My husband keeps talking about having an open marriage says his friend has one i think he wants one?

Back W	Sorry you learned of this ms d... I think he's cheated already and wants to get your approval. I'd be very cautious of this man going forward

ChiChi	Well if you're uncomfortable with it then I think that you should tell him. DO NOT let him talk you into doing something that he wants to do and you don't want to do at all. If both of you don't want it then he needs to respect that and quit acting like some d@mn super-freak! From the looks of things he is scared to ask you because of how he thinks that you will act once he tells you. I think he is interested but doesn't want to make you angry by asking such a thing. Personally, I think that an open marriage is very sick. And that if your not satisfied with just me. Then maybe you don't need me at all. And I should go on about my business and find someone else whom will respect me and want JUST ME for me. That is exactly what I would do. In the bible this is very immorale. This is something similiar to Poligamy. And I think people whom do things like this is very sick. And even after you say no. IF he keeps asking you. Tell him HELL no. He can't make you do anything that you do not want to do. STAND YOUR OWN GROUND! -C

marshallsgirl22	You can't have an open marriage with someone you don't trust or who cheats. It will ruin your marriage.

helly	I find it very funny when men use the term "open marriage" as a euphemism for sleeping around - trying to make the wife into some sort of unadventurous prude for not doing it. Here's what you do: Offer to sleep with his best mate, or brother if he has one, to start the ball rolling. See how excited he is by the idea after that...

kissame	a marriage is between a husband and a wife. not a husband, a wife, and few take alongs. Honey if he can't find he wants and needs in you then your heart has not found a home. There is no way that your husband that truly loves you could want to have another women or man inside his marriage, and be ok with it! come on now, he's about to play you real good. and you should not suffer through it for second. Push that lame to the left!

xlovealways3	dont do an open marriage. your marriage will be done in no time.

ndnqt1966	Listen to your gut...He probably has cheated on you...and this is his way to absolve himself from guilt....My first husband and I lived an alternative lifestyle...It ultimately ended our marriage...

Nena S	Sounds to me like your husband doesn't love you, and is asking you this so you will "get it"...and ask for a divorce. An "open marriage" IS NOT a marriage at all! It's just an excuse to do things that are not smart, or healthy, or morally right.

nikkinics	If he wants an open marraige, why did he get married?. Sounds like he's bored and looking for trouble. Don't do anything for a man that your not comfortable with.

kitkat	If he has cheated then he needs to be thrown to the curb and open marriage is just code for " I want to cheat" with your permission... He is married, not single, tell him to stop acting like he is....

SueVanDouser	i wish my husband wanted an open marriage. except id want it to be open for me, but not him haha.

Shavon	Open marriages open the floodgates to a ton of problems. Why get married if you want to screw around and why stay married if you want other people? How does a open marriage benefit your relationship? I suggest you put your foot down and say no and if he feels the need to seek affections elsewhere then get out. He is obviously not done being a bachelor.

babycakes	Why be married then? Stay single so you go have random romps with other people. He probably just wants you around so you can help pay bills, keep the house clean and have the comforts of a wife.

ScripRx	Ask him if he is going to get his mud packed. If not, no way.

#1 Due on 12/22/08!	If you do not agree, and have proof that he is cheating , first i would be 100% open and honest with him, and tell him how you are feeling, then seek help from counseling, if that does not work, or he refuses, i would get a divorce, no one deserves to be treated like that, a marriage is between ONE man and ONE women,,,and that is all

motisbetter	Does it bother you? If being in a monogamous relationship is what you want, tell him that. However he takes it, thats how it is. You do what you need to be happy. If not, go make whoopy.

Audrey King	omg dont fall for that bull crap, that is not a marriage, that is getting together with a bunch a people and living with one of them. Come on be realistic. If you do this you cant seriously consider it a marriage, maybe legally, but not technically. Also, does this guy no anything about love? Its going to hurt both you guys to see yourselves with someone else youll see

Dude	Open the door and tell him to go for it. Then change the locks.

MonaLisa Overdrive AM VT wannabe	Sounds like your choice is between an open marriage, no marriage, or a marriage filled with lies and deception. The decision should be pretty easy.

Lisa G	Tell him that he is not his friend Tell him that his friend is playing a difficult game that will probably end in divorce Let him know that if he needs to be with someone else...that he needs to let you go first.

Ruby Red	I would confront him on this matter. And if you are against the hole idea of an open marriage, explain to him what marriage to you means. See if after that his opinion changes. Sometimes its just a male fantasy to have a marriage like that, but could he really deal with you being with another man or is he just thinking of himself.

STFU_0123	If he hasnt already cheated, unfortunatly he probaly will. Because if your not comfortable having an open relationship and hes longing for one, why wouldnt he go ahead and pursue an affair? I wouldnt really trust him right now. Confront him on how you feel about the situation.

retroactivism	Shut him down immediately. An 'Open' marriage is no marriage at all. Make it clear to him that cheating is not an option and describe how it will damage your relationship with him.

mila	Do u want an open marriage? If not, express to him how u feel, and if he is persistant i would leave ( i didn't say divorce, at least not yet)

AnswerDude	Divorce him! Unless you are into it too!

Janessa	Personally, get a divorce and find someone that cares about you and not who else he can sleep with. That's just my opinion though....

strawberryice_lb	UGH that is bad news! No way would I do it!

redpeach_mi	unless this is something that you want to do, then tell him no. basically he's telling you that he wants to sleep with other people and not have you be mad about it. if you think that he has already cheated, then get some proof and decided what you are going to do from there.