My husband is addicted to weed, should I divorce my husband?

Little L	I read on here that someone said that smoking weed is fine. Well, that may be, but not for a man who can't seem to hold a job all while needing to help support a child. You've gotta ditch him hon.

coffee.taylor	its a crazy relationship and if he is in to weed as you say he is, I would not leave my baby with him. I doubt that he will give up weed because he is addicted and need Professional help.It is best that you let him go and think about your baby.

preciousstonestables	For starters...weed is NOT addictive. It sounds as if your husband is just a deadbeat. Absolutely leave his butt if he will not support his family. He should be working and you taking care of the baby. You might as well leave, it's going to be cheaper for you without him around. He'll get his when child support office gets him. Pay or lose his license and go to jail!

dymondQueen83	I don't think you should fully blame the weed but if he was smoking like that before the baby, I can see why he hasn't stopped because that's an escape for him. With the not working, if you want to stay in your marriage, give him an ultimatum because you're a family now. Do what's best for you and your family, whether being with your husband or not!

sara	oh my god you poor thing im sorry but i cant help other than to say, you should report him. and you should keep away... its bad for your baby as well...

dalitiguous1	he is hopeless, if not dangerous.........he cares nothing about you or your baby. You don't need him for any kind of support as you are already shouldering the load. Get out before your child gets old enough to see the inevitable destructive behavior play out in front of him.

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mswildchick	you need to sit down and talk to him about it, and see what he has to say, see if he will agree to stop doing it, and then see if he actually does before making any decisions. If needed, try separating for a while. I have to ask you, do you feel comfortable leaving your baby with him alone? It is a terrible thing to ask, but if his main priority is pot, do you really want your baby girl possibly inhaling that or even him leaving her alone so he can do it? ... something for you to thinkabout

Sandman	This is as crazy as you think it is. It is not normal. Your husband has anger issues. If you want to salvage the marriage insist he go to marriage counseling with you at your local Mental Health clinic. If it's unsalvagable, see an attorney.

Michael S	sounds crazy. but i know people who can keep the marrige bairly going by a string beacause of the financial and other issues with divorce, its personal for you to decide when it is the point you want to divorce him. im hella high now so i dont think pots the issue except he does do it a bit to much

Pickled Emerald	Weed is usually used for two reasons: 1. Recreational 2. To suppress memories It seems as though his drug use is just an outlet to suppress or repress a painful memory. Perhaps you should think about getting him couselling. Do this before you do something drastic like divorcing him. We really need to think about your child here. Although it wouldn't be the best childhood to have a drug addict father, it's better than no father at all. You need to stick by him and help him through his addiction. The last thing he needs right now is to loose his support.

A Beth of Fresh Air	he has a big problem now i smoke that ganja too, but it doesn't control my life, it relives stress for me i don't do it everyday or think about it everyday he acts like a teenager and needs to get his life together if you continue to babysit him, he will not. Tell him he has 1 month to get his life together or you're gone.

Brittney	Occasional weed is not a big deal ( to me) but this guy obviously lives and dies by it which is a problem. That and pushing and hitting you has zero to do with his thyroid, he has an anger problem on top of his addiction to weed. This relationship is crap, find a different one in the future and get your baby away from that man who is irresponsible and cannot keep a job longer than a few months. Plus he broke his word about stopping the dope once she was born.

dance!	UMM YEAH HE MIGHT HURT YOU

Blessed	Bad judgement on you.... He showed you who he was initially...your fault for thinking he would CHANGE

OMG	Just Scare him say if u dont stop it im leaving and im taking the baby!!! and if he dosnt stop leave

Sunshine	your husband seems to be harard to the baby. I would leave immediatelly. Whether you would divorce would depend on his willingness to change, but I would immediatelly leave the house for the baby's sake. I wouldnt like to wait until he snaps and does something irreversible...

General Custer	I think you made two big mistakes, don't make any more for the sake of your baby. See a lawyer before making any move.

Kandie <3	Get out of there now. He is putting weed in front of you and your child. You both deserve better then that.

JC	Give him a chance to get help tell him you will be there for him if he does otherwise you have to do what is best for you and the kid let him go it sounds like weed isn't his only problem

SmellsLikeVinegar	why'd you marry him in the first place... Leave and call for a divorce... because if you tell him, he's gonna crush you...

nevadaed73	Lady take your baby and RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!â€¦

Airea D	This can be considered an abusive relationship, no matter if he's actually touched you or not. It is bad enough that he is addicted to a drug, which he may choose over you one day, but then he also has mood swings. He should get medical help stat, or you should divorce. You don't sound happy with him.

pianoplayer123	It is as crazy a relationship as you think it is. I would leave him because he is not the man for you at all!

Jay P	you cant actually be addicted to pot read reefer madness.... its no big deal it doesnt even kill brain cells

Ms. Peter Cottontail	you should if he doesn't stop for you or your child. he should be a good hubby, if he really loves you he will stop. leave him if he's a danger or bad influence.

Wise 1	NO. marraige is about sticking together. however you should contackt an agency

Weezy	Unless his A$$ is Snoop Dogg leave him.

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Mittmoudh R	move out NOW your life, happiness, and that of your daughter is at risk