My husband is filing for divorce,I needed help I am bipolar & I am getting the treatment & he is still leaving

Kelsey G	Well first off I want to say I am truely sorry you even have to face a problem like this! One piece of advice i can give you is to know that you are getting treatment, that is the first step in this dilemma! You can't make him stay but maybe if he does leave and he sees you are still getting help and trying to become the person you want to be, he may come back to you. Just know you can't make someone love you or stay if they don't want to. You can try to accept the change even though it is terrible, and I promise it will get better. You could maybe suggest to him that maybe move out but not file for divorce yet and see that you are changing, let him see how much you are wanting this relationship. Change cant happen over night and hopefully he knows that. I would really ask for 1 more month or just seperating without divorce for a short time and prove how much you can change and become a happy person again! Good luck

badkitty1969	Are you finally seeking treatment to try to deal with your problem, or are you getting treatment to try to convince your husband to stay with you? Bipolar disorder, or any other emotional or psychiatric problems, are not an excuse for bad behavior or for treating people badly. If your husband has reached the point where he no longer wants to be with you, then that's his decision. He is under no obligation to stay with you just because you promise to get treatment.

hunysuckle08	Talk with him, see if he is willing to put things on hold to be by your side and help you through this tough time and if after you've received the help you needed he still wants to leave then set him free.

marriedandamom	it's probably too late.. you should have gotten treatment before you hit rock bottom. your husband probably has had enough and fell out of love (which is why he is leaving). we really can't get him to stay for you...

well since you asked.	MY SPOUSE IS BIPOLAR AS WELL. BEING MARRIED TO A BIPOLAR SPOUSE IS VERY DIFFICULT TO SAY THE LEAST!!! I CAN TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HIS BEING FED UP WITH IT ALL!! IT COULD TAKE YEARS BEFORE THE RIGHT COMBO OF MEDS IS FOUND THAT WORKS BEST FOR YOU. I CONGRATULATE YOU FOR RECOGNIZING PROBLEM AND SEEKING MEDICAL ATTENTION. MANY WILL/DO NOT.

Lizzie G	One thing you will learn while, "getting help", is that you can not control other people. If you are truly focused on helping yourself, let him go. Take the time in therapy and regulating your bipolar disease. You need to do all that for yourself too, not to get your husband back. You can not be a healthy partner without first being healthy alone. Once you are healthy and strong again, you may be able to work on the issues in your marriage. Those issues will come out with your next partner too. So take the time to work on them with or without your current spouse.

cc	well he should be understanding.... i mean if he loves you he will try hard but I'm sure its hard on him if you guys are always fighting even if someone has a REALLY GOOD excuse for being grumpy or just depressed or whatever(Ive been there) it can still be TOO MUCH for the other person no matter how much they love you... it hurts them too. took me a long time to realize that cause i was only focusing on how much i was going through and how much he WASNT supporting me getting better... and stuff... even though you have this disorter its still really up to you i think.... its really hard to hear it i know...its just a reality check maybe you should just sit down with him and REALLY TELL ME that you wanna try to get better and you are gonna try really hard and stuff and then make the change and stuff... ya know actions speak louder then words... maybe you guys have "talked" about stuff a lot but he doesnt feel like theres a change.. ya know.... good luck i hope it works out =[

Dragonfly	If you are seeking treatment and you are really trying to get better and he is still leaving maybe it is better for you maybe him being around you added to your problems if he loved you so much he would help you get better and stick this out with you tremember the line in your vows for in sickness and in health maybe he doesnt know what that means and knd knows the real value of who you are. There is some one out there that truly loves you and wants you be patient and remember every thing is in Gods time not ours.I hope you get better and take care of your self God bless.

rita	If you are being treated for your bipolar disorder and your husband still wants to leave then there is nothing you can do. You need to concentrate on getting the proper treatment for your condition and also go to counseling for yourself.

austinguurl	What is the question? Questions use words like who? what? Why? Where? How? Your sentence is really a declarative statement with an oddly placed question mark at the end. Here are some relevant questions. Should I seek profession counsuleing? YES Would pharmaceuticals help me? YES How do I begin an exercise program that will life my spirits? Why do I plan a new life without my husband?

Nyssa â™¥	That's very sad, I'm sorry that your husband doesn't understand that you will get better. It may be that all the hurt from when you were sick is too much for him to continue being with you, even if you do get better. Just concentrate on getting better, and when you are more stable, it may be that he is willing to get back together with you. Divorces also take a long time, if you start getting better before the divorce is final, he may change his mind.

It is only my opinion	I am really sorry this is happening to you. I think you should suggest marriage counseling first. You need to ask him why he is giving up on you so quickly. Remind him of the vowels he took. Don't try to play a guilt trick on him, but he did say "For better or for worse." If he leaves, then I really don't think he is worth it any way. I mean, that would just show you he doesn't care enough to help you through your difficult time. You have to talk to him.

BigHammer	Good for him. I'm exactly in the same spot he is at this very moment. I've been married for 3 years (in 3 weeks) to a bipolar drug addict. It is absolutely awful. She's been in several treatment programs without success. The bottom line is her actions are a choice, regardless of a mental condition. My appointment is in 2 days. I can't wait to finally be rid of her.

Bosco	If he is still leaving, you are better off without him. Don't let him mess up your treatment.

Leather and Lace	Sounds like you want to try and use being bipolar as an excuse to try and keep your marriage. Just because you have a disorder doesn't mean he has to stay. Maybe he has just had enough and wants out. Sometimes you can't undo the hurt and pain you've caused.

tlblake84	Fight for your marriage. Get help from a church. See if he'll go to a marriage retreat or a counselor with you.

dgurl	Hi why dont you show him that you can change and prove it to him also show a change in attitude and try to talk it through,gd luck

isaac_leibnitz	I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things work out well for you.

Arieh	What do you expect after you stabbed him while he was sleeping?

MoneyOrder	What do you expect??

Bill	You don't get treatment to make the world into what you want it. You get treatment to make you able to put up with the world the way it is. He has the right to leave. I'm sorry.

nolongerhere	Perhaps you will realise you were misdiagnosed when he slings his hook!

John	Get help for yourself.

STS1SS	Its tough to deal with. If he can't handle it he's not the right guy anyway. May sound cold, but it is true. You can do better.

shamrock girl	What is your question??

lala	Ask him if ya can get consuleling

Keelo Lulu	Sorry to hear that. Try talk to him and tell him you are doing something to change and you need his support.

MR. KRATOS	Sometimes things are beyond repair

bill l	get some help

Get Your Dose Of Mickateen	Are you really getting help, or just feeling sorry for yourself, that your abusiveness cost you a marriage?