastic measures.

JennoftheJungle	He's ill. He needs help. If he won;t get it, go for yourself. If he doesn't change, then you may think about moving on.

Alex	You should divorce him.

Curious J.	Did he weigh this much when you married him?

jenlovely01	How much did he weigh when you married him?

johnbntexas	you got the right catagory MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE it takes a while to get to step two but it sounds like you are coming around note that the guys all seem to be in agreement we all know this guy and what a loser he is

SBad	Dump him.

S K	He's not going to change. Either you change, or accept him as is.