My husband is cheeting How do I deal with it'?

Brandi	Okay, I found out on the 4th of July that my husband was cheating (Email me if you need a friend to talk to) I love him. We have kids. I feel sick just thinking about what he has done, adn the things that I can picture him doing. But I love him. I also love myslef and my kids. We have been married 5 years. I have alot of pride. And although I have said all of this, I want to be married to HIM. I also can look at him and see the person that he was. My question to you is, does he want to work this out? Why has he cheated? My husband was bored, and there was alot of other issues that I wont go into here. Can you forgive? Don't just walk out, that would make it to easy for him. Make he have to look at you every day and see the hurt. Get help. Talk to a friend. And when you feel your heart breaking, remember to breath. God bless you. God bless all of women who deal with this.

kny390	Buy a burial plot and leave the deed on the table. Tell him the next time he cheats, it's his new home.

Zeltar	Have him invite her over to the house and break up with her right in front of you. Then, you take her aside and tell her to stay away from your man. When she leaves, tell him that it stops now. You're is one an only. If he wants something else, he's going to have to break it off with you first. Tell him you forgive him. But, it better not happen again. Point to the door and tell him that's his exit sign if he wants it.

Ali	Is his cheating something you want to deal with for the rest of your life? Don't you believe that you deserve more? Just because he has his good points (reasons you married him), doesn't mean that he hasn't changed for the worse. All relationships have problems but none of them should have cheating involved. If both of you are up to it, you should seek counseling to get through it. Otherwise I would suggest you leave him cuz it's not going to get better for either of you...Good luck. I really hope you make the right decision for yourself.

stephen k	You have chosen to deal with it by letting him carry one. he may be the person you married, but he is seeking something that he cannot find in you in the arms of another

infoman89032	invite your new boy friend over for dinner over the phone while hes listen you know like yes he's going out to nite so what you want to go do while hes gone.. pack his things

u-wish	even tho he is deep down inside the person that you married, he will NOT take you seriously until you take the situation seriously. He needs to go...otherwise jokes on you. He's cheating on you and getting his way @ the exact same time....sorry to tell you, but it happens, happened to me and that's how you gotta deal with it.

my two cents	Life is too short to be putting up with that kind of torture....lose him.

emma	Perhaps try marriage counseling that could help.

Mr. Vincent Van Jessup	It makes me mad to even hear about someone treating the person they married that way. He has zero character and is a weakling. You know that, don't you? Where I come from, you can get over anything a person does, anything, that is, but cheating. Give him the boot. Life's for living. You're better than that, and someone will recognize that and pick you up in a heartbeat.

livestorun	does he know that you know? you should see if he tells you first. if he gets guilty and is sorry he will tell you on his own. most people think that cheating is all one persons fault but it almost never is. it might be good to confront him and ask why he's cheating on u. maybe you're not fulfilling him in some way. divorce is never the way to go. good luck! :)

Lindsey	He cheated, there should be no question about what you do now. Divorce him, I know it will be hard, and even harder if you have kids together, but you'll eventually move on and find someone that will appreciate and respect you and love you. If my husband ever so much as kissed another woman, that's grounds for divorce for me.

I Am Delilah	yeah he may be the person you married but that doesnt matter...if he is cheating on you then it means that he doesnt love you as much as you love him. I know its hard to understand but it's the cold truth. Dump him. And go find someone who wont cheat on you and will want you and only you.

Kaja	the person you married is supposed to be faithful, and he's not. kick him out.

Dee	If you accept this kind of abuse from your husband then he will keep on doing it. He said the same vows you did on your wedding day didn't he? The best thing to do is to leave him. Obviously he doesn't know what commitment means and he doesn't have real true love in his heart for anyone.. he wants to taste everything on the menu. Loose him. Get someone that will treasure you and only you... or just stay single, who needs a man to complete them anyway?

jus wanna know	if you dont want to leave him get revenge

Daiquiri Dream	Love yourself more than you love him & get him out of your home for good.

leslieguelker0517	kick his *** out - in my book once a cheater always a cheater -- a few men have proved this to be true -- good luck

Robert W	Ask for a divorce.. when he asks why, tell him you know about his affair.. Maybe you can work this thing out. Putting up with it is NOT working it out..

Sheryl	He has no respect for you if he is cheating. If you stay, you have no respect for yourself.

lisa k	D* I* V* O* R* C* E

miyazaki75	Obviously he is NOT the person you married. You need to find a good divorce attorney or forgive him and move on.

princessfionafantasy	leave!!!!! how can you forgive that? what if he does it again? youll destroy your self esteem!

notyou311	Cheating is a deal breaker. He has no respect for you if he can cheat on you. Get marriage counseling or end it.

lonewolf1	Find yourself a lover,,,,

Powell D	uhh do wat everybody else does just yell at him and break up

OK_WHATEVER	You don't always have to get divorced, Hillary Clinton didn't divorce Bill for it... just hold it against him forever, you will always be able to whip it out in an argument, and if you see a cute guy you can hook up with him if you want to!

el cid	talk to him about it. Maybe you can put a new spark in your marriage.

Linda B	if he want to cheat on a stranger then become that stranger met up with him in a different out fit. and have fun with it.

Steph	dump him! You deserve better. Then go for a girls night out :)

makinitthru	visit www.marriagebuilders.com and ivillage.com ... there are bulletin boards there with people dealing with this very issue. Hook up with them and find out what they are doing...some have left, some have stayed... make that decision for yourself though...it is always easier for someone that isn't dealing with this issue to say "leave him" or "dump him"... deep down inside may be the man you married but RIGHT now he is being downright disrespectful, a coward, in a fantasy world of his Affair.