My husband of 8 yrs confessed to cheating(he said they only kissed) Should I forgive him or move on?

skylineturbo246	kick him to the curve

gdoggone	forgive but warn him it is not acceptable

jacdog61	If it was only a kiss...let it go, but if he smells like fresh soap........

flowergirl	Move on....he will probably do it again...Don't believe it was just kissin! Tell him u been thinkin of being w/ somebody else for a longgg time & u glad he told u that cause it makes it easier for u to go through w/ it. See how it likes that!

whynotaskdon	If you bother to say Good Bye is up to you----------- SPLIT!

steelman512005	How can you forgive someone for cheatting on you. He's wants his cake and eat it to. It would coast too much for him to leave you.

nursetech	If my husband kissed a girl I wouldn't be able to forgive him it not right I mean he well think its OK she'll forgive me again if I do it and he'll keep thinking that so it sounds like he is getting Bord at home he is opening up to that girl at work and its going to lead in to more then just a kiss I hope you can forgive him you have to be a strong person to forgive your husband for cheating I wasn't'

Sunflower	DUMP HIM, ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!

Peach Godiva	stay and work through this. it is not the worse that could happen. Doesn't your relationship mean more to you than a kiss?

mesadivad	leave that n i g g a

Big-Sister	It's hard to say yes or no to a question like this. Ask yourself if you forgive him, will you be suspicious of him afterwards? Whenever you forgive someone, you aren't supposed to keep bringing up the subject or keep being suspicious of them. So can you forgive and forget? I did forgive my man and basically forgot it (never mentioned it to him again)...and it's worked out. I know he is true to me now....7 years later.

dazed&confused	Initially one would want to say yes forgive, after all he did not really act on his feelings and was honest enough, and trusted you enough to tell you about it, and its good you can be that open with each other, on the other hand the fact the incidents happened 3 years apart from each other, does suggest he has some ongoing issues regarding his commitments to your marriage, I think I would say once is a mistake , more than once is a habit, if you do forgive him. I would let him know a third time he's out and the game is over.

wonderwoman	It really depends on you. I will tell you that the chances of him cheating again are high. If it would have been you confessing, do you think he would say, " Well, she only kissed."---- I don't think so !!! We can all give you ideas on what to do, but we will not live with your decision. Analyze the pros and cons. My thought, get him out of your life because you will be miserable eventually when he has another affair and it's more than "just kissing". He'll figure you forgave one time, what the heck, you'll forgive again. I'm for marriage if it can be worked out, but I'm not for it when you will not be happy in it. If you forgive him, will you be able to trust him 100%? Or will you be killing yourself thinking and wondering what he is doing when he is not close to you, or who is calling him, or why he is late coming home, was it really the traffic or overtime? Think, think, be cool,calm and collected. Your answer is within you. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5525_qa.html you might want to check this website.

sugarbud	Suuuuure....they "only kissed". I'll bet he's not telling you the whole story. I would make him take a lie detecter test on the Dr. Phil Show!!!!!

daniel a	you need to ask yourself if you truly can forgive him, meaning let it go, doesn't sound that bad, a mistake, but there may be more, you need to be communicating with him, and give yourself a little time to decide

Flagger	Why did he tell you this? It was obviously an attempt to get some kind or response or just to hurt. It might have been an attempt, ill conceived, to get you to pay more attention. This might be a job for a therapist.

dbmerchandise@sbcglobal.net	3 Years ago is a long time why would you even put your fate in people's hands who do not know you or may not even care some people on here are mad at their spouses cause they can't have what they want so they take it out on others .....Instead of giveing sound advise .....I've had 12 and 13 year olds on here try'n to give me advise ....You are grown act like it.8years and you could just leave believe it or not he is the same man you married .....I am sure he was like this before yall got married .....Most men never change but that's whay love is blind....Cause yall choose to not see what's going on till it's too late....For real grow up and quit asking life altering questions online to people who may lead you down a path you may later regret.

Twilight	Honey you need to find someone else. Some one who really loves you.

ramona	If you still love each other. . . definitely forgive him. As long as you're happy with each other, try to ignore his confessions, whether they're accurate or not. If he seemed to have done it more than once, its a clear indication he'll do it again. . . but hey, all men do this when they get the opportunity. . even if you're the perfect wife.

a_chic45102	depends on ur realtionship and marriage if u r not going to get over it then divorce him.... it takes time to get over this so figure out what u need to and i wish u the best of luck

sparkling_apple	Why would he feel so guilty f it was only a kiss? I would question this more. I think that if you still love your husband and think it can work, then try. But remember he cheated on you and who's to say he won't do it again.

connelly198133	You can cheat on him.Have a Male escort over and F the **** out of him

heartwhisperer2000	Okay there are a few things I am unclear of. Did you find out or did he tell you on his own. It sounds as if you found out and he finally confessed. What is he going to say.......ma'am it was probably more than just a kiss. I know that hurts a lot and maybe it wasn't. But a kiss is just as passionate and is not what he should be doing. ' I am also guessing that there may be other problems in the marraige at this time. It sounds as if he is being unfaithful. He surely isn't acting in a way that promotes healthy relationships with the two of you.

jaimestar64cross	You can forgive him but remember that doesn't mean you have to stay with him... he doesn't sound to stable in the relationship area

rsnurse2005	ok he already is dishonest because he already cheated...so how do you know all they did was just kiss....every case is different... is he truely regretfully sorry by his actions??.....do you really think u can trust this man again???.... trust must be earned and not given immediately.... you can forgive him but wish him well at the same time as he is walking out the door... 2 times now so i doubt if they only kissed, men dont usually just kiss....

X	you have to forgive him.

reallybig_whatever	I always try to put myself in the other persons shoes and what I've come up with is that I can't!. I would be extremely hurt even tho it was just a kiss! I can't tell you what to do because I don't know what to do. I hope that the both of you could move on from this and build a stronger more loving relationship.